(Closed) What’s the tackiest / most cliche BM gift?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What's the tackiest / most cliche BM gift? (you can pick more than one)
    Matching jewelry to wear at the wedding : (24 votes)
    12 %
    Personal grooming items (compact mirrors, makeup, lip gloss, nail polish) : (15 votes)
    7 %
    Flip flops : (19 votes)
    9 %
    Anything personalized with the bride and groom's name : (93 votes)
    46 %
    Picture frames : (13 votes)
    6 %
    Self pampering gift certificates (spas, manicures, etc) : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Purses, clutches, totes, wallets, luggage, bags : (6 votes)
    3 %
    Any type of food item : (7 votes)
    3 %
    Flasks, mugs, or other drink holders : (25 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’ve never ever re-worn any jewelry gifted to me as a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Also, and this is in general not just restricted to Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts, why do I want anything with the bride and groom’s name on it? More specifically as a Bridesmaid or Best Man gift, how is that a gift for me? Shouldn’t a gift have MY name on it if you’re personalizing things as a gift for thanking me for being your BM? I’ve never actually gotten something like that but if I did I’d be like, errr THANKS! and then store it away somewhere until I ultimately throw it out.

    Just my .02

    Post # 4
    2208 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I really, really don’t like gifts with the Bride and Groom’s names and wedding date on them.

    I also think jewelry for the wedding is cliche, but not so annoying if it is rewearable.

    Post # 5
    647 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I wish people would shop for bridesmaid gifts like they were shopping for their friend’s birthday.  Why are the gifts always wedding themed or related??

    Post # 6
    4382 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    I’m not a big fan of the lotion/body stuff category. I feel like the gifts are best done when it’s something that can be kept and used over and over! 🙂

    Post # 7
    5823 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I would love to receive anything on that list except for something with the Bride & Groom’s name on it.  I don’t really understand why that would be special for the bridal party?  Not sure why you’d give a Bridesmaid or Best Man a flask, but I think they’re great for groomsman.  Also not so sure that a wedding day survival kit is a Bridesmaid or Best Man gift…shouldn’t that be for the bride?  A Bridesmaid or Best Man isn’t likely to have a catastrophic wardrobe malfunction…and if she does she probably won’t care like the bride would.

    I don’t wear jewelry, but I’d still like whatever I was given.  It’s nice!
    You can never have enough manicure kits or mirrored compacts!
    Flip flops could be cute at a beach location or to wear at a long reception
    Picture frames can be cute if personalized for the Bridesmaid or Best Man
    I would LOVE a gift certificate to a spa!
    Can’t ever have too many purses
    Food: Depending on it, it’s a cool gift, and you can’t say you never used it LOL
    As long as it isn’t the SOLE gift, I think a cute Bridesmaid or Best Man tank to wear while prepping is cool

    Post # 8
    7053 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I know I’d personally love the jewelry I’m gifting my bm’s b/c it’s not faux, it’s real!  I’d also like something except for a piece of kitsch with the bride and grooms’ names on it.

    Everything on that list was good by me!

    I know of one gal who back in the day, got gifted from the bride (back in the 90’s), her dyed to match shoes to wear with the awful, ugly taffeta bm dress.  Now could she wear a pair of dyed to match shoes around again except for with that ugly dress?  No offense, but much of the 90’s bm dresses were imho, not rather attractive.


    Post # 9
    5154 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Maybe i’m cheesy but I love all of those!! Except I am sure I wouldn’t really use something with the couples names/date/etc on it so that is my least fav…everything else though, I love!

    Post # 11
    314 posts
    Helper bee

    I too would love any of those Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts (maybe not something with the B & G names on it) its the thought that counts!!

    Post # 12
    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I saw someone get a tote for her bridesmaid and had them personilized with the BRIDESMAIDS’ name on it and I thought that was really cute. You are trying to make them feel special for being there for you so I think getting their name on it is a better idea.

    Post # 13
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I hate anything that is focused on the wedding- I mean, it’s like saying “here’s a gift that you can use for the next 5 hours, but probably won’t ever use again!”  So I would include anything with the couple’s name on it, anything with the word “bridesmaid” on it, anything to wear on the wedding day that doesn’t match the BM’s personal style…. In my opinion if you want all your ladies to wear the same jewelry or shoes, that’s fine, but it probably isn’t the best gift if it’s something they would never ever wear on their own.

    I’m also not a huge fan of things personalized with my name, because I don’t really have a lot of use for totes or bathrobes, etc. but I don’t see them as being as bad, because at least they are about the person rather than about the wedding, if you know what I mean…

    Post # 14
    2404 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    i’m not huge fan of personalized initials on gifts and such, but i love the idea of spa gift certificates!! i would never get sick of that as a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

    i agree though, its the thought that counts. If you can come up with gifts that reflect the personalities of your girls, then whatever you get they will love and appreciate.

    Post # 16
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    I would have to say the most cliche is jewelry. Everyone talks about how jewelry is the only acceptable Bridesmaid or Best Man gift, but yet if you ask for alternatives, then the alternative choice given is always jewelry. Meanwhile countless women who have been bridesmaids say they never wear the jewelry after the wedding day and that it collects dust, when the bride purchased it to wear after the wedding. The same people say that “jewelry is the only acceptable gift”. In either of those scenarios, you cannot have both. Pretty much anything in a catalog specifically for Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts could easily be considered cliche but jewelry is at the top of the list.

    At the same time, people get very offended when you suggest to shop for attendants as though it were Christmas or their birthday and get them something non-wedding related that fits their everyday interests that they are able to enjoy long after the wedding is over. Why is that so offensive? Makes no sense.

     In addition, there are some people who think it can’t come from a vendor other than Tiffany for example which is very expensive and honestly, all you are paying for is the name because there is nothing else distinctive about their designs that you can’t find elsewhere. But for something that will only be worn once if at all, that is alot of cash to blow, even on just one bridesmaid.

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