Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
For those who aren’t familiar with the story…
Constance is an 18 year-old lesbian from Mississippi. She requested permission from her school to bring a female to the prom as her date. She also wanted to wear a tuxedo. In order to “avoid controversy,” the school board canceled the entire prom. The ACLU got involved and the federal judge ruled that the school’s actions violated Constance’s first amendment rights, but he didn’t force the school to hold the prom because someone had planned a private prom instead.
When Constance and her date showed up at the private prom, only 5 other students were there. However, there was a “secret” prom that was organized by parents in the community, and that’s where most of the kids were. The private prom Constance showed up to was a fake.
I, for one, am absolutely appalled at what happened.
First, I’m disappointed in the school board. By canceling the prom to begin with, all they did was end up turning all of the students against Constance. They all resented her because their prom was canceled.
And then I’m disappointed with her fellow students, and, especially their parents. Those kids are teenagers and are old enough to know better, but their parents are REALLY old enough to know better. How anyone could act with such a lack of compassion and respect is just beyond me.
And all this exclusion and ostracization was for what? To prevent one teenage girl from attending her prom with another girl? Like the world would end if that happened? Like it would affect anyone else in any way?
The whole thing makes me sick.
Post # 3
From a personal perspective, I don’t support same sex couples, but I also do not interfere with their decisions or how they choose to live their life. It is THEIR life and they have a right to happiness as much as any other human being.
That being said, I completely agree with you that it would not have harmed any of the other students for her to be able to attend and I think it was ridiculous and incredibly pious for the school to cancel the prom in order to prevent her from attending. It’s like they are trying to make her high school experience as miserable as possible. Completely uncalled for!
The parents who organized the secret prom should be ashamed of themselves. What are they teaching their kids? To be hateful towards others? That is a big parenting FAIL.
Post # 4
Oh wow. That is SO sad. I was irritated when I heard they cancelled the prom, but what’s happened since then is very sneaky and deceitful and it’s just awful…they should’ve had the “secret” prom and invited everyone. You know, “non school sponsored function”. And even sadder that THAT many people went along with it. Everybody at school knew she was lesbian; nobody would’ve been surprised or shocked if she brought her girlfriend and brought a tux. If somebody abhorred the idea that much, then the parent has the right to not let their own kid go to that prom, but as far as it being a big controversy…well….when I went to prom, my friend brought her 29 year old boyfriend. That was controversial. Everybody got over it.
Post # 5
Didn’t some schools in Miss. just start having non-segregated proms.
I can’t believe a school district would cancel a prom, doesn’t make a lot of sense, but if it’s the same area were integrated proms just started happening, it’s starting to make a bit more sense.
Post # 6
Somebody call Mississippi and tell them it’s 2010, not 1910.
Post # 7
Ugh. things like this make me angrier and sadder than I have words to adequately express.
Post # 8
I completely agree. It saddens me that there are places in this country that would rather show examples of & teach hatred, instead of acceptance and love.
Post # 9
It is pathetic that this terrible behavior comes from EDUCATORS. No wonder that schools around those parts just recently got desegregated, geezzz. If the educators are ignorant, the rest of the town will follow. I’m disgusted by the whole situation. There is a special place in the afterlife for people like that. I hope that Constance grows stronger from this situation, and that the coverage of these events sheds more light and attention to these close-minded communities. It’s 2010 people – don’t worry – you won’t turn gay from allowing 2 of your students to attend the prom. I look forward to the scrutiny of the board by the media and making them answer some tough questions.
I’m proud that after all those obstacles she still decided to go and stand up for herself, and hope she can keep that going in her life. Why is it impossible for some people to just live and let live?
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
Another really important detail is that the other people attending the prom they sent Constance to were special ed students. Luckily, disability discrimination laws have tons of teeth and I hope someone sues the crap out of these people.
Post # 11
Sigh, I’ll never understand stuff like this. Of all the horrible things in the world, let’s get all riled up and upset about love.
Post # 12
When I first read about the secret prom that the parents and students organized on purpose to exclude her I was disgusted. I was even more disgusted when I found out that some of the other handful of kids at the fake prom that she showed up to were learning disabled kids, who seem to have also been excluded on purpose from the super secret prom. The parents and the students who pulled this disgusting trick should be ashamed of themselves.
It seriously reads like the script of a bad teen movie. Except that in a movie, one of the popular girls at the secret prom would have said “Screw you guys, stop being so close-minded” and she would have gone to the fake prom, then she’d be followed by a bunch of other kids and then the fake prom would have been well-attended and the only people left at the secret prom would be the bad guys, and all the good kids would dance their troubles away and be happily ever after. Too bad reality isn’t like the movies…
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Honestly, this whole situation, along with the Phoebe Prince situation, has made me rethink having kids. I’m not sure I want my kids growing up in a world where stuff like this happens. It breaks my heart.
Post # 14
I agree that the whole situation is disgusting, but I did read in several places that it was no “secret” that the prom Constance went to would only be attended by a few students, with most kids going to the other prom. She was fully aware of that and went to the prom with the special ed kids anyway. Still terrible, but she wasn’t quite “tricked” like the media has been telling the story.
Post # 15
even if it wasn’t as completely warped and secret as a bad teen movie, it’s still horrifying and I hope the parents and school board get a good dose of karma. And lawsuits, can’t forget those.
Post # 16
I think that parents who would knowingly hold, or support holding a prom or other special occasion that they knew would exclude only gay/lesbian students and disabled students from attending should have their parenting privileges revoked like yesterday. They should be ashamed of themselves, but people who would do that generally have no shame.