(Closed) What’s worse than being single at a wedding? Being engaged!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Pinksapphire: I was engaged about a month before my sister was married. Both Fiance and myself were at the wedding. People made a few comments to me; BUT the one thing I did like is Fiance finally started paying attention to weddings (what he liked/didn’t like; what he found cool/interesting). So going to weddings together was a way to talk about what we both enjoyed, etc. afterward. 

People will always stick their noses into whatever they can. You have just got to shrug it off and let them flap their gums. It’s your wedding, do what you want (unless you want everyone in bikinis during a snow storm…that might be a bit much). 

Post # 4
2124 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I feel you. No one has made rude suggestions at all…people have even been forthcoming as to say that they might not come because it’s not going to be the most convinient wedding to get to….which I don’t take offense to at all. I guess I’m just tired of talking about it, answering the same questions over and over again about the location, the dress, everything. As excited as I am about my wedding…I can’t wait for this engagement to be over so I can talk about normal stuff again.

Post # 5
2853 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Lol, really? I was single at a wedding where the bride literally winged the bouquet into my face.

The guy who caught the garter was an ex.

Fortunately ex & I became friends after I went off to college and we were cool then. So it was just wierd, versus wierd + uncomfortable.

Fortunately, I will have maybe 1 or 2 weddings as an Engaged, but they should be very close to mine, so I can just say “Nope, planned already!”

Post # 6
1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oh I just got back from a wedding and DH’s Negative Nancy friend used the event as a platform from which to spout his critiques about how HIS wedding was SO MUCH BETTER (it wasn’t. It had good and bad points, like every other wedding in the universe). Seriously, he managed to make the entire weekend about his own wedding…1.5 years ago.

Not quite the same situation as yours, but I hear you. People just like to complain!

Post # 7
3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Last wedding I went to I felt bad because there was a lot more focus on my upcoming wedding than the wedding we were at!! And the last thing I wanted to talk about was my wedding. I just wanted to enjoy being there for the bride’s day.

Post # 9
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Can I also add the point about all these people wanting to be invited to your wedding and dropping not-so-subtle hints about it? Recently, we went to a family member’s wedding and we finally told his father to stop introducing me to everyone because we are definitely not planning on inviting the entire world! 

Post # 10
795 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This is how I felt at FI’s cousin’s wedding in June. Fiance is closer to his extended family than his cousin is, and you could tell. It was like no one was even paying attention to the wedding we were at. I felt embarassed for the couple :S Lol even the cousin’s mom kept talking about our wedding. It was weird.



Post # 11
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My Fiance and I went to my cousin’s wedding 2 weeks ago and all my mother could talk about was “we should do that” , “these are good, we should see if they could make these” , “This is great, you should research that”…… SHE WAS DRIVING ME CRAZY!

Lucky for me my Dad was there to settle her down.

Post # 12
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I suggest, “Oh, we’ve already finalized those details.” or “I don’t want to say what we’re doing- we’re trying to surprise our friends and family.” Those are for if you’d like to be nice.

If you want to show them how tacky they’re being, a well placed, “I don’t want to talk about my wedding and detract from ________’s special day.” 

If you want to be downright hilarious, reply to them with absurd things, “Why don’t you want me to have a traditional Catholic wedding?  We’re actually having a 5 hour all-Latin mass.” “No country music? Our theme is country music.  All songs will be played on the banjo and everyone will be required to take line dancing in order to attend.”

Post # 13
188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I hate that the last wedding I was at the bride dragged me up for the boquet toss.  Everyone was looking at me weird since I mean, I’m not married, but I am engaged and we did set a date.  What’s the point?  The other girls wear staring me down, it was kind of funny thinking of it now.  She tossed it, I watched some people fight over it and walked away. Innocent

Post # 15
794 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

ugh I know how this is.  I went to a wedding earlier this year and the bride and groom said to me I can’t wait for your wedding right in the receiving line!! I wanted to melt into the floor.

Post # 16
7605 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@atalante: LOL @ the bride winging the bouquet into your face!  Thanks for the laugh. 🙂

@katiegirl84: I hate that part!  I’ve never wanted to go up and I’m always left awkwardly standing near the back with my arms down.  Yuck!

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