Post # 1
just wondering, what’s your FI/DH/boyfriend like when he gets angry with you?i’ve been with my soon-to-be Fiance for 4 years now, and he is the polar opposite of me. I have a quick temper and i look too deeply into things. he is extremely forgiving and never has a temper—actually, he often cries when he gets very angry! and he only yells when he’s REALLY mad, which is rare. he definitely balances out my personality.
Post # 3
My Darling Husband has a quick temper but I noticed lately he has been controlling it because I told him that he will pop a vain and end up in the hospital. I get quiet when I am upset. I knows very well when something is on my mind. lol
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
He usually gets really quiet and serious and walks away to another room… that’s when I know it’s bad!! Otherwise sometimes he kind of verbally snaps… for the most part he’s pretty easy going, I’ve only seen him really angry (at me) like 3 times in 5 years.
Post # 5
really angry? he punched a door and put a hole through it once. The rest of the time he is quiet! I can’t stand it when he is quiet! I would rather have him yell or even punch another door. I on the other hand fly off the handle!
Post # 6
@elysion: mine can verbally snap too!
@Carolyn72: same with me, i admit that sometimes i start a fight just to get some EMOTION or anger..from him
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood
He just gets distant. My SO and I have never yelled at each other. We just kind of retreat within ourselves for a while until we’re ready to talk about it.
Post # 8
It has literally never happened, now that I’m trying to think of it…. I guess he’ll probably just go from calm and understanding to murdering me if I ever go too far .
Edit: The worst I’ve seen is when he enunciated slightly more than usual and threw in an F bomb or two. But that was when Chipotle forgot to make our online order for like the 20th time… (Don’t worry, he wasn’t that way to the nice but forgetful people at Chipotle)
Post # 9
Very quiet and then soapboxy.
Post # 10
He talks it out with me to find a solution. I have never heard him raise his voice.
I tend to get quiet and he forces me to talk when I am angry.
He is really even keeled and doesnt really get angry.
Post # 11
He rarely yells, he just retreats and then when we are hashing it out argues until I admit I am wrong and he is right. The he acts cute. Sooo frustrating.
Post # 12
He goes into what I call “zombie mode” and sits there like a lump. It takes a lot of love and cuddles to de-zombify him.
Post # 13
My Darling Husband takes a very long time to get angry, hates confrontation and wants harmony always. He hates to fight. When we argue he gets defensive and sometimes needs to walk out to calm down. He can react like a 10 yr old and it makes me crazy. However, he always wants it to be over and we’ll eventually talk about what the real issues are. I’ve lived with men who shut down and don’t speak, and men who punch holes in walls. I much prefer this – we both know that something’s got to give because we have to resolve the issue.
Post # 14
@lorie: I got one that can act like a child too when angry. I once got so frustrated I once asked him if he was going to throw himself on the ground and kick his legs so I could witness the full tantrum effect. Sometimes he can stomp off a little too, sulking (!) and to be honest, it’s hard not to laugh sometimes. I try not to “feed” such childish behavior with my attention . Luckily this a fairly rare occurrence!
He can sometimes get whiny too and I hate whining!
Post # 15
I have only seen him get mad at video games, but that was one time. He was drunk and started yelling about Call Of Duty. He once told me the only way I could make him mad is set his car on fire. I have known him for 2 years. He balances out my quick fiesty temper though, so lucky for that.
Post # 16
My husband, it takes a lot to make him truly angry. He’s more the silent, puppy dog look on his face angry. If that makes sense. Perhaps it doesn’t. I have pushed him a few times to where he has gotten really angry and yelled but I’m a button pusher by nature and it has been few and far between. I grew up in a house of raised voices so sometimes I have a tendency to just naturally slip into the raised voice. I am trying to work on it but I know that sometimes he feels the need to raise his to keep up or get his word in. Overall though I am so happy that I married someone who is slower to anger than I am and is very patient.