Post # 16
For us it was the LDR for a year. I struggled with that quite a bit, and I wish I had been stronger and better natured about it. Thankfully, D.H. is a patient soul. Personally I’ve also struggled with trust and not being afraid of men, due to my relationship with my father. D.H. has again been patient with me on that, and he’s proven time and time again that he’s a great guy.
Post # 18
Snow Puppy didn’t seem to come through on my last post.
Post # 19
All your posts are so touching- some of them brought tears to my eyes. Thank you so much for opening up and sharing. It’s encouraging to see so many strong couples facing and tackling challenges of all kinds. *hugs*
Post # 21
Hands down, the two years of long distance.
I am glad we went through it though. It forced us to communicate better, learn more about each other, and have us grow as people. By putting such effort into our relationship we knew for sure we were going to be together long term and it led to our marriage. No regrets.
Post # 22
My Fiance and I had been dating for less than a year (nine months) when my grandmother died very suddenly. She had been cleared to go home after extended observation following her surgery and had a stroke that night before going to bed. She was the matriarch and the family glue, so it was devastating. Fiance had to meet all of my extended family under these somber conditions and was swept up into funeral planning, division of heirlooms, cleaning out the house, and moving my grandfather into a new home. He was—and still is—such a trooper through all of this. I’m really glad my grandmother met him before she died.
Also somewhere in there I had a complete mental breakdown from career pressure. Glad he still decided to propose after all that.. 😂
Post # 23
Unfortunately, illness. Last August, Fiance was getting ready for work when he noticed that his entire left arm was purple. At the emergency room, they discovered a blood clot in his subclavical vein and then a CAT scan confirmed that the clot had also traveled to his lung. They put him on blood thinners right away, but then it was an odessey trying to figure out the underlying issue. After spending days googling, we suspected that he had veinous Padget’s Syndrome and begged THE expert in this rare disorder at John’s Hopkins’ to take an appointment for him. Apparently, if you don’t take care of the problem within a very short time period (days), you can lose the use of your arm. Thankfully, the doctor took him, confirmed the diagnosis, and he had surgery right away to remove his first rib on the left side, which was compressing his vein and causing the clot. Fiance is an avid guitar player and thought of losing the use of his arm terrified him and he was in a very dark place for a while and in terrible pain after the surgery. Thank goodness, the doctor gave him strong opiates and muscle relaxers and didn’t cite the addiction of others as a reason to keep him in unbearable pain. Even with the drugs, he often woke up in pain and discomfort.
There were times when his pessimism would really get to me. I didn’t know how to help him when he was “sure” he would lose the use of his arm and when he was “sure” he had developed another clot. It is largely behind us now. He had an angioplasty about a month after the initial surgery to pump up the damaged vein. The doctor wants to see him one last time in January and if all is OK, he will be released from monitoring. That was a trying time.
Post # 24
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
LDR for 6 years
The death of my father
The death of his father
His brother’s divorce and subsequent living with us for 1 year
The brain cancer diagnosis and loss of our beloved French bulldog
The death of his grandmother
Moving across the country
Post # 25
For us it was an untreated mental illness that lead to a cocaine addiction. He went to rehab and we have been working on it ever since. Together for 8 years so I wanted to support him even though I know others would say to run. For me it has been worth the struggle now that he is mentally well thanks to rehab and ongoing therapy.