Post # 1
I was thinking about engagements the other day (who am I kidding, I think about engagements pretty often) and was trying to nail down what I would want to happen in my dream proposal scenario. It’s a little tricky. My bf and I are both from NYC but living in the Twin Cities b/c of his grad school situation. I am so eager to get back to the east Coast and to NYC in particular, since it is my hometown and I love it and I miss it every day. I know he feels similarly about where we end up but also feels a lot of pressure since it all depends on where he gets a professor gig when he graduates.
Anyway, a few months ago when I brought up an engagement, I told him, “You know I don’t want you to propose in MN, right?” and he was really suprised by this. Perhaps it is a little diva-like to demand that we be in another city for a proposal (and in reality, i wouldn’t care too much), but the fact that NYC is where we are both from, where I desperately want to be, and where the majority of our friends and family live that would make it the perfect place. On the other hand, MN is where we first lived together and where we have a life now, so it also carries some significance.
In short, this is my ideal proposal:
Trip to NYC for my birthday, perhaps
Nice romanctic dinner somewhere special where are both dressed up
Leisurely stroll around the city
Proposal in a place special to us (for me, it a city park near the Manhattan side of the Brooklyn Bridge)
An evening celebrating in a nice hotel room OR (this would get him serious brownie points) a surprise engagement party with our friends and family right after the proposal)
What is your ideal proposal?
Post # 3
All I cared was that it was private. I didn’t want any other people around. And he tried really hard for that. We were camping and he took me to a beautiful place in the campground, but of course there were a couple of other people there. He waited as long as he could before he thought I’d say I wanted to move on for them to leave, but they didn’t. They didn’t pay attention to us and left pretty quickly after though so I didn’t mind.
Post # 4
My dream proposal is one where he asks me to marry him. I would prefer semi-spontaneous, though I do like the idea of getting on one knee and a ring being involved – really not needed. Though at this point, some groveling WOULD be nice. The first two serious proposals I got were spontaneous, no ring, no knee. Second one, I said yes – asking “When are we going to get married?” while we were sitting on the couch, three months after we started dating, though we’d known each other seven years. (Broke up later because the guy had been ritualistically slaughtering animals. Crossed the crazy limit there.)
Post # 5
I have a good friend that got engaged where they live (Atlanta) and then when they went back to her place after the proposal, both of their entire families were there!! Her bf had flown her parents and sisters into town and his whole family had driven in as well.
I just LOVE that idea. I’d really love for my parents (especially mom) to be there when or after it happens. I have no clue how I want it to happen though. I’d love to get pictures of him proposing!
Post # 6
As a gal who is waiting on pins and needles for the big Q to be popped any day now, I have been giving this quite a bit of thought. I have always wanted it to be very intimate and sweet. I would love to have him propose to me in bed, maybe after some really hot love making (Sorry if TMI!!!) lol. I don’t need him to get down on one knee or anything. I just want the question. Or I was thinking it would be really cute if he and I went to our favorite breakfast place to eat and he asks me there. (Again, no knee, or huge public display.) I would just love it if he reached across the table as we are sitting there at one of our favorite places together, and quitely asks me. That would be so sweet and memorable for me.
I am hoping for this week or weekend sometime!!
Post # 7
I don’t have one… I’d be happy with it anywhere there weren’t a bunch of people around.
We are going to Europe next week, so it’d be pretty cool if he did it while we were there. We will be traveling to tons of beautiful places (one of which is where his granddad proposed to his grandma)– that’d be sentimental and sweet on so many levels b/c we really look up to them.
Post # 8
@cyneswith: “My dream proposal is one where he asks me to marry him.” I agree with you there!!!
I don’t know, I go back and forth on this one. It would be nice if Boyfriend or Best Friend did something creative and romantic. But I’d like it to be intimate. I also like spontaneous and low-key. Can I have creative, romantic, intimate, spontaneous and low-key all at once? LOL
I read about a proposal where the guy wrapped the ring up in this huge box, so when she was opening presents she had no idea it was the ring. I’d like to be surprised, which is a little tricky.
@SamanthaSadlier: after some really hot love-making would be awesome too! That way you’re relaxed enough to not freak out, and remember to say yes 🙂
My ideal proposal location would be somewhere we’ve traveled together that was significant. I think going back to Half Moon Bay, where we stayed last fall. It was the most romantic trip I think he’s taken me on, becuase it was a surprise where we were going. In my ideal proposal he’d make a really romantic weekend of it…wine by the fire, walking on the beach, surprising me with bath salts so I can soak in the huge lovely bathtub while he brings me coffee 🙂 BUT the ring would be a surprise. Not presented at a romantic dinner or something traditional like that. Maybe he hides it in the book I’m reading or something like that. Or slips it into my luggage so I find it when I’m unpacking. As long as we’re alone when he asks.
Post # 9
I used it think it would be great if he asked while we were away on a trip- even better if he had surprised me with the trip. But now I’m not as concerned with an elaborate proposal, especially since I would see it from a mile away now. I think any sweet, private romantic night out would work. This past weekend we were in Providence, RI and they have “Waterfire” where they light little fires on the river and play music. It’s very romantic and they have gondola rides that you can go on- and I thought that would be a great proposal: at night, on the water, with music.
Post # 10
At this point I don’t care. I just want it to happen!!
Post # 11
I just want something private, just the two of us. I want that moment where my heart stops as he goes down on one knee, and can’t believe it’s finally happening.
I would love if he had both our families together afterward as well, I’m super close with my mom. She would love that. But at the same time, I also wouldn’t mind that alone time afterwards as well to celebrate. 🙂
Post # 12
You know… I really don’t care! It is more important that he asks, however he chooses to do it!
I always joke and tell him that I want him to write it in the sky for me but hopefully he realises that is a joke!!
Post # 13
Private and on the beach. I love the ocean and I don’t want people watching or interupting our moment,LOL
Post # 14
What? They actually propose? I’m beginning to think the wedding will get here before the proposal does! Kidding. At this point, I don’t care. I will freak out and squeeze hug him until he turns blue no matter where it happens. However, before I lost my mind and became a crazy-waiting-engagement-consumed-psycho-person, I thought it would be nice if we were together alone somewhere because we frequently end up on adventures to places we’ve never been.
Post # 15
Um, I’m with R.Elliott – I don’t care at this point! Over the phone while I’m at work would work for me! LOL!
Post # 16
Over a sumptuous confection, just us.