(Closed) What’s your biggest wedding REGRET?

posted 10 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I absolutely loved our wedding and everything went off without a single hitch. Immediately after the wedding I didn’t have a single regret, it’s only been in the past 9 or so months, since certain life events have taken place that I’ve started to regret anything.

My only regret is not hiring a videographer. At the time I put it low on my priority list and since I was unable to find anyone I liked for less than $3,500-$4,000 I wrote it off as an unnecessary expense. Of course, hindsight is 20/20 and now know that we came in ~$10k under budget and could have had room in the budget for the videographer.

The biggest reason for this regret is that my stepdad passed away six months after our wedding and I really, really, really wish I had video of him from my wedding day to remember him by. *sigh*

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Not having a videographer is my biggest regret also. Friends had told me…”Oh we got one but you will never watch it so its a waste of money” but I now disagree. I feel like I’m forgetting details already and that really bothers me.

Post # 34
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

1. Not researching the limo company we booked with! Biggest mistake, they picked up my bridal party 3 hours late! I missed all the photos I wanted in the city with them because of this. At least I got the photos I wanted with my husband

2. Putting my husbands sister as a bridesmaid. She only came with us to ONE wedding activity which was picking out a dress. Everything else she bailed on last minute. She started drinking heavily before the ceremony, and was drunk before it started, and she left her bouquet everywhere and people had to chase her down to give it to her, or had to find her because she wasn’t in the right places!

3. Not putting a do not distrub/bridal part only sign on the door to my bridal suite! Our families kept walking in and out of it befor and after the ceremony! I had to keep kicking them out!

4. Not getting to enjoy the cookie buffet! There was 600 homemade cookies and I didn’t get to eat a single one!

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My wedding hasn’t happened yet, but I already wish that I had only chosen two bridesmaids (my sisters) and that I was had spoken out more about the number of guests – too late now that we’ve signed contracts for catering, etc! Lots of things to think about on this thread though!

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

I wish I’d had a traditional wedding with ALL my friends and family instead of running off to Vegas. That’s a pretty big regret.

Post # 37
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Newbee

@daybyday: I’ve been leaning more toward running off to Vegas, but am worried I’ll regret it.  Thank you for sharing this.  

Post # 38
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Honey bee

@daybyday: i guess its always greener on the side! sometimes i wished i just eloped to the fancy resort of our dreams in Mexico just the two of us – would have saved a whole of stress (and disappointment when certain people couldn’t come – i wouldn’t be disappointed if the plan was only for us to go and i didn’t have these people telling me for months and months that they were coming no matter what).

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My biggest regret is my photographer. She brought a second photographer, and of 3,000 photos…about 5 are worth what I paid her for. There were no unique angles, she took forever to get them back to us, there were some photos i requested that I did not even get (I only requested TWO specific ones), there were none of our guests, none of the hall…she sent the CD of photos and made us transfer them to the photo CD with our picture on the front. Which didn’t work. That turned into a rant. Sorry 🙂 but that is one thing I regret, not looking into more photographers and just going with the first one we found.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1999

I LOVED just about everything about our wedding day.  However, our biggest regrets were:

  • Spending 15K on the reception.  (We sure could use that cash right now to purchase our first home)
  • Selecting the photographer that was our second choice in order to save a few hundered dollars.  I think we’d be much happier with the photos had we chosen our first pick.
  • I wish we would’ve had a sparkler send-off, especially since it was 4th of July weekend (although, we did have fireworks for our guests). 

 

Post # 41
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I got really drunk because I drank a litte too much champange and didn’t have time to eat during the whole day. it was towards the end of the wedding and most guest were gone by then but my closest friends still tease me about it let alone my mom and dad who will never ever ever forget it!!!

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

@pokey_dc: Vegas has its benefits and our wedding was chic and fun (and inexpensive) and we had about 40 people out there with us but as time goes on I feel like it was unfair of me to exclude people who really love me from being there who simply couldn’t afford to come. At the time we were 100% certain that was what we wanted and it was such a wonderful time but looking back, I’m like 95% certain we made a mistake. 🙁

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

my biggest regret is that I misplaced my bra the morning of the wedding and ended up borrowing one from a friend. it was the same size, but fit differently and I was uncomforatble in it and it caused back fat…I wish I’d just grabbed a plain old strapless I had at home, with the fit of my dress, I didn’t need the corset. Ugh. I really really regret my back fat. LOL. Everything else was just perfect…or just perfect enough.

Post # 44
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Newbee

@daybyday: makes total sense to me.  We had a talk about eloping and calling after, Vegas, or the whole shebang.  It came down to both of us thinking we’d miss something and so we’re going for the whole shebang.  Now if we can get our parents to calm down on the guest list we’ll be golden. 

Post # 45
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2015

We eloped. No regrets there except… I would have loved to elope to DisneyWorld 🙂

Post # 46
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

One Regret:

 

My Mother-In-Law asked if she could do anything to help. I asked her to write the names on the place cards, becasue she has beautiful calligraphy. When I arrived at the hotel to spend time with my family/get ready for the rehersal dinner, I found out she had CHANGED the seating HUGELY and tried to sneakily hide it. I spent the next few hours crying over my IDIOCY in thinking that she would do something helpful, and we have spent the last few MONTHS discussing how our relationship with his parents will proceed from here.

SHOULD NEVER HAVE ASKED THAT WITCH FOR ANYTHING

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