(Closed) What's your order of events for the reception?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016 - Madame CJ Walker Building

**pulls up chair** I need this info also!

Post # 3
1619 posts
Bumble bee

For our wedding this is how it went…


Spotlight dances (first, father/daughter, mother/son)

Dinner was served

We didn’t have any speeches and we weren’t planning on cutting the cake but when a guest came up and asked if she could take a cupcake H and I ran over and quickly cut the small top cake.  We also didn’t do a garter or bouquet toss and didn’t have speeches.

But if you are including everything this is how, as a guest, I would prefer it…


Spotlight dances (I can happily eat my salad and roll while watching you all twirl around the dance floor)

Dinner served

Speeches during dinner (Once everyone is served and settled and enjoying their meal do the speeches.  Make sure you aren’t having a crap ton and that they are kept to a minute or less.  As a guest inside stories and jokes get boring quickly)

Table visits (once you are done eating and speeches are complete start making your rounds)

Cake cutting once dinner/table visits are complete

Bouquet/Grarter toss

Party Time!!!

Send off 15 minutes before your reception is set to end (But really I would skip this.  Most couples stay until the end of the reception so it is weird to do a staged send off when you really aren’t planning on leaving)

Bu the most important thing to remember is once the party gets going do not interrupt it.  I have been to many weddings where I am having a blast on the dance floor only to be told “time out” because the bride and groom want to do some spotlight stuff.  This interruption can really kill the party and getting it going again can sometimes be difficult.  So get all the spotlight stuff out of the way and then let your guests party.

Post # 4
2202 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

For ours we did : 

First dance & parent dances.

Dinner served

Speeches (as people ate/finished eating) 

Dancing and fun

Cake cutting.

Post # 5
2015 posts
Buzzing bee

Ours was:

Couple introduced straight into first dance

No bridal party introductions or other dances

FOB thank you & prayer

Meal served

Bridesmaid or Best Man & Maid/Matron of Honor toasts during dinner

Couple thank you toast, cake cutting

Dancing/Mingling Time

We had planned the bouquet toss as a part of a grand exit and ended up doing neither. We just said goodbye to the remaining guests and left.

Post # 6
1074 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

We are having a morning/early afternoon wedding without dancing!


12:00 Coffee “Hour”

12:05 Family Arrival

12:20 Wedding Party Arrival

12:30 Newlyweds’ Arrival

12:35 Prayer

12:40 Lunch

1:00 Toasts

1:30 Cake Cutting

2:15 Final Farewell

Post # 7
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Ever After Banquet Hall

Our is as follows:


Cake Cutting (doing this first allows them to cut the cake in back during dinner…no waiting for dessert)


Speeches/toasts while everyone is eating

First dance

Party Dance (this will be a fast dance done snowball style to get everyone on the floor)

Everyone dances and party starts 🙂



Post # 8
1402 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

This is our plan:

Introduction while cocktail hour is still happening

Mingle with guests during the last half of the cocktail hour

Everyone sits down

Quick toast

Bride, groom, and wedding party hit the buffet

Other tables are called to the buffet

Everyone has food, speeches start (bridal party is likely done eating at this point) and go through dinner

Do some mingling

Cut the cake, open the dessert table to everybody

Mingle while everybody eats dessert

First dance, father daughter dance

Everybody dances

Snack is served

Stay until we’re kicked out

Post # 10
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

My venue is making us do the cake cutting before dinner so they have time to bring it outback and get it all ready for serving. I thought it sounded weird, but apparently thats typical.

Post # 11
178 posts
Blushing bee

We did entrances, our first dance as married couple, and a friend said grace over the meal and we all ate. There was some dancing after we all ate. About two hours after our entrance, we did our cake cutting, immediately followed by the mother/son dance, and I then danced with my brother because my father passed away. Half way during the song that I danced with my brother, we asked the rest of the guests to join us in memory of my father (it was an upbeat merengue) and we danced the rest of the time. I really wanted people to dance and wanted as little interruptions as possible.

Post # 12
23 posts
  • Wedding: December 2017

Our plan is this:

6pm- Cocktail hour

6.30- we arrive/introductions then mingle and greet people (we’ll be doing this later on too, not trying to squish 75 people into a half hour gap)

7pm- dinner starts (speeches during dinner, before dessert)

7.45/8- cake cutting (we are serving cake as dessert)

8.30- first dances

9.30- bouquet toss

and we’re either doing a send off or just sticking around until the end of the night, but shutting the music down at 11.45 due to venue constrictions


Post # 13
476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016


I originally was thinking

5pm cocktail hour

6pm introduction and first dance

6:30-7:30 dinner (four courses)

7:30 cake cutting

7:45 bouquet toss

8:00 dancing?

But not I’m unsure if the cake cutting should come earlier or not. Technically we have the venue until 10pm but not sure if we have enough activities to stretch it out since it’s a small guest list <30 people so we’ll see 🙂


Post # 14
17 posts
  • Wedding: October 2015

Ours went:Grand Entrance, Speeches, Dinner, Then we made our rounds to our guests, First Dance, Father Daughter Dance, Open Dance Floor, Cake Cutting, Bouquet Toss, Garter Toss, Another 30ish Minutes of Dancing, Then Our Sparkler Send Off. 


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