Post # 1
I really don’t want to “start something” here; I’m honestly just curious for other people’s thoughts and reasoning.
It seems to me that I see people getting offended a bit more than necessary, just by other people stating their opinions on this board.
I realize that we all could be a bit more sensitive in our wording, but why don’t we give people more often the benefit of the doubt when they say something that we don’t agree with?
For example, when someone says, “I’m glad I had a boy.” Why would anyone get offended by that? Wouldn’t the proper response be, “That’s nice that you got what you wanted. I’ll be happy with whatever sex I get.” Why would anyone get offended by someone else’s opinion that just happens to be stated in that way?
And then, does it really make that much difference if we make a statement and DON’T say, “I THINK…”? For example, I said, “That’s disgusting” about the thought of little baby girls wearing skanky clothing. Perhaps I could have said, “I THINK that’s disgusting.” But isn’t that obvious? Why would someone get offended by that? Wouldnt a better response be, “Well, PP thinks that’s disgusting, but I don’t really agree. I think it can be cute.”
So, I really hope that I don’t sound like I’m attacking anyone who said they were offended by either of those statements in previous posts, I’m sorry if sounds that way, I’m just using those as the most recent examples that I’ve noticed.
So, to those who ever might say that they are offended by someone’s opinion…why are you? Is it that they just didn’t emphasis “I THINK” and therefore it comes across as a personal attack? Do you think that opinions should not be stated in something that might possibly be controversial? Is it just that the statement was not worded thoughtfully? Something else?
Post # 4
For me, stating “I think” makes a huge difference. This is the internet, you can’t read tone/body language so all I have to interpret what you’re saying is your words. “That is gross” is declarative and implies what you are saying is fact, “I think that is gross” implies you are stating your opinion.
All that said, ITS THE INTERNET, I try not to get my panties in a twist over anything anyone writes on the bee.
Post # 5
I agree with stating your opinion in a nicer way. I guess people get offended in topics that they’re passionate about. They may not care about the girl clothes, but they may care about people prefering a girl/boy. And because there are thousands of bees, every topic has a potential for someone who is passionate about it, to get offended. I just take everything lightly. I state my opinion, and if someone gets mad I genuinely apologize because my point is never to offend.
Post # 6
I think maybe there’s just a whole lot of stress in a not so large environment and it’s making for a lot of moody people. Myself, included. It would probably be a good idea for people, when they start to feel argumentative, to just step away from the computer and go do something else for a little while. I wish I did that myself sometimes – but if wishes were feathers, we’d all fly 😛
Post # 7
@LGenz: I get what you are saying, but my someone posting their thoughts on a thread, isn’t that, by definition, an opinion? Why do people have to say “I think” to categorize it as an opinion?
Unless people are providing citations on their sentences. Everything that is posted on these boards is, in fact, just an opinion.
Post # 8
I think a lot of girls are on here during a very emotional time in their lives (planning a wedding and going through all the stress) and are much more susceptible to having their feelings hurt than they otherwise would. And I think a lot of them see “That’s disgusting” and don’t infer that that statement means the OP’s opinion is implied; they take it personally as “YOU’RE disgusting.”
Bride: Oh do do do I see a thread about string bikinis, I like them, I’ll click.
OP: String bikinis are disgusting.
Bride: I AM NOT DISGUSTING!
It’s just a highly charged atmosphere at some times.
Post # 9
/agree about not stressing about the small stuff.
Post # 10
it makes a huge difference stating “I Think” or “In my opininon” because it acknowleges that you are just stating your views on the subject rather than an undisputed fact. By all means I agree with stating opinions but you gotta be ready to hear other peoples opinions of your opinion.
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Post # 12
@ktisthatbees: “Unless people are providing citations on their sentences. Everything that is posted on these boards is, in fact, just an opinion.”
I hope you arent realistically expecting people to provide citations? Gas is $4 a gallon in my area. This is a fact. but if I created a thread about gas prices I wouldnt post a citation to prove the price. There are many threads about facts that dont have citations and that is why facts easily get blurred with opinions
Post # 13
Honestly, I think what makes WB fun is the fact that we all share our opinions.
Frankly, there wouldn’t be any point in posts like “What do you think would look best with my dress?” or “What should I do about this family dilemma?” if everyone was required to just smile and agree with everyone else.
However, that said, I think a lot of girls on here could share their opinions in a more tasteful and respectful way. While positive responses are definitely more frequent on here, I’ve seen really condemning and nasty responses when people really opened up and needed some support or guidance.
For instance, I wouldn’t be offended at all if someone said she thought string bikinis looked disgusting, but it might offend me if I had just posted a pic of myself in one on my honeymoon. I think it’s just a matter of common human decency. If it would make YOU feel bad if someone responded that way in response to your post, then it’s probably not the best thing to say.
Post # 14
@bells: of course I don’t expect people to provide citations for everything. the sentence was illustrating the point that the majority of responses to people’s threads are opinions, that’s why people respond, they want to voice their opinions.
My point is, someone saying, “______ is disgusting” is obviously an opinion, not a fact, so why do we have to add “I think”. Of course that is what they think, they are the ones saying it. it just seems redundant to me.
I’m not agreeing that some opinions aren’t offensive, people just get so caught up in semantics, it’s frustating at all the hair splitting that goes on.
Post # 15
Tone is impossible to read online, and I think that’s where most issues stem from. Never hurts to be a little extra careful about how we word things. 🙂
Post # 16
@bells: i think her point was saying “i think” is redundant because unless you’re providing a cite (which no one does obv) of COURSE it is an opinion. That is implied. (although i get your point that gas actually IS $4/gallon but I think that most people can distinguish between objective and subjective things. Gas either is or isn’t $4/gallon. Bikinis however aren’t objectively disgusting or not).
@red_rose: to answer your question– people are just too damn sensitive imo. i’ve severely cut back on my commenting on the boards the last few months because i don’t really care for a lot of the drama. And the drama– in my opinion– is not people “being snarky.” The drama is overly sensitive people complaining about people being snarky. that’s what i’ve faded away somewhat and am not around as much as i used to be (see: post count).