(Closed) What's the worst wedding etiquette mistake you've encountered?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 481
3285 posts
Sugar bee

Yeah, I was pretty pissed that she sent us a PHOTO of the invitation. We were like, REALLY!? That alone set things off on the wrong foot with us. Just stick a stamp on it and post it!!! SO & I were living together at the time too so… Ugh, honestly this ‘friend’ seemed to receive a stick up her ass the minute she got a ring on her finger. We are no longer friends and I’m glad, she acts as though she is above everyone who isn’t engaged or married. Goodbye, good riddance I say lol.

Post # 482
85 posts
Worker bee

TheLadyA:  I have to side with Jily at this point. I’ve been watching this thread for bit, I’m new (Just got engaged). Jily responded to a post and while Im not agreeing with her shes been cool will you. Now youre like trying to bully her nonstop, its kind mean!

Post # 483
27 posts
  • Wedding: March 2016

PorcelainBelle:  At least you didn’t have to buy a gift and cover your plate 😉

Post # 484
1731 posts
Bumble bee

LexieBEE1986:  I’m not bullying anyone. I’m sorry you feel that way. 

Post # 485
27 posts
  • Wedding: March 2016

TheLadyA:  Yes, I’m glad you mentioned that.

Apples and oranges. Not wearing proper attire to a formal function isn’t the same as the embassy expecting the invited guest to cover his or her plate of dinner, drinks or refreshments.

People who “host” birthday parties or anniversary parties and then expect the guest to pay their own way. That’s not hosting, people. If you want to gather some people together and everyone is paying their own way, I’m fine with that. But please don’t tell me you’re “hosting” when you’re not. Hosting means you provide everything. If you want to throw a potluck, have at it. But don’t tell me you’re hosting and don’t tell me anything to bring except a general category like a vegetable dish or a pasta dish – if you tell me you want Beef Wellington for 40, I’ll pass. If you want to throw a party you’re hosting, the onus is on you to provide the place, the drinks and the food. You get to decide what level of hospitality you’re willing to provide. Don’t expect your friends and supposed invited guests to cater it unless it’s clear it’s a potluck affair. And potluck is just that. If you get thirty potato salads, 2 liters of Coke, and a package of napkins that is what you get and hence the name potluck.

Post # 486
27 posts
  • Wedding: March 2016

TheLadyA:  I agree. We obviously disagree with jily but no one, including her, has been nasty about it.

Post # 487
399 posts
Helper bee

PorcelainBelle:  if you were living together than it is very rude to no invite your bf. I think all sides of the SO invite etiquette argument agree cohabitaters are a unit. She doesn’t sound very gracious. 

Post # 488
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We attended a large wedding and were seated at something like table 16/16. They must have planned for the farthest few tables to be cleared when the dancing was scheduled to begin, but didn’t account for the possibility of running behind schedule. We were some of the first people in line for dessert on the other side of the giant ballroom, but upon returning we find our whole table cleared, our (paid-for-in-cash) drinks and silverware are all gone, and the table is in the process of being physically removed. Thankfully the chairs weren’t gone yet and I found my clutch still sitting on mine. Everyone from our table and possibly one or two others had to eat dessert while standing in the hall outside the ballroom, because we were already holding the full plates by the time we realized our tables were gone. I dropped my [replacement] fork + a piece of cheesecake onto my shoe because I was struggling to balance my plate, water glass, clutch, jacket, and fork. 

Post # 489
927 posts
Busy bee

Taeyers:  oh dear, that would not have been pleasant at all. But I’d blame the venue for that, I’m guessing the couple didn’t intend for that to happen. 

Post # 490
125 posts
Blushing bee

TheLadyA:  Bahaha, I could make a small fortune if that were the case! (in response to the cartoon)

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 6 months ago by  sarizzle.
Post # 491
23593 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Okay, you guys, it seems like we could all use a time out of this conversation.  I’m going to close this thread and suggest you all go and enjoy what’s left of your Sunday nights!  Thanks!

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