Post # 17
Wow, thank you so much for the flood of responses. I’ve been geniunely shocked at people’s responses in person. This is why I love the bee…. honest, positive but realistic feedback on our silliest worries.
Yes, I do like my ring, and my fiance’ fell all over himself to get me exactly what I wanted. For context, here are some more shots… I was going to add these to my first post but, man are you all speedy!
Post # 18
@Woobee: I will admit I think your ring is lovely but its not something I would have chosen, but I too have a ring that is not for everyone.
I think perhaps their quietness is because if you are not on weddingbee you don’t know the terms to describe it. I bet people don’t even know the term asscher and to be honest if you tell someone their ring is unusual (which is one of the qualities you like about it) it comes off as negative so they would probably rather say nothing at all.
When I chose my ring I knew I could either get a ring that was a crowd pleaser or a ring that I loved and others would possibly scoff at… I chose one I love and if people don’t like it then they can be grateful they don’t have to wear it!
Post # 19
@Woobee: I actually love your ring! It has this very cool, Victorian but still modern feel to it. Rock it if you love it – some people just don’t react the way you’d like. It happens to us all!
Post # 20
I really love your ring! I really love mine too and have gotten some compliments but not a ton but for me it makes my heart sing so that’s all that matters. Also, think about how often you see rings and don’t comment – I’m shy so it’s not easy for me to comment to a stranger even for a compliment – that said though, I really love yours! The love will come and it will be more appreciated when it is genuine 🙂
Post # 21
I think it is beautiful. I had the same experience with my ring. It is not an expensive ring at all and people can tell. I love it though, my Fiance picked it out himself and I would not trade it in!
Post # 22
@Woobee: Asshers don’t sparkle the same as other cuts and that makes them less desired which means people don’t see them often. I don’t think people know what to say because as you and another bee said it is not traditional.
Personally I happen to adore step cuts. It is my favorite cut and my e-ring is also a assher but not a diamond. I think your ring is amazing absolutely stunning. It is different and unique and that is why you got it! Different and unique is not always appreciated but know that their are plenty of bees that love your style of ring, me included.
My only advice for a different setting would maybe a halo. If you added a halo you may get the love you are wanting But if I were you I would leave it as is. The only person that needs to be happy with your ring is you.
Post # 23
I personally think it’s stunning!!! To be honest, I’ve had my engagement ring for going on 8 years now and I’ve gotten MAYBE 3 compliments on it…it’s a tradional round with pave side stones.
I love asscher cut stones….and my experience with them is you either love them or hate them…you also don’t see them very often, so I think maybe people are surprised to see it and are expecting to see a more tradional stone when they see your ring. Also…jealousy seems to rear it’s ugly head with engagement rings and I think sometimes when women are jealous they either make a snarky comment or don’t say anything. Now….I’m not speaking for ALL women, of course.
Nothing at all wrong with your ring….it’s lovely!!
Post # 25
I really like it. I actually thought that the sides were made up of two baguette diamonds side by side.
Honestly, I almost never get comments on my ring and it is a classic round diamond solitaire. I feel like some bees get comments daily! Besides my family and FI’s famiy, when people asked to see the ring at the beginning they would say something like “oh, pretty”.
Post # 26
I think its a beautiful ring!! Really, I don’t understand people sometimes. Until I came to WB I never realized how many rude comments people receive on their erings. So unnecessary, especially when your ring is gorge!
Your ring is super different and interesting, which I find more appealing than having the same ring every other person has.
By The Way I’m a fellow JCrewaholic and I can totally picture your ring going with that type of style. Congrats!!!
Post # 27
I also love R+B and J. Crew. I also love your ring! Very Gatsby but modern.
Post # 28
I actually really like your ring a lot! I like the art deco feel of it, and I love vintage-y rings.
I wouldn’t let the lack of comments get to you. I also have a ring that is pretty untraditional/ not everyone’s taste, but I love my ring. I’ve noticed in my friend group that we all have rings that are very “us” but aren’t the other’s taste at all. So I think it’s just what happens when you deviate from the most common norma/trend.
Post # 29
I love your ring! It’s unique yet very classy in appearance! I think a halo would totally overshadow your beautiful center stone and take away from the uniqueness. It’s perfect as is!
Post # 30
@Woobee: I just wanted to say I like your ring!
I also have an asscher cut center stone. Fiance likes “different” things and the last thing he wanted for me was a regular solitaire, 3stone ring etc. I like traditional/classy things BUT I also like unique things too, so we decided on asscher since we found a ring in that cut that we both loved.
I think that things that are unique, rare and different are a good thing!
From one fellow asscher cut wearer to another rock your ring girl! You know you love it, forget what other people think or say, it truly does not matter.
To each their own and there is nothing wrong with that.
Mine has a halo though, I posted it below so you could see since you were wondering about settings for asscher cuts. Once you find a setting you really like you will love your ring even more! BUT if you like the setting you have then keep it no need to change to fit the norms…Good luck with everything!
Oh and asscher cuts can be plenty sparkly for those who think they cannot.
Post # 31
I’m a step cut girl myself, and they’re just not for everyone….which is ok with me. I was an emerald cut lady from the word go, I’ve known that I was going to have one ever since I knew what engagement rings were….I adore it!
Its not the fiery sparkly that you get with princess cuts and rounds….its not something you see a lot of, and setting wise, you gotta hoist those bad boys up and out so the light hits the sides and makes the steps sing….so yeah, its different.
And when people have an idea in their mind that and engagement ring looks a certain way, is a certain thing, because of personal preference or experience…sometimes they give an underwhelming reaction to things that don’t fit in with their ideas…but who cares?
You love it, and that’s all that matters!