(Closed) What’s your biggest wedding REGRET?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 61
5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would have visited my flowers at the florist before hand. In fact I stopped by a few days before to drop off boutinere decorations and didn’t ask to see my flowers. I trusted her and the reviews. When they showed up, they were the wrong color– still pissed off about it!

I would have worn a reder lipstick.

I would have practiced just standing in my shoes, not walking in them. Man, my feet started to hurt ALOT when we were standing at the alter. Was not expecting that. 

Post # 62
2161 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wish I had more pictures of my family.  It was raining when we got out of the church and everyone scattered to their cars.  I assumed that my mom had invited my grandparents to the covered bridge.

At the reception, it went by so quickly, we forgot to do a few group shots.

I wish I had clarified with the organist that I wanted my walking down the aisle song to be on the piano and not the organ.  I had trusted my Mother-In-Law to do it.   It was the only detail she forgot!

But, those are really minor.  The day was truly fantastic!

Post # 63
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Not getting a chance to visit with everyone!

Part of that wasn’t our fault, it was snowing that day and a lot of people scattered to make it home before it got bad (it never got bad, but I digress). I heard the advice to make sure you talked to everyone and I thought we would be totally methodical about going around to tables, but it just didn’t work very well.

If you have the option to do a receiving line, DO IT! It wouldn’t have worked for our space since we didn’t change rooms from ceremony to reception so it would have been weirdly awkward to ask everyone to walk by us for… no particular reason, but if YOU can, you totally should. I promise, you’ll regret it if you don’t get to at least say hi and give hugs to everyone πŸ™

Post # 64
16 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

it was a great day but there is always something!

  • we were supposed to have a dj & band. The dj was a family member who does it for a living & the band was friends. Well the dj got the flu so couldn’t make it, and the band was wasted so played heavy metal so a lot of the guests ended up leaving. When the band would take breaks, their computer suddenly died so we had either no music or instrumental music from the venue.
  • was served food last so didn’t eat much so I could talk to people
  • didn’t drink much. was too busy talking to family and such that didn’t even really make it to the bar

as much as you hate that something went wrong at peoples weddings, it’s good to know you weren’t the only one!

Post # 65
1277 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Wish we had more time to spend with our guests, didn’t get to personally thank all of our guests together, I did, but the groom didn’t….also didn’t get the family picture that I wanted.

Post # 66
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We had an asian wedding so there were around 10-courses. My biggest regret was not asking the caterer if they could prepare a plate for us with an item from each course that we could eat as soon as we sat down. After the first dance, we sat down and got to eat about 3 courses, then we wanted to go around tables and greet people and never went to sit back down again. 

Post # 67
554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I wish I had planned the photos better. We didn’t really have time to do fun pictures with the bridal party before or after the wedding and I regret that because all of our pictures seem really formal. I would also liked to have had more pictures of DH and I in the evening-outside by the water. We were having such a good time dancing that we compeltely missed those opportunities. 

Also, I would have forgone trying to make a photobooth. No one really used it and it was more of a distraction for our photographers than it was worth. We had a caricature artist and that was a huge hit. We didn’t need both. 

Post # 68
486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I really hope all of the engaged bees read this thread. Hands down, my number one regret is not getting a photo with my grandfather and his wife. He was the only grandparent in attendance (two grandmothers have passed away, other grandfather was too ill to make it). He had to get around using a walker, and when we had the designated “family photo” time, he couldn’t make it to the area we were taking the photos. My photographer said, oh we’ll be sure to get one when we go back to the reception area.” However, things (obviously) got so crazy, we both forgot! Then he left as soon as he was done eating. πŸ™ Definitely my biggest regret. I also regret not getting a photo alone with my two sisters.

Post # 69
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

We didn’t get a nice formal shot of just us under our wedding arch. We got tons of great photos, but not that one, classic formal shot.

I didn’t realize it, but my strapless dress was pulled up a little too high and it made my boobs look weird in some of the photos… I’m not sure if it looked weird to anyone else or not. No one said anything, but now whenever I look at my pictures I think, “Man, my boobs look way too high.”

I also wasn’t crazy about our invitations…

All that being said though, I LOVED our wedding so much. Even my regrets aren’t that bad πŸ™‚

Post # 70
4108 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My venue hands down. It was beautiful, but way too expensive for what we got. I could have chosen something different for better service/ same scenery etc. except for 1/3 the cost. Since our parents paid for 90% of the wedding, I feel a bit guilty about it tbh.

I got sucked in by a package deal because I would have to do so much less work. In hindsight, I wish I hadn’t been so lazy. But oh well- it is what it is!

Post # 72
1647 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site

Reviving this thread.


My wedding day was so perfect, it’s crazy.   I was just talking with my husband about how hard we worked and how happy our guests were, everyone is still raving about the whole affair, I got some pictures on the same night and they are AMAZING I can’t wait to see the rest and our videos.


My ONE regret, is asking one person in particular to be a bridesmaid.   I should have known it was a dumb idea, I mean, I guess it all worked out but it caused me nothing but stress, she was detrimental to how smooth things should have gone, throughout the whole process.   I SHOULD have asked my brother to be a bridesman.   That’s the one thing I’d change.


Other than that,  I would have liked for brother in law and sister in law to be in the family pictures, and my husband’s grandma refused to do pictures  :/   We actually went down the road for pictures (like a 2 minute walk) and they didn’t follow.  I kept telling people to go find them and bring them, and they kept saying they’d do it after this photo or after that one, and then finally, noone went to get them and that was it πŸ™

Oh yea, and my seamstress didnt’ take my dress in enough, the corset was laced completely closed in the back and it just wasnt’ pretty like it was supposed to be.











Post # 73
680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I loved our wedding but there’s def a few things i’d do differently.

1. I wouldn’t have worn red lipstick! Or found one that didn’t transfer so badly, after the ceremony kiss husband had red lisptick all over him, we stopped kissing totally after the ceremony coz it was annoying getting red all over him.

2. My dress – I loved it and felt beautiful but it was so uncomfortable. By the end of the night i was hating on it. I couldn’t eat much coz it was so tight and the food was so delicious πŸ™

3. Photos – we love our photographers and got some really nice photos but I feel like I didn’t get enough with my girls, and i didn’t get enough after the ceremony – we did a first look so i was over the photos by the time the ceremony was done and just wanted to get to the cocktail hour so didn’t get a lot of the photos i would have liked to – we didn’t get a big group shot with everyone tht was there which i’m disappointed about.

last one was i was a little disappointed with our first look – i saw so many photos and blogs etc beforehand where the grooms had these amazing reactions and everyones crying and so emotional – i was expecting something like that and it totally wasn’t – husband is not an emotional person so i don’t know why i expected him to be! It was still really good getting all the photos done beforehand but yeah i shouldn’t have had such high expectations.

Now it sounds like i hated so much but they were all minor things in the scheme of things!


Post # 74
3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

I regret that it’s over! It was an amazing day and I wish I could relive it.

That said, a huge regret for me is not making a list of photos I wanted. I figured she would know, but we were already running behind and it was hard to herd people. I was just focused on getting the basic shots that I totally forgot about extended family. I don’t have any photos with my step-parents or with aunts/uncles. Another thing about the photos is that the ceremony photos are all fairly focused on me and my side of the wedding party… I wish that our photographer had moved around more.

And, my face. I regret my face. My makeup was beautiful but my hairstyle didn’t flatter my face. I should have had it down, or done some sort of a side parted updo… I have a round face and apparently quite the double chin. However, my face shows how ecstatic I was that day, so I guess it’s better to be real πŸ™‚

Post # 75
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I also regret not having a videographer. Also, I didn’t really like my make up and could have done a better job myself. The videographer thing I couldn’t really afford anyways so it is what it is.

Post # 76
5669 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I wish we didn’t pay for an extra hour. Ourselves and the guests were exhausted and it just ended up being a waste of money and I hated seeing people leave before the wedding was over.


Also, photography is not as important as you think. Make sure you have beautiful pictures to show future generations but you make an album hang one or two pics and that is it. Def not worth the 7k I spent overall! Lastly don’t spend money on a special coreographed dance. In the moment I was so nervous and couldn’t remember a single step and our first dance turned out pretty bad lol

I do however think you should have a videographer. We hired someone inexpensive and watch our video still three yrs later.

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