Post # 92
We don’t usually say hurtful things to eachother when we fight, we do our best to keep it productive instead of ripping eachother apart. But, there was one time when he said ‘you’re acting just like your mother right now!’ and man oh man did I flip shit. Not only am I super protective over her but I also know I have her terrible attitude, so to be told that by him pissed me off royaly. I learned quickly how to make sure I fix my awful attitude!
Post # 93
My Fi and I had a rough start to our relationship. I’m a stubborn bitch (my friends think its endearing loL. Im totally the “if you can’t say something nice, come sit by me” girl) and he is older and set in his ways. We spent the first year of our relationship screaming it out- super unhealthy, and I can’t believe we stayed together. Actually, we did break up and then got back together. Since we got back together, we have both gotten better at communicating, during times of peace and anger. If he is being an ass, I just tell him, and if I’m being a bitch, he tells me. We don’t take it as name-calling, more of a quick reality check for the otheR person.
But to answer your question, he told me, during an argument, that I would be happy when his dad died cause then he wouldn’t spend time with him anymore. That really hurt cause I was wanting him to spend more time with me, and it got twisted to sound like I was not wanting him to spend time with his dad. I love his dad! We talked that one out immediately!
Post # 94
“You’re being your mother again!!” – when I’m angry, and like my mother, my ears turn off and I don’t hear a word he says and I just keep yelling.
“You really are a fucking bitch sometimes!” – haven’t heard that one since. It stung a lot.
Post # 95
“Shut the **** up!”
That did not go over well. He has never said that again.
Post # 96
Fi calls me lazy. hes never called me names or swore at me, but he calls me lazy…. and unfortunatly its kinda true. i like to relax… a lot… whats wrong with that? lol
Post # 97
years ago: “you sound just like your mother”
my response: whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?!!!!!!!!
he hasn’t said it since.
Post # 98
Oh man. Why did I even click on this?! Interesting read though.
Post # 99
He was driving me crazy because he kept breaking plans with me to hang out with his brother, because his brother was getting jealous of all the time we were spending together and would guilt trip him into hanging out with him. I was getting really fed up with the way he kept catering to his brother’s childish behavior and told him via text that I was concerned by the way he was handling the situation, and it was making me rethink us living together. Yes, it was kind of a cheap shot, but it was based in truth by the way he was acting. He responded with: “I’m going to pretend you didn’t just make such an immature and self-centered comment.”
First of all, he had never called me names before, let alone immature and self centered, when the one who was actually being immature and self centered was his brother. It’s not like his brother is 8 or 9 either. He’s 21. My SO is 25. It really stung that he said that, because I was voicing a genuine concern about living together, and yet I’m the immature and self-centered one? He apologized, but it was one of those “Really?” moments.
Last night he moved out, and his brother picked a fight with him right before he was supposed to leave and ended up making him hours late. When he got to my apartment with his stuff he said, “You know, I think my brother is just doing this to get attention…”
…facepalm. Yes, sweetie. Yes he is.
Post # 100
My ex told me he wished I would go cut my throat, called me a whore, hussy, bitch, what else… List goes on lol. So glad I’m out of that crap now. He ended it because I tried shisha, one of the most dumbest reasons for ending it ever I think…
Post # 101
We don’t live together yet, and I primarily hang at his house, because I live with my grandmother. When we fight the worst thing he does is seperates himself but after 5 years I know that it’s best to let him cool off downstairs in his room or outside working on his car…few hours and we talk it out normally and are OK.
The phrase he says that gets under my skin when we used to fight (before we were engaged) was “go home” . Uhk!
Post # 102
” you’re acting just like My ex”. I’m pretty sure my head turned around like the exorcist when I heard those words come out. He slept on the couch.