- 8 years ago
At first I was like yes, invite them, but then I re-read your post. I think I would’ve said yes if the friends had the decency to call you in an appropriate amount of time to let you know that they were not going to be able to make your wedding. Clearly their excuses weren’t emergencies and this isn’t a birthday party, this is your WEDDING. Hopefully you will only get married once, so it’s a big deal. I’m not saying that to be funny or sarcastic, but i’m saying that because with a birthday you get other chances at redemption. To me, that’s not the case with a wedding. I also understand what everyone else is saying about how Destination Wedding can be very tricky etc, but like I said, if they had told you well in advance that they couldn’t make it, then i’m sure you would understand and wouldn’t be as mad as you are about the situation. People plan in advance, and people can look at their finances and decipher rather they can take a trip or not…UNLESS like I said it was an emergency. So now you are suppose to invite them to your reception so that they can eat up your food and drink up your free alchohol? Sorry, not I. To me actions speak louder than words….and how you treat me and our friendship will tell me exactly how you feel about me. I had what is considered a life altering event where I had to decide what you are deciding right now…and in the end. She had a pattern…..and I had to let her go because she wasn’t a true friend. She was friends out of opportunity, and we were great when I was doing things for her and supporting her, but not so great when I needed her. You have to decide rather these friends are the ones that have a pattern. I’m having a destination wedding, but we’re not inviting ANYONE..lol. It’s me, him, the preacher, and God because I want to avoid any situations like this or close to this and then we’ll have a reception afterwards as well. I’m sorry you have to go through this, but I do hope it works itsself out in the end the way you want it to. Good luck to you!