Post # 17
When it is BAD he is the walk-away type whereas I am the confrontational type. However, when he is leaving he will say stuff under his breath but loud enough for me to hear him. A few weeks ago we were laaughing about how he does that.
Post # 18
I’m the opposite of many of you ladies, if we argue it’s him who wants to stand there and have it out, scream and yell while I run away and sulk though if he keeps pushing it I’ll snap back too but we always end up talking it out calmly
Post # 19
You girls are all so lucky that your SO’s are mostly non-confrontational and calm. My Fiance and I are both screamers, sometimes to the point of insanity. The good thing is, we ALWAYS get it all out on the table immediately. There’s no harboring, no resentment, nothing. We scream it out and it’s over. We’ve known each other since we were teenagers so I think it feels differently than if it was someone I met in my adult life. Since we got engaged, HE has definitely calmed down but I have yet to get there 🙂
Post # 20
My husband snaps and does frustrated breathing and angry pacing. But he realizes it when he snaps at me, and immediately apologizes and feels awful for hours. I don’t really get mad at him, I just get sad sometimes and I think for him it’s worse than any yelling could be. But we very very very rarely argue, it’s not common and not really an issue.
Post # 21
We used to yell as say really hurtful things to each other.
Luckily, we both went to anger management and fixed that. Now we actually talk about things. Though thats rare we disagree anymore.
Post # 22
He’s never been angry at me, but I’ve seen him angry at other people, and he’ll call them out on it, but not YELL, unless it’s another man/buddy. I’ve never seen him yell at a woman, even if he’s very angry at her; he’s very much a gentleman. He’s been irritated with me, but not angry. When we get irritated with each other, we’ll take a few minutes to collect our thoughts, then we sit and talk about how the other person’s actions/words made us feel without yelling.
Then there will be an apology/how it can be avoided in the future, a compliment, a hug/kiss, and then it’s over and we go about our day.
It’s one of the reasons I really love him, because he’s such an effective communicator and he takes it seriously in his relationships.
Post # 23
He has a quick temper but a good heart. So if he’s mad for a silly reason, I laugh and he will too.
Post # 24
Its rare that my Fiance gets angry, he’s such a calm man. When he does though he gets quiet, so the total opposite from me.
Post # 25
He always wants to talk it out, while also pushing my buttons. This makes me retreat and get the oh no you diint face and then I take a shower. I know, weird. Whenever I am pissed I always need hot water to calm me down. Lol! Fiance always always always needs to talk it out. Drives me nuts!
Post # 26
He’s very quiet you can just feel him simmering. He always stays rational though which often infuriates me because I’ve got an AWFUL temper and I snap quickly! Then I feel guilty because he handles his anger way better than I do.
Post # 27
my Darling Husband rarely gets angry, like really rarely .. and when he does, it’s usually because I got on his case about something. when he’s mad, he’s REALLY mad … even I hide.
Post # 28
It depends what he’s mad about… but usually he gets really quiet, huffs and puffs a little, goes for a walk… he used to be more aggressive when he was younger but he’s mellowed out over the last 10 years.
When I’m mad, I bitch and moan and repeat myself 100 different ways to the nearest person that will listen, and then after I have spewed all my word vomit, I cry myself to sleep. Thank goodness I don’t get angry very easily or often, because it’s an exhausting experience. lol
Post # 29
Literally, the hulk and my SO could be twins!
Post # 30
Scary..very scary…..he calls himself a calm person and yes, i think most of the times he takes it too much, but when he’s over the top he goes blind and scares me
Post # 31
first he gets very silent and serious, and so do i. but in 5 min we can’t hold it in anymore and we have to make it up immediately. 😀
we never yelled at each other, and i hope we won’t.