QUESTION – What’s your policy on large $$$ gifts from relatives?
ANSWER – Lol, I like them !!
Ok when it comes to Weddings they can be somewhat awkward, if the vision that the B&G has doesn’t match up well with the one that the Gifter has in mind (as many say, such gifts sometimes come with strings)
BUT if people can work thru that the Gift is going towards a specific item(s) then the results are usually far better.
“Mom & Dad are giving us $ 15 that we’ve agreed upon will be put towards the Alcohol”
OR … The Honeymoon… whatever
In those cases things work out better cause then you can just decide to allow the Gifter to be in charge of that one particular thing (Cocktail Hour – Wine with Dinner – Bubbly – Open Bar etc)
As for the rest of your post / Question
This seems to be a theme today Post-Christmas.
The truth is some people just have more disposible income than others… it is up to them how they choose to spend it.
Just because you don’t have the same (or the same priorities for your own money) doesn’t necessarily mean you should stand in judgement of what they choose to do with theirs
I can tell you right now if I won the Lottery, I’d be gladly doling out Cash to my Nearest & Dearest…
And exactly WHY would that be a bad thing ?
So in this same way with other of life’s celebrations … Christmas, Birthdays, Graduations… whatever are just a part of that thought process
“I CHOOSE to spend my money on YOU”
This doesn’t naturally mean that you have to reciprocate Dollar for Dollar… you only have to be a Gracious Receiver.
If you do feel the need to become a bigger Gift Giver towards such people, it should be on your own accord, and what you can comfortably afford, or budget for.
Hope this helps,