Post # 61
I think for many couples “waiting” is simply the period where certain things need to fall into place to move onto the next stage, sometimes it’s someone feeling ready (which both have a right to feel) sometimes it’s distance, sometimes it’s money (it is for us) and sometimes it’s timing. It’s a bad word sometimes because it implies a sense of powerlessness for the woman in the relationship and I dont think that’s generally what it describes here.
I also think people have so many different circumstances, relationships, wants, needs and goals that none of us could ever claim or presume to “get” someone’s else’s situation.
Post # 62
I learned of the waiting board quite some time ago, when I was spending a lot of time with an engaged friend who was always on this website. I found it helpful because I suppose I consider myself “waiting,” and I have seen a lot of GREAT advice on various posts.
I actually re-read a post of mine and realized I probably could be construed as a bee desperately waiting for an unlikely proposal, or a bee in a “cloak and dagger” type situation. The thing is, at least in my case, a couple of my posts were typed during a moment of aggravation and anxiety, where I was seeking the camaraderie of women in similar situations. I felt I could use a little reasuurance or some positive words. After all, I do have bad days sometimes.
As a waiting bee, I am in a stable relationship with a man I love, we have discussed marriage, but as other posters have said; the timing is not perfect. My SO is not ready for an engagement this very minute. So… for now I wait. I am by no means desperately clinging to a relationship that is going nowhere. Will I marry my SO? I think so. Is there also a chance I won’t because he will take longer than I am willing to wait? Yes there is. Unfortunately, my situation isn’t “easy peasy” …..but my life is good anyway.
Lastly, I forgot who drew the connection between the OP’s post being similar to posting on a TTC/pregnancy board… but that was hilarious and so true. Even on a supportive, wonderful website you are bound to have a few people with “holier than thou” attitudes. Shame.
Post # 63
babeba: i can afford it just didn’t want to cuz I didn’t see the importance to it since its just not my thing, plus I just bought a new Cadillac so that took the budget lower but it was so shiny I couldn’t resist. But the bee’s showed me that it should be important so I just cut back on the flower budget and got the Liqour for the drunkees.
CarolinaPeach13: sorry didn’t mean to offend you directly. Sorry about your hard week. I think I personally just don’t get why certain girls freak out so hard on the boards here about not getting a proposal. They go on these long rants about there guy not being ready. At a certain point you know if he is gonna be ready or not. For some of them I just want to yell ‘He is just not that into you!’ But hey it’s not my life.