(Closed) What’s your biggest wedding fear?

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My (completely irrational according to FI) fear is that the groom won’t show up!  Come on–didn’t Sex and the City the Movie scar anyone else?  Makes me sick just to think about it…

Post # 48
1001 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My biggest fear is that people won’t show up.  The wedding is the Sunday of Memorial Day weekend, and I worry that people will have already made plans.  So far, everyone I talked to has been positive about it, but I haven’t sent invites yet so I don’t know for sure.

Post # 49
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My biggest fear is drama. The two sides of my family have been feuding since my parents married (they have since had a bitter divorce and the feuding continues), and I am hoping they can put it aside for one day. I’m also hoping that my biological mother doesn’t show up and create chaos (because she is a huge ball of drama and chaos follows her like a puppy). She’s not invited and I’m taking steps to ensure that she doesn’t create a scene if she does show up, but I’d really like for everyone to get along even if it’s just for the one day. 🙂 We shall see.


Post # 50
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, we invited over budget because we figured, hey, it’s far away, no one will make the trip.  So now my biggest fear is that a lot of them WILL come and we won’t be able to afford it.  Also worrying about family drama. 

Post # 51
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

I’m sure I’ll have more as the wedding gets closer, but since I’m about to get the addresses together, my biggest fear is causing family drama with our small-ish guest list. We’re going over it with Future Mother-In-Law tomorrow and I don’t want to upset her. I’m also a little afraid of wedding crashers… I was frightened by this thread.

I guess I’m also afraid of other things going wrong that might derail things, like illness, or missed flights, disappearing photographers, or masses of people leaving early, or a fire in the building (!).

And yes, SATC was a pretty scary film to see again now that I’m engaged, but I remind myself that Carrie’s situation was very specific to her relationship, which I always found unhealthy. In real life, it would be scarier that she actually married him in the end.

Post # 52
28 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

Worried that no one will come and those that do come won’t have fun. ::sigh:: I keep smacking myself over it, but it’s that little lingering fear in the back of my head that won’t go away!

Post # 53
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Am I supposed to name ONE fear? I’m full of wedding fears:

that somebody will die the day before the wedding and everybody will be sad,

that I will break my leg the week before the wedding,

that my dress will still be too big after alterations,

that my updo will fall apart,

that the pastor will get sick,

that it might rain,

that I’ll get an allergy or something and will look horrible,

that nobody will have fun and everybody leaves an hour after dinner,

ok, ok I’ll stop, but I could do that for hours… Frown

Post # 54
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m reading this thread and wanted to offer some encouragement. My husband and I got married in September 2009 and it was a semi-destination wedding requiring everyone to travel at least 4 hours…My primary fears were:

1) The weather–We had we were having an outdoor ceremony and beginning on ten days out I checked multiple weather serivce sites non-stop about the weather. They all said different things and changed constantly!! The worrying really caused so much anxiety the week of the wedding that I was miserable.

2) No one coming/too many people coming–We invited 170 ppl but could really only afford 130. I was so scared that we’d get too many yes’s but once RSVP’s started coming in, I became upset about all the no’s.

3) Family/in-law drama–No further explanation needed.

4) A vendor not showing up.

So the week of the wedding came and guess what: All of these came true!!! All three weather forcasts for once agreed that the day of the wedding was going to be sunny but it was actually the foggiest/gloomiest day ever! The rain held off though, that is until I was getting in line to walk down the aisle! But guess what, it wasn’t a downpour-just a mist and no one cared!! No ones hair was ruined and no one looked like they’d been out in the rain!!

In the end we had about 95 people come. Although i was hurt initially because some people had really lousy excuses for not coming we used the same 130ppl budget and spoiled the 95 people that showed up. 

With my in-laws, there is always drama and the week of the wedding was no different.  My SIL called me a bridezilla just a few days before the wedding, my Mother-In-Law forgot to send in payment to rehearsal dinner caterer, and my SIL and her husband spent the day of wedding packing because they were leaving after the reception for an 18 hour drive!! With all of that, we still managed to have an awesome wedding (and the caterer got paid)!

And, the worst part of the day…we hired a stylist to come to vacation house to get us all ready there. She was supposed to arrive at 10am. I got a text message at 9:30 from her “father” stating she’d been in an accident and wasn’t going to make it (I have found out since that there was no accident)!  Fortunately, the local salon squeezed us all in and guess what–our hair and make up turned out PERFECTLY!

So what is the point of this long post? Just to give you guys some perspective that worrying won’t make bad things not happen. And even if your biggest fear does come true, it will still be perfect and wonderful and you’ll have better stories to tell!!

Post # 55
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

My biggest fear is that I won’t be able to pull off everything I always dreamed of.

Post # 56
2828 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

That I won’t have a good time.

That and looking like poo in the pictures, those would be the big ones.


I’m not too worried about it raining on our wedding day, even though it’s an outdoor venue [with indoor back up] Fiance & I are rainy day people, we’ll probably end up outside if it rains anyway.

Post # 57
268 posts
Helper bee

I’m afraid my mother is going to pick a fight with me that weekend and not walk me down the aisle .. it never fails .. every holiday she gets upset about something. I need to have a back-up person to walk me down 🙁

Post # 58
8029 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

That something will happen to my venue- go bankrupt, fire etc.  Totally irrational I know.

Post # 59
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think my #1 fear is disappointing people.  2nd comes not being able to walk in heels and falling down, and 3rd probably people missing flights

Post # 60
46 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

For sure it would be people not coming.. We’re having a small wedding 70 ppl and it costs alot of money still for such a small wedding!!! even 10-15 people not showing up is HUGE for a 70 people wedding….

Post # 60
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My biggest fear is the flying home for the wedding!  I hate flying 🙁  But since thats not technically wedding related I would have to say I just hope everything comes together nicely for the day since it’s all been planned from out of town.  My Fiance and I are both a little worried about my Mother-In-Law trying to control things and just not being able to relax and enjoy the day like a guest.  I’m also a little worried about using the washroom with my dress! :/

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