Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2010 - Family Lake House
OK, so my Fiance and I started out looking for sites that stayed open late. I merged it into work time by writing a story about late-night or 24 hr. businesses for Entrepreneur Magazine, where I’m an editor. I found a lot of sites, but overall they were the minority. One in Mendocino lets you party until 2 a.m. Private estates and rentals it’s up to you. A site in Lake County, CA lets you rent it for 24 hours for a whopping 24k.
Now I’ve fallen in love with a site in Los Gatos where most of my family lives called Nestldown, and they INSIST the last dance end at 10 p.m. and guests leave at that time as well. There are no exceptions. Nearby hotels could work as an afterparty.
What do you think of this conundrum that sites shut you down at such an atrociously early hour? Do you think this calls for a revolution or sorts by brides to call on venues to stay open later? I mean, c’mon, Nestldown does have a few neighbors, but it’s in the middle of 30 acres of property and in a barn where sound doesn’t travel.
I’m just wanting options here. Should I write an article about how there’s definitely a market for this? It seems like if a site marketed the fact that it caters to the Euro-party-all-night style wedding, it would garner a lot of attention. But web searches yeild next to nothing. Either someone doesn’t know their SEO, or there simply is an untapped, niche market here!
So, I feel a story coming on…
Anyway, feel free to voice your opinions, and share some afterparty tips! (Is providing a shuttle to the afterparty 100 percent necessary?)
Post # 3
Hmmm. Well. My venue has the same policy yours does about the curfew- but it is related to "noise ordinance". And our venue is also removed from other neighbors/businesses etc. I think a lot of locations have various ordinances to follow due to their location (example Napa, Dana Point, Laguna Beach to name a few)… & it ties in with their permits & insurance coverage… (such as for serving alchol after a certain time). (I wonder if it is probably part conspiracy if your function goes over a certain time, they can charge over time fees as well for more money.)
I feel your frustration. I was shocked at first, but when we kept coming up on a road block of curfews elsewhere we just shrugged and went with it.
An after party seems like a nice lil alternative though. Something fun to look forward to. =o)
Post # 4
Write a story about it! I fully support that idea! Our venue took forever to find, and one of our criteria was a late "curfew" that went past 11:00. The one we are usuing will let us party with music until 11:30 – not the best, but a start. I can understand that lots of people go to bed early, and not all our guests will want to stay late. But if our reception is supposed to be a party celebrating our marrage, then we want it to feel like a party! For us (and a lot of people we know) that means a late night.
Post # 5
We’re in the same boat because our venue is part of the parks system. That’s why we’re having such a loosely structured reception without a cocktail hour or a sit-down dinner — we want as much "party time" as possible.
Post # 6
My reception went from 5:30 to 9:30 and that was more than enough time for me and my guests (this surprised me, but it was). I had been going since the early morning and I was spent. Afterwards we all went to my parents house where I opened presents (departed on the honeymoon from my out-of-state wedding the next morning, so I wanted to open them before I left), so the party sort of continued there. I think people partied at their hotel rooms afterward if they were so inclined. Lots of people had early flights out the next day though and wanted to go home early. It all worked out.
Post # 7
WRITE THAT STORY!!! Ours ended at 10pm in San Jose and that’s when I finally got the time to sit and when I could have started dancing, but then the night was over. I don’t know about the guests, but I would have liked at least the extra hour just to enjoy myself and not feel so rushed. Afterall, I did pay A LOT of money for my wedding and would have liked to enjoy myself as much as the guests.
Post # 8
We had this problem too, and I’m glad to hear it isn’t just a local problem. I’ve really enjoyed friends’ weddings where the party went late, and I’m glad we found a venue that lets us stay until midnight. I think this will be perfect for us. I just seems weird to have everyone leave right after the sun goes down (9:30pm here in July).
Side comment: Your potential venue, Nestldown, looks SO beautiful and serene in the pictures I’ve seen on my photographer’s website.
Post # 9
My reception is going to be until midnight, and I have the option of extending it that night if I choose (by paying the staff, DJ and an extra hour of open bar).
I think that a lot of locations have these so-called curfews. They say that it is because of noise ordinances or venue rules, but basically I think they prefer to shut down the party to avoid drunken and unruly party-goers. The later the party, the more opportunity for it to get out of control. Personally, I don’t think this is fair, and I think that there are plenty of responsible people out there who DON’T cause problems, but I think venues try to avoid this all together.
By the way, I think its absolutely necessary to provide transportation to an afterparty. I would provide a shuttle from the venue to the after-party hotel. And then recommend that your guests sleep at that hotel.
Post # 10
I LOVE Nestldown, and have been considering it as well — a great venue, for sure, LizAnne! I would love for it to "stay open" later, but the issue I run into with that and venues like it, where there aren’t any hotels around, is do I want people worrying about driving after staying to midnight or later? I’m thinking that 10pm might actually be better for the reception to end in those cases: guests will have had some fun after the ceremony, but can then drive into the nearby town (or to a hotel) to continue the after-party if they want to (and I certainly will want to).
The past 2 weddings I’ve been to, one had the 10pm curfew and the reception was esentially over because we all had to drive about 30 min to where we were staying. The other wedding also had the reception end at 10, but most of the guests migrated to a nearby bar to continue the party, which was a lot of fun, and the hotel was within 2 blocks so that was GREAT.
I’d love to hear more from people on how they coordinated the reception and/or after-party, because that is what is giving me the most trouble as I’m searching for a venue. As for the curfews: for those places that have no close neighbors or are more sound-proof like a hotel, there should be no reason why an event can’t go as late as the party-throwers want to pay for!
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2010 - Family Lake House
Thanks for your comments. Anyone interested in being a source in my story re: late-night event sites please contact me: [email protected]
Once I’ve written it, I’ll post the link to the story here.
As for how my plans are going, I’m still intrigued by the idea of having a wedding at one site to promote the festivity of the affair. I just got back from an amazing wedding of a dear friend held at the Biltmore in L.A. on New Year’s Eve. Everyone stayed at the hotel, the ceremony was at 6 p.m. and cocktail hour, dinner and dancing to a Motown band went on until 1 a.m. Then guests ingered in the ballroom or continued partying in the other bar across the lobby until about 3 a.m.
I was struck by how convenient and fun this event was–most of the 130 guests ended up partying the night away. When I compare this to another wedding I attended with the same amount of guests that ended at 10 p.m.–the afterparty at a nearby hotel attracted only about 20 guests. Alas, a party like the one at the Biltmore is impossible at my dream venue, Nestldown, so I’m looking at other sites, and if I find one that’s just as beautiful and allows partying like the Biltmore, I’ll go with that instead. My other option is to have the ceremony only at Nestldown, and find a nearby hotel for the reception.
Ladies, continue to post your thoughts about after parties and late-night reception venues, as I need all the support I can get. With the wedding industry a $75 billion one, really, as brides we should be demanding something better. In Europe, they’d never put up with this kind of party-pooping 9 p.m. or 10 p.m. curfews that are ubiquitous in the U.S.
P.S. I was recently re-reading Nestldown’s information packet, and found they use the phrase "dance the night away with your guests" –oh the irony.
Post # 12
@BeachBrideT: where was your venue that allowed you stay past midnight?? I would love a place like that! Thank you!
Post # 13
@mspaisley: please post your article!! anxiously awaiting your findings!
Post # 13
Mrs. Paisley: I know this was written SEVEN years ago so the chances of you seeing this now are quite low. But I’m wondering if you can tell me what this venue in Mendocino was that has a 2am curfew? Thats exactly what I need and I’d love a name to run with! Thanks so much!