(Closed) What's wrong with my E-ring???? :(

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
1263 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

As I started reading your post, I was nervous to scroll down and see the picture. Now I’m going to be 110% honest…I LOVE your ring! Seriously. Love.


Post # 33
11535 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Your ring is gorgeous!

Here is my best guess of what’s happening in this scenario. MOST people are indeed expecting to see a diamond cut with which they are very familiar, such as a round brilliant or a princess cut. Most people have never even seen an Asscher cut diamond IRL and many may not even know what they are. In fact, I never even HEARD of an Asscher cut stone until I joined WB 2.5 years ago, and I never saw one in person until yesterday. (It was stunning, by the way!)

Also, most people think that maximum sparkle is the ultimate goal, and step-cut stones such as Asschers and baguettes (which you have on the sides of your ring and which I have on the sides of mine) simply do not sparkle nearly as much as a round-brilliant stone. Your ring literally could cost multiple times more than someone else’s ring, but the other person’s ring could wrongly appear in some people’s uninformed eyes as being more expensive, if what they’re looking for is how much light the ring reflects.

Enjoy your beautiful ring, and don’t worry about what everyone else thinks. You described your style perfectly — classic with a twist!

Post # 34
422 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

@Woobee:  I love it. It’s super art-deco and architectual. I think because it’s a bit non-traditional, people don’t really know how to respond to it. I wouldn’t change a thing. Except to put it on my own hand. ;p

Post # 35
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

To offer maybe another perspective to things, I haven’t gotten many direct compliments on my ring, either. I think the reason people haven’t been giving me compliments on it is because they know me and they know what’s important to me, and it’s not the ring. The ring is a symbol, but my friends all know I’m not the “FINALLY GOT THE RING” kind of girl. I’m excited to be marrying my Fiance, and I’m excited to spend my life with him. My friends knew better than to grab my hand and gawk when we got engaged, because that’s not what is important to me personally. I don’t think any of them really even asked to see it, and I never posted a picture of it online.

Is it possible your friends might have a similar impression? Or do they know you’re all about the ring?

Post # 36
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It. Is. Gorgeous. Very classic. Very Art Deco. I love step cuts but I think it is a minority of people who embrace them. Girl rock ithat ring. All that matters is how much YOU love it! 🙂

Post # 37
1881 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Woobee:  I personally love it! It looks very Art Deco to me (as some of the other bees mentioned.) Some people just can’t think outside the box and appreciate the beauty of something non-traditional. It’s their loss. 🙂

Post # 38
2445 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Okay, your taste in fashion sounds like it’s right up my alley. And your ring? It’s absolutely gorgeous. some folks have trouble understanding non-halo rounds or traditional soltaire rings because that’s the only type of rings mass-produced in such large quantities that people are bombarded with them in every mall in america. Also, sparkle. I have baguettes on the sides of both my rings and they cut down on the sparkle. I think it looks very sophisticated, but some people don’t understand diamonds unless they sparkle like crazy.

Post # 39
3206 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Woobee:  as someone currently wearing Rag & Bone pants, JCrew blouse and Helmut Lang blazer (you’ve gotta love HL if you love classic with a twist, right?), I think you may be my soul sister. 

I simply adore your ring, but I feel you on the lack of compliments. No one fell over themselves to reassure me my ring was gorgeous like I’ve witness happen to multiple other people. I actually got engaged around the same time as a friend and the number of compliments she’s gotten on her simple knife edge solitaire with round diamond that’s smaller than mine initially made me feel like no one liked my ring! My ring, like yours, is classic with a twist. 

There are certain rings that people will gravitate towards and compliment, like the simple solitaire, pave band, or halo. There’s a reason why those are the dominant setting styles, and when I didn’t choose a ring along those lines, I had to have known that not everyone would love it.

I  actually tried to justify my ringt choice to my mom while in line at Starbucks and this woman in front of us turned around and said, “sorry to interrupt, but who cares? Your ring is yours to wear.” My mom was really taken aback (ha!), but I realized that this total stranger was giving me great advice. After 5 months, I realize that I have stopped caring about why my ring is one of Tacori’s least popular rings, why people never stop me to comment on it, and why even my close friends and family have yet to show enthusiasm about it. Meh. I like it, and that’s good enough for me.

Post # 40
1861 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

Your ring is something I would definitely pick out for myself. I love asschers, and I love baguettes, and I always lean towards something with a vintage vibe to it. So I personally love it. I’m in the process of having a custom made ering, and I’ve shown my sketches to a few people and gotten mixed reviews. It made me a little uncertain and I lost confidence in my vision for a short period, but after I snapped out of it, I knew that I just had to go with my gut. I think it’s human to feel a bit sad when people don’t react the way you envision over something as sentimental and emotionally important to you as your engagement ring. Take heart, it’s a simply gorgeous ring, and I think it’s much more memorable than a lot of other rings out there.

Post # 41
2544 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Woobee:  I think it’s gorgeous- I Love asscher’s as well! I have no idea why people aren’t loving it =( I know alot of people want diamonds that sparkle like crazy and don’t see the point in getting a step cut since they aren’t as crazy sparkly. I don’t really enjoy wearing alot of bling and would rather have a cut I can stare at and get lost in like a step cut.. Personally I like the classic understated elegance of a ring like yours (& mine, I’ve got an emerald cut) waay more than a blingy piece of what’s hot now…. Don’t let anyone get you down, it’s a gorgeous ring… and it’s yours!!!!

Post # 42
2529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Well, do YOU act excited about it?

You say you’ll get your dream ring in a few years, so is this an ok-substitute? Or something that was a hassle to get/design so much so that you’re sick of talking about it?

Because no one’s going to compliment you on your ring if they pick up on that.

Take it from me – this engagment is exhausting me and everyone has picked up on it (I just don’t care what they think!) So no one gushes over my ring, they don’t really bother me about my wedding plans, etc.
Quite frankly I prefer it that way.

Post # 43
394 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I think your ring is absolutely beautiful and I personally love Asscher cuts.  I think they are stunning and unique!     As far as the lack of compliments, I just don’t get it.  Whenever I see someone with an engagement ring I always say something sweet about it because every bride-to-be deserves a little boost during this happy time in their lives!  Enjoy your gorgeous ring and ignore the people that try to rain on your parade!

Post # 44
8031 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I honestly see nothing wrong with it. Maybe people aren’t aware that asscher cuts aren’t supposed to sparkle like a round diamond? That’s all I can think of because it’s a lovely ring. I drool over step cuts.

Post # 45
291 posts
Helper bee

My all time favorite cut are step cuts. I just think there is something super classy and timeless about them. That being said, your ring is gorgeous!

Post # 46
9939 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@Woobee:  Your ring is really gorgeous!  I agree that it’s not what people expect to see so they’re taken off guard and maybe don’t know what to say.  Not everyone has such sophisticated taste, lol.  🙂

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