Post # 32
After 17 months of almost every day together, I have yet to see him really “angry.”
He says he doesn’t get angry – ever. I’m not sure I believe that this is possible, but he says that when he was a kid he had serious anger issues, and after really hurting a kid in a middle school fight, he swore never to get out-of-control angry again. Ever. And he hasn’t.
If we’re at a disagreement and he’s irritated with me, he speaks slower and more calculated.
If he’s frustrated because of something other than me – like the washer repeatedly breaking, etc. – he gets very quiet and separates himself from everything for a while. Then within several minutes he’s back to normal. 🙂
Post # 33
@star_dust: “He’s more the silent, puppy dog look on his face angry. If that makes sense.”
LOL. This is exactly what my man does. I never thought to describe it that way!
Post # 34
@star_dust: I totally understand, im in a very similar situation!
Post # 36
@KT808: Yes, I just tell mine that if all he can do is walk out then he shouldn’t bother coming back. I’m not kind when he acts like that but it helps that he hates to be angry and have anything bad between us. We’re both hard-headed, but it is hard to keep from laughing sometimes!
Post # 37
He just gets quiet. He’s never been rude or me or snapped at me.
Post # 38
He’ll raise his voice and get very stern. I’ve only ever heard him yell once. I, on the other hand, fly off the handle and yell a lot.
Post # 39
Quiet and sulky. He has literally yelled at me in the three years we have been together. Once i saw him yell at someone else and it was scary!
Post # 40
When he’s angry at me he gets stern and when he’s really angry he yells. (he’s only yelled maybe 3 times in 9 years)
When he’s angry at someone else, if he’s at home we talk about it and he paces….if he’s out he says things to people…it can be embarrassing…..
Post # 41
Sober: gets quiet and goes into another room
Drunk: he gets bitchy and can make some rude comments/ yell. He gets sensitive to little things when he drinks. He isn’t a crazy drunk. I just have to be a little more careful with our jokes. (we have a weird sense of humour)
Post # 42
one word: annoying. Descriptive sentences: we are on opposite sides of the arguing spectrum. I always want to talk something out – but he will just sit & stew. If it is ME who wants to address an issue – Fiance will typically roll his eyes, he sighs loudly, he’ll even throw out a “jesus” <- which seriously annoys the heck out of me…but he has his moments that when he feels wronged & he’ll want to talk about it – usually over the phone (I think to avoid me in getting a say) – his voice gets higher pitched, he doesn’t listen and just goes & goes & goes.
Post # 43
We definitely respond in different ways. He tends to act out for a second and then walks away. When he has a couple of minutes to himself, then we sit down and have a conversation about it. I tend to retreat or get really quiet. So I usually have to force myself to talk about it or deal with it. Otherwise, my tendency is to hold it in until it comes out in other ways.
Post # 44
@happyface: thank god I’m not the only one who’s husband is hulk like! He has a short temper and gets very loud and swears.
I feel like sometimes it’s quite childish and much like a temper tantrum. It’s quite annoying. Lots of things make him angry too. lol.
Post # 45
im a snapper. and i then i get quiet and grumpy. he will shout if angry with other people. but if angry at me he avoids me and is very cold and quiet. i hate it! he says its because he doesnt want to shout at me (which i appreciate) but i cant bear the silent treatment
Post # 46
He gets this look on his face. I can always immediately tell. His eyes darken and his lips kinda puff out. I call it his angry face, and he gets frustrated that I think it’s cute.
He usually points out what is irritating him, talks it out for a few minutes (never more than 5 minutes) and then want to immediately move past it and be done with it. After we’ve stopped talking about a disagreement, I don’t think he has EVER brought it back up. I really love that about him. He is a great communicator and lets me know I need to change my course before he’s even really irritated. I wish I could be more like him, I’m the let it build up then cry type. I don’t raise my voice or yell, I just cry when I explain why I’m irritated. Every. Stinking. Time. :/
That said, I have NEVER seen him get angry or raise his voice. The closest to angry I’ve seen is when he’s being protective of me and feels I’ve been mistreated. Then he’ll get really tense and quiet, and get really affectionate towards me.