Post # 1
So, first there’s SO’s weird reaction to “the talk.” Followed only a day or so by Future Mother-In-Law asking if we’ve talked about getting married, and then today SO is super secretive with his phone. I wanted to get a number out of it and he totally wouldn’t let me touch it. Later, after I complained he was making me feel weird, he said he had texts about “a surprise” that he didn’t want me to see. Why, oh why, do men have to say things like that??? Don’t they know we read something into in and every word they tell us?
So now, of course, I’m wondering what is the surprise. And, of course, we all know what I’m hoping it is. And, if it’s something else like my last year’s surprise (a diamond ring that was NOT an engagement ring) then I’m going to be extra bummed whereas if I wasn’t now expecting “a surprise” I may have been excited! I think we totally need to like make a petition or write some type of bill to make it illegal for men to say things like that and to completely change the rules of engagement related to engagements. lol…
Post # 3
oh goodie, the over analyzing (re your thread from yesterday) started sooner than later 🙂
do you want us to come over, tie him up and beat it out of him???
Post # 4
I’ll help! hee hee Here’s hoping it IS an E-Ring THIS time!
Post # 5
Wait, he got you and diamond ring last year that wasn’t and engagement ring?? Torture much? Evil men and their “surprises.” Hopefully, this is the surprise you’ve been waiting for! If not, hey you get a cool surprise!
Post # 6
Hm, I’ll come out and say it – i believe it’s a ring. 🙂
J and I never talked much about marriage. His family constantly put pressure on him. Well, before Christmas, he started texting his friend about something. I was asking him what he was texting because it was a novel. He told me not to worry about it. It was a surprise. So, I automatically thought a ring too. As days went on, he played it cool and kept misleading me that it wasn’t a ring. My best friend messaged him on Facebook and told him to propose at Hershey Park. He laughed and said that he has no money to buy a ring and when he does, that’s when we’ll get engaged. So, I put it off. I figured he was being silly and going to buy me Flyers tickets and the whole shi-bang. Well, the end result is obvious. He proposed on Christmas Eve. I was still in shock. Didn’t believe he actually was proposing. I totally asked him if the ring was real. Hah.
Sorry, don’t mean to go on with my story, but I wanted to share that with you because of my “surprise”.
Post # 7
@AmyDee: Ugh, I agree, that is just kinda mean. I mean, it’s sweet and all to buy a girl jewelry, but to get her a diamond ring when the talk of engagement is in the air, and to not have it be an engagement ring, is really not cool. Why not get her a bracelet or earrings or something that can’t be misconstrued instead?
@CurlyDreamer: Hope it’s what you want this time!
Post # 8
Ohhhh exciting- I will be stalking you
Post # 9
@eloping: Yes, please come over and do SOMETHING to him so we can get to the bottom of this! lol…
Guys, the ring thing is old news. It was dumb, dumb, dumb and I’m over it. At the time, we weren’t seriously discussing marriage other than he know I wanted to be engaged at some point.
I have no idea what it could be. Knowing him, it could really be anything and not necessarily a good surprise either. lol..
I will totally keep you updated!
Post # 10
I think we should get a make a “Waiting Contract.” Men should promise not to make teasing, cryptic comments. And they should consent to the fact that if they continue to offhandly mention rings and surprises, we have the right to fully freak out.
Post # 12
write some type of bill to make it illegal for men to say things like that and to completely change the rules of engagement related to engagements
get this, i saw my chiropractor last night and he FINALLY proposed to his gf
why finally? because its been TEN YEARS, yes TEN! and im not talking 17yrs when they met, they are both now in their mid/late 30’s – TEN YEARS!
i flat out told him i would have dumped his sorry arse long before now – so i propose after we beat the info out of Curly’s guy we go beat my chiropractor for being annoying
Post # 13
@eloping: I concur! I can’t imagine making someone wait that long unless they didn’t mind.
Funny story, my aunt and uncle got married after they had been together something like 22 years. They were grandparents. I think they realized that, legally, it was better for them as a protection.