(Closed) What's your relationship with your SO's mom/FMIL?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 77
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578 posts
Busy bee

I have wavering feelings about my SO’s mom. She is super caring and nice most of the time, but she is way over protective and wants to be involved in like every single aspect of our relationship. She is also very gossip-y and over-opinionated.

She wants to see all of his presents to me before he gives them to me, or at least get to watch me opening it. She needs to read his cards to me if she ever finds out he gave me one, just to comment on how cute her son it. She is very nosy into our conversations, and if we ever have an argument and she finds out, she ALWAYS tries to pull me aside and explain to me her son’s point. 

At first I was in love with the idea of building our house on their land, but I made it clear that that’s not going to happen. We need our space. SO agrees. 

Then again, we have a lot of great times together sometimes. Last weekend we went to a winery and I was in stiches from laughing so hard with her. I think the alcohol helped loosen me up. SO even mentioned it to me later how different I was with her that day. When I get enough time away from her, everything is great between us

Post # 78
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4801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@vorpalette:  I mostly minded because she would then proceed to make comments about any messy parts of our house and how I don’t keep it clean enough like she and her daughter do for their husband and their homes. But I work full time! She doesn’t work at all!

Post # 79
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2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My SO’s mom died before we started dating. I’m not sure we would have gotten along in life either, though, for reasons I don’t want to divulge. His stepmom, I have a hard time with as well. She’s very ditzy and she’s not very nice. Very self-centered and unconcerned for others. My SO and I both look forward to moving away from his dad and stepmom- they are very toxic people 🙁

Post # 80
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486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

You know, I saw this post yesterday and it really didn’t mean much to me because I hadn’t really thought about this topic, but today I’m singing a different tune lol 

I started typing everything out, but it’s way too long so I’m just going to post something as a separate post lol 

Post # 81
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I love my future Mother-In-Law. We’re very close and I feel lucky to have her. My whole bf’s family are very supportive of our relationship. She even told my bf a few months ago that she would love to have me as a daughter in law and that if he doesnt plan to propose he should let me go because I deserve it. haha. 

Post # 82
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370 posts
Helper bee

She adores me and keeps asking my bf when he will propose. She treats me like I am her own daughter. I absolutely love his parents and family I feel like I really fit with them its a great feeling 🙂

Post # 83
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ll be honest. I have no relationship with her. I’ve never met her. The first time I’ll ever meet her is two days before my wedding…

I’ve never even spoke to her over the phone. But I was talking to FH about this the other day, and I told him I would like to at least talk to her over the phone once or twice before hand.

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