(Closed) What’s your relationship mileage?

posted 7 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

Holy moley!  I don’t know if I want to know how many miles we’ve logged since they’ve been on our cars.  We lived about 100 miles apart for 1 year, and then about 70 miles apart for another year (ending soooon!).  We visited each other usually every weekend, alternating off between who commutes.  If you want to do the math, be my guest!  I hate math.

Post # 4
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@beebee89: So far only 7,312 miles between the two of us (including his upcoming trip). Before it’s all said and done though there should be one more flight out there, then the drive to move to Nevada (which he is flying out for). So my grand total will probably be:

14,624 miles…

Not too bad with all things considered. Still, that’s a lot of miles…



Post # 5
532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My Mileage… 

My boyfriend and I started off together, then he moved to PA. But then he showed up in MA to help me unpack and move there: 250 miles. 

Then he made the trip from PA to VT, to help me moved there: 400 miles

Then seeing each other roughly 1x a month, VT to MA: 400 x 4 – 1,600 miles

Then he moved to Florida, I’m in VT which is 1,300 miles – I flew twice. 2x 2,600 = 5,200

I moved to NY, he’s in FL for 1 year and 8 months. A distance of roughly 1,000 miles. We visited generally around the New Years, the Spring, Fourth of July, and Thanksgiving. 

1,000 (per leg) x 2 = 2,000 (per trip) x 4 (trips per year) x 2 (years, roughly)  = 16,000 miles

Then he moved back to NY, to be close to me permanently – 1,000 miles. 

So we are at 1,600 + 5,200 + 16,000 + 1,000 = 23,800 miles after 3 years. 

Now we’re engaged. Hopefully we stay at 23,800. 



Post # 7
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’ve been living in Chicago while he still is in Iowa. It’s about 221 one way, so two ways its 442. I have been here for about 21 months and I make the trip at least twice a month.

If you figure this:

442 x 2 (twice a month) x 21 (months we have been aparts) = 18,564. There have been some months where I have gone home more, so I would guess about 20,000 miles in all. Wow, I never realized it was so much until I sat down and figured it out!

Post # 8
1829 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh goodness, I just tried calculating and couldn’t even begin to get there.   We met in China – he was from Australia, I was just moving home to the States after living in Australia and England.   I went home to Chicago, he was going to Milwaukee to visit his brother who lives there.  

We did a few back and forths between Australia and Chicago.   We traveled to Europe together (and got engaged there!), traveled around the US together, traveled around Australia, went to New Zealand, are now back living together in Australia.    And now we have to head back to Chicago for our wedding in a few weeks!

Yeah, I can’t even begin to imagine what our carbon footprint is but we’re well over 100,000 miles.  And given we have immediate family living in the US, England, and Australia, looks like our travel days won’t be calming down any time soon!

Post # 9
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We live close for a LDR only about 300 miles apart. I feel very lucky to only be a 4 1/2 drive away from him 🙂

Post # 10
361 posts
Helper bee

SO and I are 6328 miles apart right now. That will be changing permanently next year. Most likely we’ll be over the 100k mark by then.

Post # 11
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

SO has been gone since January…and we’ve already clocked in 3,000 miles! Jeebz.

Post # 12
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I never thought of calculating it this way but I might have to figure it out one day. It should be an insane number since we’ve been apart now for 3 years and live on opposite ends of the country.


so i calculate this by adding up the distance we’ve traveled to see each other, right?

Post # 13
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We did LA to NY for just over two years. About 5 months into our relationship, friends who were also in an LDR gave us a stuffed animal that we then carried back and forth on our trips (I’d fly out, leave it at FH’s house, and then he’d fly back with it). FH religiously tracked the stuffed animal’s mileage (cause we’re special like that), and it had flown over 120,000 miles by the time we moved in together. That does include trips we took together to other places, including Japan, but still, I figure that’s about 60,000 for each of us? I do know I’ve maintained mid-tier frequent flyer status (50,000+ miles) for the last two years. Laughing

Post # 14
16 posts

We fly back and forth and it’s 1876 miles roundtrip (I just checked my frequent flier account). We’ve been together since March 2010. I’ve gone there 4 times, he’s been here 4 times, and then we went to Hawaii together (roughly 4800 miles each). So we’re looking at… wow about 24,600 miles in a little over a year.

Post # 15
6 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

Our hours are too far apart to drive. It’s likes a 5-7 hour plan ride roughly. So the next time I’ll see him will be in 6 months.

Post # 16
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh man…. I just started to calculate this and it was getting nuts. We lived across the country from one another, went to school away from where we lived (though still across the country from one another), AND our families live in multiple cities – so there are 6 cities (1 of which is international) between us.  Recipe for intense mileage!! Let’s see if I can figure out the numbers…

It was approx 2500 each way between our schools in Pittsburgh and Los Angeles (depending on connections), so let’s average 5000 round trip. We went back and forth around 4 times a year for 4 years….so there’s 80,000 to start. Add in the miles for me to go to him and his family in New Jersey several times (6000 miles round trip, x3 for three summer trips), and to go to him and his family in Utah (for the both of us to get there and back, it’s 5000 miles again – x5 for many winter trips). Add in a few international trips for us to get to my family (25000 round trip, plus 1500 round trip connection – x2 for the 2 of us, and x3 for our three trips)…..

5000x4x4: 80,000

6000×3: 18,000

5000×5: 25,000

250000x2x3: 150,000

1500x2x3: 9000

I can’t even add those up, it’s too overwhelming. Seriously, THANK GOODNESS we are now finally living together. We are so much happier – and so are our bank accounts!!

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