(Closed) What’s your love language????

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What is your love language?
    Words of Affirmation : (28 votes)
    19 %
    Quality time : (33 votes)
    22 %
    Recieving gifts : (12 votes)
    8 %
    Acts of service : (34 votes)
    23 %
    Physical touch : (43 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 4
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Oh, I LOVE that book!  If any ladies have not read it yet, seriously, go out and buy one, then read it, then have your guy read it, RIGHT AWAY!!!

    My experience with it:

    At first I was like, yeah, ok, alright, i guess so. And then all of the sudden, I was reading something that was so personal and relevant to me, it was like they stole MY stories and put them in the book. It gave me a huge insight into myself.  For example, I have always been known to make very strong female bonds.  I make sisters, not friends.  Anyway, when these friends go and do things with other people, or guys, I get heartbroken, and freaking jealous, and sometimes mean.  I never knew why.  Until I realized my primary love language is Quality Time.  It made so much sense!!! 

    I then had my SO read it.  Well actually we read it together out loud going back and forth. His love language is Physical Touch with a secondary of Giving Gifts.

    We make such a good complement to eachvother because of it.  He loves giving me gifts of acts of service.  🙂 

    But the best part of having both read the book is… If either of us are not giving the other enough love in their language, we now have the words to explain to the other.  He might say, I’m not having my love language met, and I can step back and see what I need to do to make sure he is feeling loved.

     

    P.S. I voted Quality time, but I have a strong secondary Acts of Service

    Post # 5
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    120 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Oh, I need to add that it is very true that you can’t receive love if it is not in your love language.  My guy tells me all the time how beautiful or great I am.  But it has no effect on me.  Years of low self esteem have made me not believe words.  But when someone actually does something for me…. wow…that just floors me.  Or wants me to be around and do things with them all the time above anyone else!!! sigh…it melts my heart!   

    Post # 7
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    120 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary D. Chapman


    I did a quick search on amazon, they are selling paperback pretty cheap.

    Post # 8
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    1431 posts
    Bumble bee

    Great Read! I recommend to everyone

    Post # 9
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    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Agree that the book is a good read.  My love language is physical touch but this is specific to my relationship with Fiance.  IRL and with other folks, I actually hate being touched, touching or hugging other folks.  My strong secondary language is acts of service.  Luckily for us, physical touch is also his love language so we don’t struggle to much to show one another love in a way that meets each other’s needs. 

    Post # 10
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    85 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    i also love this book ! Such a good read 🙂

    Mine is words of affirmation and my fiances is physical touch.

    we both got quality time as our second so we make time for date night ever week.

    It really helped our relationship because we use to have those moments when your just not feeling the love

    Post # 11
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    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I read it.  My love language is Quality Time.  =)

    Post # 12
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    1360 posts
    Bumble bee

    Mine is definitely quality time, FI’s is definitely physical touch.

    He doesn’t understand sometimes when I don’t feel the need to be cuddled near him all the time, and I don’t understand why he doesn’t think my being there with him sharing time together is enough. It’s complicated when you’re both different in how you show someone you love them, because you expect the same kind of response from the other person, and if they don’t show it the way you do, you can feel like they’re not showing you love (which is not true at all, but it can seem that way.) Lol.

    Post # 13
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    6248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    Acts of Service


    To me, actions speak louder than words.  And I cannot stand laziness.  Doing something as simple as setting the table speaks volumes and shows he cares.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Can you have more than one?  I would say Acts of Service is my top language, but Words of Affirmation is a close second.  I’ll have to see if this book is available on my Kindle.

    Post # 15
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    802 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I guess mine (the one I “speak”) would be Acts of Service. I’m always doing little things for Darling Husband. I doubt he notices, but the one I think I require would be Words of Affrimation. I don’t hear “I love you” nearly enough, I have no doubt Darling Husband loves me but it’s always nice to hear. If not then Physical Touch is second. Putting his hand on my back makes me melt, or I got a leg cramp last night and he didn’t say anything he just started massaging it. Stuff like that

    Post # 16
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    1815 posts
    Buzzing bee

    My primary language is receiving gifts, followed by acts of service. I feel the most loved when Darling Husband does even the smallest gift, like picking up my favorite candy when he goes to the gas station. Or a card just because. Knowing that he thought of me and knew I would appreciate it makes me happy.

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