(Closed) When a guy who is into you asks if your e-ring is an e-ring…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 62
1616 posts
Bumble bee

@KC-2722:  Different cultures different hands. Don’t be ethnocentric.

Post # 64
1616 posts
Bumble bee

@alsgirl:  In Greek Orthodoxy, a ring goes on your right and is moved to the left after you get married. No separate rings, and both hands are utilized. Some people are so ignorant of other cultures!

Post # 65
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013


When a guy who is into you asks if your e-ring is an e-ring…

You simply tell him it is an engagement ring.

There is nothing wrong having male friends or having friends in graduate school, and it certainly makes grad school more enjoyable to have friends. You should be straightforward with everyone who asks if you’re engaged (there’s no reason to hide it!) ESPECIALLY when it is a guy who is into you. If he has an idea that you have a SO but you don’t verbalize it or make it clear to him, he could interpret this as flirtatious behavior on your part.

Post # 66
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@alsgirl:  Wow, speaking of being condescending and bitchy. In your original post you made no mention of two rings. You specifically asked what to say to someone who asks if your engagement ring is, indeed, an engagement ring. 

The answer is yes. 

If someone asks if my dog is a dog I don’t beat around the bush to avoid hurting their feelings on the off chance they’re a cat person. 

The answer is obvious no matter who asks it. I’m not sure what differing cultures or multiple rings has to do with your engagement ring being an engagement ring, bless. 

Post # 67
1263 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@alsgirl:  What Kayl meant was put it on your CORRECT hand. Even if its your stand in ring, still wear it on your left since it has the same meaning as your ring being made!

Post # 68
2529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@alsgirl:  If it were me put on the spot like that by someone, I would say, “Oh, yes, it is my engagement ring.” I’m super direct like that most of the time, especially when caught off-guard.

It does sound like he likes you. And yes, like PPs said, the best way to head off people like that is to talk about “my fiance” and “my fiance’s and my house” etc. when you first detect that they are being a little too friendly.

Post # 69
4113 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@alsgirl:  By the same token hypocrisy is not a flattering look. You are so rude its actually pathetic. 

This is still a non issue, no matter how many rings you have or what hand you wear the ring on. I am hardly ethnocentric and am fully aware of the fact that different cultures may wear the ring on a different hand or have no ring at all. I’m not quite sure why that seems to be the basis of your petty little argument..

With the ring out of the equation, you’re still whining about a guy who is being persistent despite you being engaged. Clearly the simple action of telling someone you’re not interested in them, is not something you’re not capable of. 


Post # 70
2037 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

There is a lot of cluelessness in this thread. Your typical heterosexual man doesn’t go around trying to make platonic female friends. If he’s a new guy in your life and is asking about hanging out, he’s interested.

There’s no reason to let him down easy. Women like to overthink these things. You can be direct without being rude. It’s a lot better than dragging it out.


Post # 71
1354 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

What I would do:

Dude: Is that an engagement ring?

Me: Yeah.


Post # 72
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

OP, why exactly are you are asking this question? You seem to think that people are being condescending, but I think ppl are just really confused about why youʻre even asking, because the answer is so obvious.

If anyone asks you if your ring is an engagement ring, you just say, “yes.”

Post # 73
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@alsgirl:  You don’t even need to be engaged nor have a ring to make it clear to him that you are engaged.I think you sensed that he might of been interested even before that question, right?

The question here is, do you want to be friends with him outside of class? If so, speak of your Fiance often and gush about your engagement. He will get the point that friendship is as far as it goes. If you don’t wish to be friends outside of your class relationship I would just state firmly that you aren’t interested next time he proposes another meeting. You most certainly can be clear and direct without being rude. I would not take 

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@Everdeen:  advice and “stroke his ego.” To me that is playing with fire.


I hope you don’t read that as being rude. Offering my real advice. I don’t believe most PP were trying to be nasty with the exception of a snarky few. 

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