Post # 1
What would you Bees classify as a short engagement? I don’t know if it is just me, but I thought about a year is pretty standard for an engagement, and my Fiance and I set our date actually a little under that..About 10.5 months out from when we got engaged. Everyone else I know is getting married within 4 to 6 months of being engaged!! It is making me really want to move our date up, because I want to go ahead and be married too! (I am not going to of course, but it just seems crazy to me that so many brides are choosing to plan a wedding with such a short time frame.) Other thoughts on this?
Post # 3
I had my wedding planned 4 months into our 9 month engagment, I drove myself crazy already in trying to not change everything after that. I totally get it.
Post # 4
We don’t want to wait any longer than 6 months. We’re not planning a big wedding and just want to be married ASAP.
Post # 5
@Hope_To_Be_MrsLovebug: Well, considering that it takes a long time to finalize a few things (in most states) I would say one year engagements are pretty standard too. This way, you don’t have to rush to get everything done! Also, longer engagements work to allow people to save money, plan slower, don’t make rash decisions…etc, etc. The list goes on. Do what works best for you! Don’t feel obligated to move your date because someone else is doing it sooner than you! Have fun 😉
Post # 6
We were engaged for 4 1/2 months. I just didn’t need any more time than that to plan, and I just wanted to be married! People definitely thought we were crazy, though.
Post # 7
There is no way i could plan a wedding in 6 months. NO way.
Post # 8
I would’ve lost my mind with a longer engagement (ours was a little over three months). I truly don’t know if our relationship could’ve survived the intensity and anxiety I would’ve felt over it, and to me, being married was really THE most important thing.
Post # 9
I think that it just depends on the couple and how much they want to take on during the engagement. Personally, I would probably go crazy if I had to wait a year or more and as long as it was financially feasiable, I think six months is a reasonable time frame for an engagement.
Then again, I’m not technically engaged yet (SO has the ring though… just waiting for him to surprise me with it!) so I guess I don’t have an official say in this. However, SO and I had “the talk” about six months ago and while we’ve been waiting on our financial situation to purchase the ring, we’ve been actively (but quietly) planning our wedding. We know when, where, and how we want to get married and we’re basically waiting for it to be official before booking. That might seem crazy, but in a way by the time we get married, we’ll have been hashing out ideas for nearly ten months although we’ll only be engaged for five or six months. That make sense? haha. But yeah.. I guess it just depends on how long you want to wait and how much stress you can handle!
Post # 10
how does anyone have the time to plan so quickly? my engagement is like 20 months and i already feel like i’m running out of time. :/
Post # 11
I think part of it is that people are dating a lot longer. I know that as soon as we got engaged I wanted to get married asap. Our engagement was 8 months, but I thought about moving it up at least once.
Post # 12
We got engaged in mid-March, didn’t book anything until mid-April, and got married in early December. 9 months engagement with 8 months of actual planning, and by October I was so tired of everything, I just wanted to get married already! I didn’t see the point of dragging it out any more, but that’s just us. I had friends with 2 year engagements and it was perfect for them. To each their own!
Post # 13
We dated for about 1.5 years and were engaged for 2 months. I didn’t want a big wedding only to elope so we didn’t have to find venue, vendors, etc. Everything was planned within a couple days. There was no need to wait longer and those 2 months seemed like 2 years. We’re also in our 40s and settled in our lives. We spent our 20s and 30s (before we ever knew one another existed) moving around,changing jobs, enjoying our freedom, living our lives. Had we been 20 years younger we would have probably waited much longer than 2 months. 🙂
Post # 14
@atlbride2013: If you are the type of person who dislikes everything DIY and doesn’t care about a huge, expensive party with every minute detail, 6 months is more than enough time. The only reason we’re waiting that long is because the church requires it.
Post # 15
We will end up having a 2 year engagement so to me anything less than 9 months or so is short. I know it can totally be done in that time but I was really surprised how fast venues book up and how long a dress can take to be ordered.
Post # 16
I thought my 9 month time frame was short! I’ve still got about three and a half months or so, and I feel like I’m scrambling to get things done.
We honestly were looking at more like a year, possibly a year and a half. However, we found a reception place and absolutely loved it, and then found out prices. We could either do it in 9 months, and afford it, or do it in like a year or so, and REALLY not afford it (the price went up a minimum of $40 a head with the change of month). Or we could wait until the following year, and afford it again LOL. So 9 months it was!
Plus, my dad was like, why wait? That I wasn’t expecting LOL