Post # 1
Well, I’ve had my engagement ring for about 3 months now. In that time, I’ve gotten approximately 1 positive comment on it. Everyone around me has been asking to see my ring, they grab my hand to examine, and they say….
Yes, literally nothing. Or, “oh.” Even my own mother gave me a VERY insincere “it’s nice.” Now, my personal style is not for everyone. I’m into fashion and like to wear intense colors, interesting silhouettes, and fun patterns. One of my favorite labels is Rag and Bone, and I’d sleep inside a J.Crew store. I’d describe it as classic with a twist. I just like to be DIFFERENT. I didn’t want to get a round diamond because everyone and their mother has one. I wanted an Asscher, pretty much just for the sake of being unusual, besides the fact that I love the cut (but I love all cuts… they’re diamonds!).
I struggled with picking a setting. I initially received it with a plain platinum band that looked horrendus (it was quite wide, and looked all wrong on my hand). So, after lots of fruitless searching I found the setting I currently have. It’s nice, lots of diamonds, unusual, and I find it aesthetically appealing. I think it looks like a vintage setting, TBH. I look at my hand and say, “that’s very pretty.” I own the fact that Asschers are hard to set in anything besides a solitaire because they’re a step cut and need light to shine. I accept the fact that this is not my “dream” setting, but maybe in 5 years I’ll reset to something else. However, right now, I think it’s a very pretty ring. No one else seems to though. Here are my specs:
1.22 ct, J color (looks very white though, little warmth), and VS1 included.
Please help me understand the lack of love 🙁 maybe give some ideas on a different setting?
Post # 3
@Woobee: I think it’s pretty, and as long as you like it (and it sounds like for now you do) you shouldn’t worry about what ANYONE else thinks!
Post # 4
@Woobee: it’s very pretty but you hit the nail on the head, it’s not traditional and it’s not everyone’s taste. Often, people don’t know what to say about a ring that they wouldn’t pick – or they make awkward comments that come off as being negative. As long as you love it, that’s what counts!
Post # 5
I love your ring. I think it is gorgeous!!!! If I saw it in person I would go nuts over it….that vintage style is just lovely.
Post # 6
Your ring is beautiful! I absolutely love it!
Post # 7
As long as you love your ring, that is all that matters!
Post # 8
@Woobee: It’s your e-ring – as long as you think its beautiful and perfect for you why do you care what other people think? Asscher cuts are not as popular since they dont sparkle as much as other cuts so that may be why you arent getting tons of compliments on it.
Post # 9
I think Weddingbee makes people think that it’s really common to have people comment on other people’s rings — in my experience, it doesn’t happen in real life. Most people just don’t care about other people’s rings. As long as you love it, that’s really all that matters.
Post # 10
@Woobee: As long as it makes YOUR heart sing is all that is important. I personally have never like Asscher or emerald cuts, but who cares…that’s just my taste.
Post # 11
Maybe the stones on the side don’t let the center stone stand out as much as other rings…and a lot of peope think an engagement ring is all about that center stone.
That being said…
I think the ring is beautiful! I agree with you that it looks vintage. And it is very feminine and elegant. Don’t worry about it. The important thing is that the person you love promised they’d spend the rest of their life with you, using that ring!
Post # 12
It’s very pretty. If you like it, ultimately that’s all that matters.
Post # 13
@Woobee: People just have different tastes and you said yourself that you like to be different so I’m sure you can understand that being different means you’re wearing a ring that the majority of people wouldn’t choose for themselves. Kind of like how you don’t prefer round, lots of people don’t prefer asscher/unique bands. As long as you love it that’s all that matters.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House
I really love that! I think you hit the nail on the head – it’s art deco, yet modern. Seems to suit you, and if it helps, I’m a designer, and I think from what I see, you’ve got great taste.
Enjoy it, and don’t worry about anyone else!
Post # 15
The only thing wrong with it is your lack of confidence in it! Just own it. You already know it’s not “normal”, and people don’t know how to react to things that are outside the social norms (solitaires and now halos). But it’s beautiful! And it’s you, that’s all that matters.
Post # 16
What’s wrong with it? I’ll tell you…NOTHING! It’s beautiful!