(Closed) Whats the worst thing your FMIL has said to you?

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wow, there’s a lot but I’m going to go with a toss up between….is the reason black people don’t swim is because black people do not float? And referring to me as a negro.

Post # 47
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wow. My Future Mother-In-Law is always super nice to me. I’m sorry you bees are having problems with yours! 🙁 My mother, on the other hand, is not super excited…

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

for me it would have to be when she told me ” i dont care if he becomes Catholic, but i am not, dont expect me to go to your church or take any part in your religion”. My jaw literally hit the ground. Fi father is catholic and they even got married in a catholic church!

Post # 49
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m actually really good friends with my Mother-In-Law, and have not had any problems at all with her. I consider myself really lucky in that our families have welcomed each of us with open arms.  Even his mom (MIL = FIL’s FI) hasn’t said anything negative, she just doesn’t have a filter and embarasses hubs all the time. Luckily, we rarely talk to her

Post # 50
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Hm… my Future Mother-In-Law hit me in the face with a ball of wrapping paper (it was Christmas time), and about an hour later told me I had a big butt. …that was after complimenting my FI’s brother’s baby-mama on how she maintained her figure during her unplanned pregnancy at 19 years old… after having filed a restraining order against FI’s brother. … … … His family is twisted.

The best is that even after all her snarky comments, she sent me an email– “I’m so happy you’re marrying my son. I truly feel you complete him. I wish we were closer!!” … … …Maybe think before you speak and act and then maybe we can have a relationship. Yes, I am bitter.

…Perhaps I should preface this with the fact that I cut my own mother out of my life, and I refuse to take crap from anyone else’s mother.

Wow, I sound like a bitch. I just don’t feel that being “family” gives anyone the right to belittle or be mean to someone, especially a daughter or DIL.

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I actually get on with my Future Mother-In-Law well, the only think that bugs me is she talks about money constantly. For instants, the Mr bought me a very beautiful bag for my 21st birthday / Christmas present, and she proceeded to spend the day telling EVERYONE how much it costs. Now I know this is just a difference in families. Mine tends not to talk about money much, his does all the time. I try not to let it bother me, but struggle to see it as anything other than rude. Especially when it’s regarding a gift! But I guess I’m just going to have to get used to it.

Post # 52
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Future Mother-In-Law is a wonderful woman. She is just set in her ways and is extremely controlling. She thinks that our wedding is her party and she is the one deciding everything. I wouldn’t mind so much if she was paying for the wedding but she is not. My Fiance and I are. It doesn’t matter how many times I tell her I don’t like something or that its my day she always has to turn it around to herself. For example she told us we are required to invite all of her friends! agh!!!

 

Post # 53
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m doing two services. One Catholic for her and a Buddhist for my father.

She doesn’t want to attend the Buddhist one.  It’s not the worst thing in the world, but we don’t look like a united family if DH’s side of the family isn’t there.

It’s more of an insult to my parents than it is to us, really.  My parents are going to both.

 

 

Post # 54
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Mrs.Elivs:  OMG lawgirl!  hoW IN THE…  how do you deal?

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Lawgirl – That’s absolutely dreadful. You’re better than I am, I would have found something equally as racist to say to her!

Always got on well with my MIL but she has recently annoyed me by calling me once I’d spent 2 weeks negociating a price on my dream venue and saying ‘that date isn’t good for us? Could you do….. instead’. Um, no.

Post # 56
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81 posts
Worker bee

I showed her a pic of my wedding gown from the designer’s website & she said “oh”. Thats it. “Oh”.

Post # 57
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

One minute she will tell me it’a my wedding and I can do whatever I want. .The next minute she will try and plan the wedding. She keeps telling me how hers was. It 2011!

Post # 58
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

mine can be pretty aweful and almost been a deal breaker. she never says anything to my face but Fiance and I share a phone so whenever she thinks she is texting him she says that if he stays with me she will never forgive him, or as long as you are with that fat c*** you arent considered my son. All because she stole money from me and i called her out on it and i let my FSIL’s caseworker know about her and her boyfriends continuous drug use. i didnt say anything for 2 months but her caseworker called me and wanted to talk because someone else had called, luckily Fiance knows everything that ive said and done cuz im not in school right now so we are always together and he supports me 100% on everything and told them that.

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wow I can’t believe how mean some Mother-In-Law can be! I actually like my fiances family but they do bug me ALOT! I don’t think theyre ever trying to be malicious, but they are very hypocritical and self righteous. 

I am having a destination wedding in New Orleans and his mom had the nerve to call Fiance and cry to him about how New Orleans is a town of sinners and she doesnt feel comfortable in that city with all the bad things people do down there…. I was completely speechless.  She lives in Salt Lake City, UT so everywhere else outside of Utah is bad.  I was so upset when she said that. Fi proposed to me in New Orleans so its very special to us.

She also got very pissed that we are having a destination wedding because a lot of their extended family wont be able to make it.  Secretly I’m thinking this is why we decided to have one lol. Their family can just be so judgemental.  i will not tolerate anyone judging my family because we dont share the same beliefs. So my argument to her when she talks about people not being able to make it is that when we took off all this time for Fiance brothers wedding (we live 5 hours away) that we did not even get to see his brother being married because we were not allowed in the temple. Friends that went to high school got to go see the wedding but not his BROTHER!!! (they are super close) just because we are not the same religion. Thats a crock.  So I honestly don’t care if great aunt jane who ive never met will be there. 

She also constantly complains that we do not visit enough! We  visit about once every 3 months when we can get the time off of work.  It also costs us at least $150 in gas to drive there not including any other expenses.  I mean we do our best to get up there but right now money is tight so we cant go up every month.  She cries on the phone saying shes depressed cause we dont care about her. Seriously?? They have visited us 3 x out of the 4 years we have been together!! 3X!!! We even moved to Salt Lake for about a year to try and make them happy and the whole time we lived about 15 min from them they didnt ever once visit us!! We invited them over sooo many times for pool parties, dinner, hanging out, we even invited them to have Thanksgiving dinner with us but they said they wanted to see if their neighbors were going to have dinner with them instead.  When I finally got fed up and asked what the freak was going on she responded by telling me that Fiance and I are living together before marriage which is a sin and they dont want any other members of their family to see that and get ideas that living together is “ok.” 

So basically I am done caring and I just do what I want and they can come along if they want and if not then they can suck it. lol

Post # 60
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ve been trying to lose weight, its been a slow process, but I am down a bit.  When we all went to buy my dress, I was smack in between two sizes, and so I picked the smaller of the two, knowing that it was only a 10 lbs. difference for it to fit perfectly.  Recently Future Mother-In-Law made a comment about my weight to my mom, and said “I knew she should have ordered the bigger size.”  Um, ouch.  My poor mom had no idea how to respond.

But otherwise she’s been pretty much ok….

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