(Closed) What's your 'secret singles behaviour' – what do you do when SO's away?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 76
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve only ever spent a few nights away from my husband here and there…the last time was the night before our wedding almost two years ago! That night was fun though, I had the girls around for a sleepover and we got fast food for dinner, then went for a drive and hung out at a park I used to go to when I was younger. We reminisced a lot.

I don’t really do anything like that. I watch a lot of Netflix, get lazy on the folding and leave my cup on the coffee table with him around. If he went away I’d probably be the opposite and clean the whole time lol.

Post # 77
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Blushing bee

We both don’t get to travel for work so it’s far and few days we don’t get to see each other.  If DH is down the shore for something, I make my “nest” (as he calls it) on couch with duvets pillows blankets anything I can find to lay with in Pjs no bra, binge watch bravo and housewives / trashy reality shows.  Definitely couple beers or glasses of wine and I’m good. Depending on how long he’s gone will go out with girlfriends for drinks also.

Post # 78
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I eat really spicy food, usually hot buffalo chicken wings, my husband can’t handle anything too hot, but I love it. I also usually have ice cream or some other dessert.  And my worst offense,  at least it would be in DH’s eyes, I let the big dogs in the house. We have a Newfie/Border Collie and a Pyrenees/Lab who are our livestock gaurdians. They are also big babies who love to sleep in the bad and chill on the couch watching reality TV, lol. My husband would be mad if he knew about it, but they’re good girls and don’t let on that they’ve ever been inside when he’s home. 

Post # 79
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I don’t do anything differently with my Fiance or without.

 

Post # 80
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Busy Beekeeper

I used to eat a box of Kraft mac and cheese or poptarts, but I’ve grown out of it, haha.  Definitely if he’s away I will sing at the top of my lungs while doing chores or in the shower.  Preferably musicals, a favorite band or other things he doesn’t like.  I’m a little tone deaf so I don’t like to do that when he’s around.  Ahh, bliss.  

Post # 81
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Buzzing bee

I feel pretty lucky that I can do all the stuff you bees said around my husband. You should too, in my opinion. I wear as little as possible when we are home, we both fart as needed and laugh about it, I do whatever beauty things I want, he doesn’t care, we both eat whatever we  want as long as we can afford it–ie order pizza when we don’t wanna cook, and I watch whatever shows I want on our laptop with headphones while he plays videogames. Its great. I feel I can really be myself and he can as well. Of course we do watch tv & movies together sometimes, just not every night. 

Im very grateful now for the independence we give each other, hadn’t really thought about it before. 

Post # 82
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

We’re almost halfway through FI’s 2 weeks away and the other day I made an entire batch of cookies for myself! 

Post # 83
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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MsGinkgo:  eat ice cream for dinner. Let the cat sleep in our bed. Drink more wine than I really should.

Post # 84
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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mrsb616:  pizza, wine and syttd is my normal Friday night, even with DH home!!

Post # 85
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

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yogahhh:  I’ve been wondering where you were!!

Post # 86
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Chinese food since he loathes it and watch “trash tv”. 

Post # 87
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’re both military but I don’t travel. Mostly what I enjoy about being “single” is never having to cook much. I still eat healthy, just pick here and there. He was away for three months while I was pregnant and getting a lot of bad headaches so I laid on the couch and watched a lot of Big Bang Theory, which he doesn’t like.

Post # 88
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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ksn1219:  hey girl! I’m mainly on the ttc boards now. And I’ve drifted to another site too that focuses more on pregnancy. But I missed my bees last night. Hope you are doing well!

Post # 89
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Bumble bee

I spend more time with my friends. Most of my friends are married or in relationships, and when a friend’s SO is away, it’s normal to invite her over and meet her for coffees more than usual.

I also worry less about my appearance. This isn’t an anti-feminist thing – I’m a strong feminist. In our relationship, SO and I each put in an effort to shave, look nice, etc. … when one of us is away, I know the other barely shaves and is way more lax in the looks department.

I also eat differently. When SO and I cook together, I prioritize having a proper meal. When I’m alone, I just make whatever weird combination of foods sounds good. Some hits, some misses, but I don’t really care.

Also, I reread our text messages like an idiot. 

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