Post # 1
I came here a while back because I knew I was about to get engaged and I needed ideas for rings, and then knew once I was engaged I’d need advice on wedding stuff, since I have no idea what I’m doing.
The few times I’ve posted for help on here with things I’ve been stressed/worried about I’ve gotten a few responses, (and a BIG thank you to those who have been helpful), but not really that many (and I am a person that needs reassurance that I’m not being an idiot/am making the right decision). Example: Last night I started worrying my ering would be too tight, and didn’t know how it would look once I got a wedding band under it, and if I should get it a size bigger. I posted a question here and I got a couple responses, but not enough to make me feel super confident, because it was just a few (granted VERY HELPFUL) bees opinions.
I know people are busy, but here is my point. If someone posts something drama filled they get TONS of responses. Example: If I posted “My Maid/Matron of Honor dyed her hair a hideous color: HELP” I’d get tons of responses probably telling me I’m selfish yadda yadda, but when I posted about actual regular wedding/engagement related question I got like three responses.
So maybe as a community we could all do more to HELP each other out positively. I know drama is interesting and can be more fun than a silly sizing question, but I know a ton of you have a wealth of knowledge to share, so share it! 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@nattiejeanne: Create a provocative title and post it during busy times when there are a lot of bees on the board. Otherwise, most posts tend to fall off page 1 never to return. Finally, don’t feel bad about bumping a post during a busier time when you are more likely to receive responses.
Post # 4
@nattiejeanne: I tend to stick to what I know – and I honestly know nothing about re-sizing rings or (pretty much) anything wedding related. I do know when someone is being a jerk though and I don’t mind helpfully pointing out when that is the case. Maybe the right people just aren’t seeing your posts for some reason or maybe people don’t keep answering because they see that you have already gotten the same answer that they would give.
Post # 5
@nattiejeanne: I agree I have posted looking for some serious advide and have gotten little to nothing. But I am alway greatful to the bees who do lend advice when I need it. PS I hope you worked out your ring size problem I have also been freaking out about mine being sized properly also.
Post # 6
i’m sorry this place has not been as helpful , and I kind of have to agree with you … It seems as though those “drama” related post get all the attention and the bees that really need advice and help on “the wedding bee” dont seem to get it …
you can try to “bumb” your post to get more attention , but honestly I do notice a few ppl that are “regulars” to the bee are the ones that get the most reply’s and attention …
I really dont know what to say about that expect for what can be done on your part to get more comments… the fact that this IS a public forum and some ppl post and join for different reasons , and will comment when they want and on what they want.
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@LoggerHead91207: +1, I offer advice where I can, but I don’t know anything about cut, color, clarity, moissys, etc.
Plus, I usually feel I have to reply to the drama posts because normally the person is way overreacting…. or needs to get therapy.
Post # 8
@nattiejeanne: I agree with you! Thanks for posting this.
Post # 9
I agree with some PP’s. A catchy title helps draw readers in. If you don’t get the number of responses you want, go back to the thread and type “bump”, and that will put it at the top of the list (just don’t abuse it).
You really can’t blame people though for not responding to you. Sometimes when I see a thread where a bee is looking for advice, if the previous posters have already given the advice I’d give, I don’t bother posting a response.
Post # 10
It’s not so much that I’m really needing tons of advice, because I see it happening to tons of other bees to, that they get little help, it’s just that it seems like unless someone is being absolutely crazy they get very little response, which is just kind of a bummer is all. It’d be nice if we all helped each other out more when we can!
@wanabeabee: Thanks I did! I decided to go with an 8.5 because my fingers really do change size sometimes and I’d rather have it be a little big and wear a ring snuggie or something, then too smal and have an engagement ring muffin top.