(Closed) What's worse when waiting for proposal?!

posted 4 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
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Newbee

Oooh I don’t know. I think him having the ring and not doing it is worse. Both from experience.

My partner of 4 years has promised  (and not delivered) on timelines for the past 2 years. Now I know he has the ring and I’m still waiting but no timeline. It’s really frustrating, but it sitting in the cupboard without any idea is really torturous.

I’m also 7 months pregnant with our 3rd child… Hormonal and waiting is the worse lmao 🙂 his procrastination kills me.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Neither. I was super anxious to get engaged before Fiance proposed, and to be honest it was silly. We knew we wanted to get married early on anyway, and I kinda wish I’d just been less antsy now, because we had the best time before, and we’re still having a great time so – all good either way! 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I think it probably varies from person to person for different reasons, namely at what point in the process the ring is purchased– early on before much else is planned, or later when the proposal date is close. Now that I’ve been in both places (though I don’t know for sure that he has the ring, just a very good, informed hunch) for me, waiting without knowledge of when exactly has been the most painful. Now that (I think) he has it, I’ve calmed down because I know it’s right around the corner. While I’m still anxious, it’s much more tangible. If I were in a situation where he bought the ring earlier on in the process and had to wait a long time for the proposal, THAT would be hell.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Knowing he’s going to propose without knowledge that he has the ring. Without the ring, it would feel to arbitrary to me. That’s not to say the other option isn’t torture because I lived it! Two agonizing months beteween me knowing he had the ring and him proposing. 😛 (I know others have endured much longer— kudos to them.)

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018 - Our Backyard

Disappointed on my 40th

I think that link works. I know he has the ring and it’s torture! 

Post # 7
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Newbee

Here in the same boat. You are not alone. Be happy and find the happy you back. We don’t need that commitment to be happy. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

For me, definitely KNOWING he has the ring. Like, where is it hidden, what does it look like, when is it happening, must be soon… oh the agony! 

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 6 months ago by  leahsullyjohn.
Post # 9
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Busy bee

I think if he has the ring and doesn’t propose it’s worse. Especially if you know about the ring’s location. Why wouldn’t he do it? Just why?? The procrastination is so annoying.

I am myself waiting to be engaged and my brain hurts from the waiting! We have talked last September that we would get engaged in a year. Still waiting. I sneaked a peek that he is buying a stone, which I regret so much, but oh well, at least he’s actually doing something finally! I literally believe he would pop the question on August 31st.

Post # 11
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Worker bee

Personally it is knowing he has a time frame but not knowing for sure! Me and my SO have been together for 6 years. The wait is driving me insane!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Temescal Lake House

Knowing a certain time but no other details would kill me. It’s like adding extra waiting to the “waiting” if that makes any sense 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

anonp:  probably knowing they have the ring. Then again…..I don’t know if my Girlfriend has a ring, I don’t have any idea on when, I have suspicions but nothing else to go on. She won’t tell me if she has a ring, any timeline, no months, no dates. 

I’m like Jon Snow, I know nothing. My guess is this summer with a moissanite ring but they are guesses because I have gotten zero hints oh except that she will have her braces on for engagement photos and those come off next summer. So…..my hint is before next summer….

So it is equally as hard. You know what….knowing nothing is the worst. If I knew it was sometime this month I wouldn’t be nervous but because I have a couple of dates in mind when she may do it this summer my stomach is in knots!!!!! If summer passes and I don’t have a ring I will be nauseous with Anxiety.

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