Post # 1
Okay…I was never planning on having a rehearsal dinner…we’re having a casual/semi-formal wedding at the beach. We are paying for EVERYTHING ourselves….so when talking to my planner about Rehearsal…she simply said “It’s just not in your budget” I never thought anything else of it. The wedding Party consists of my sisters and a couple of his buddies (all of them are traveling to our wedding)
Our rehearsal will literally be us meeting out at the beach for probably less than 30 minutes in casual clothing, heck we may even be in our swimsuits..who knows!
I assumed it would be okay to forego the whole “rehearsal” dinner and just say “Hey we’re going to _______ to grab some food and a drink if ya’ll wanna come” and would hope that everyone would get the drift that it’s dutch style and leave it at that, very casual, nothing planned. I talked to mom and sisters about it and they said that’s completely fine….BUT reading on the Bee I find that it’s kind of unettiquette-like to not provide a dinner after the rehearsal for the wedding attendees. Is it? Should I find it in our budget to at least plan something little??
Post # 3
We are hosting a rehearsal dinner for our wedding party at a Chinese restaurant. I think if you can do a little something, even if it’s going to a modest venue (Chinese, Mexican) you can keep costs down and still host a post-rehearsal meal. Good luck!
Post # 4
I would do a little something as a thank you for those who are standing up with you. Maybe even just pizza delivered to the beach and a cooler of beer!
Post # 5
Hmm, I can see your predicament. What about at the end of the dinner, just say something like, Hey guys, we’re so glad you’re in our wedding party and going to be a part of everything tomorrow. Let’s celebrate . . . dessert’s on us! Or start out the dinner with a few orders of appetizers for everyone to share. I think that would still keep it casual, but the message of being appreciative is still there.
Post # 6
I was also thinking of not having a rehersal dinner because we are on a budget and paying for the wedding ourselves. However we realized we wanted to take the time to thank our wedding party and family, and we thought the wedding itself would be too hectic.
Options we have thought of so far are:
1) BBQ – it creates more work, but it very budget friendly.
2) Pot-luck – our wedding party loves this idea, because everyone brings amazing food and nobody really minds making 1 thing to bring.
3) Perhaps a picnic is a good idea for you. If you are already on the beach and have a great setting, a picnic would be low budget and heartfelt, but once again, it would require a little extra work.
Post # 7
I’m not sure your wedding party would understand it was dutch unless you specifically said it was, because typically, an after-rehearsal meal IS provided by the couple. I think a good, cost effective way of doing this would be pizza or subs or something that’s easy and pretty cheap, but still provides your wedding party a dinner in thanks. The inviting them to the restaurant idea could get pretty awkward if they assume you’re paying and vice versa.
Post # 8
I was going to do the same thing – we are going for dinner at x restaurant join us if you want. But now we are thinking bbq. We will do it semi potluck. We figured since not everyone really knows each other at a bbq people could mingle more than if we are all sitting at a table.
We’ll see what happens though.
Post # 8
Great ideas, I guess my question should’ve been does it need to be formal and planned and a “thing”,……seems by the responses that it doesn’t need to be anything fabulous. I like all of these suggestions, I think we may go with the pizza idea. We will already be rehearsing near the pool…we could just have pizzas delivered there, we are all beach bums so it’d be more fun to do that than go to a restaurant! Thanks girls! : )
Post # 9
I know people who did:
1) happy hour instead
3) small wine and cheese at their house
all of which were awesome!
Post # 10
Since it seems as if your having a Destination Wedding wedding and these people are traveling there to be for you than I think it is right that you treat them. That being said I love the idea of pizza on the beach, so it dosn’t have to make a huge dent in your budget, but yeah I’d feel really gipped if I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man and took time off or whatever and flew somewhere and was expected to pay for a rehersal dinner.
Post # 11
@jenroh1984: I would just let them know that you plan to have dinner delivered to the beach and that it is going to be casual. I think your bridal party will have fun with pizza and drinks around the pool!
Post # 12
@HappyHW: great suggestion!
personally, I think at least providing your rehearsal attendees with something to eat, even if it’s super casual. It says “I appreciate you taking the extra time to make sure our day goes smoothly tomorrow”
Tacos, pizza, or even just serve some light appetizers and then go out to eat and go dutch, but yeah. . .I would do SOMETHING.