(Closed) What's your "go to" marriage advice?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Never stop having fun!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

^

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Forget “perfect” because it doesn’t exist.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I was on the debate team when I was in school, so I am always trying to rephrase the argument from the other person’s point of view.  If I were them….. how would I see this?  If I had to argue their side, what grievances would I state?  If I had to tell *me* why I was mad (as them) what would I say?

It’s been very helpful and I always recommend that to couples.  Try to see it from the other person’s side.

also – fix your sh*t BEFORE you demand someone else fixes theirs!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Oh – also don’t “right fight” because being “right” won’t guarantee you “win”.  You don’t “win” if your partner is unhappy.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Marriage isn’t always easy.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

“A Word To Husbands,” by Ogden Nash (though it applies to both partners equally!)

To keep your marriage brimming

Wtih love in the loving cup

Whenever you’re wrong, admit it

Whenever you’re right, shut up.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

My “go to” advice is Biblically based, so I definitely know not everyone will agree with it. In ANY conflict, no matter how difficult it is, I remind myself of what God says about marriage. Darling Husband and I made vows to each other to be married as long as we both shall live and that failure is not an option.  (Yes, there are Biblically based exceptions that permit divorce, but those things have never occurred in our marriage.) So, no matter what hardships and struggles we’ve faced (and with an LDR, required relocation, a blended family, loss of career, etc., we’ve had plenty of challenges to overcome), I always have to begin with the premise that we have to work things out. And, thank God, we always have!

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Mars62312:  In an argument, never, ever threaten the relationship.  Stick to the topic at hand.  Give each other the peace of mind and security that divorce is not an option.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

“Pick your battles.”

It’s cliche, but for me, it works. Sometimes it’s hard to be the one to back down and not press an issue with your SO, but in the long run, your relationship will be SO much more fufilling if you’re not nit-picky and bickering about things that dont really matter.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@mightywombat:  that’s good! i like it!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

Never go to bed angry and always kiss good night

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