Post # 1
Just wondering if anyone has experience with this. My Fiance has a ferret and a cat, and has grown up around every animal you can think of. Her dad owns a vet clinic and she grew up in the rural south. She dreams of getting a pitbull after we get married and would probably have even more pets if it weren’t for me. Her ferret is very high maintenance and has a very strong odor as many ferrets owners know. It’s “unique” to say the least. She loves him more than life itself (hahahah but not more than me I hope 😉 It has been hard to get used to this past almost year we have been together,
I was grew up and still live in a big city, with a couple fish and a guinea pig. I am having a hard time becoming more of an “animal person” that I think I should if we are going to be moving in next year and getting married. I have lived with cats in other previous relationships but if it were up to me I would have no pets at all. It’s just not my thing. I don’t hate them at all just not an animal person.
Any advice on how I can become more accustomed to the pet lifestyle to prepare me for our life together? It gets frustrating for us both at times. I don’t want to chnage who I am but I love her so much and want to come to a compromise. Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
Maybe you two can make a compromise about not getting anymore pets until one of the current pets pass on.
I love dogs especially large dogs, but my Fiance hates/is terrified of them. So we only have cats. We have three and I’ve already assured him that it’s all I’ll ever have and I don’t anticipate “replacing” any of them when they pass on.
If it’s an odor issue, perhaps you two can come to an agreement about cleaning and limiting the time the ferret and cat is in the living area or completely banning them from your bedroom or office so you have a place to go that’s away from the smell.
I would NEVER have a ferret for this reason!
Post # 4
@beekiss: Thanks for your input. She keeps them clean as can be and they are banned from the bedroom, thankfully. So i’m glad about that, but still. It’s hard when someone is soooo into her pets and I just am not. I know marriage is about compromise and sometimes just need to vent. It’s a good idea about no third pet until one of the current ones is no longer with us.
Post # 5
@beekiss: p.s. No matter how clean you keep a ferret, they smell regardless. You’re right. he has his own room, and the animals have their own bathroom, which is nice, i just never use it 🙂
Post # 6
I am an animal lover and I work in the pet-care industry…but I never have animals in my bedroom or kitchen.
I think it’s a good idea to set boundaries right from the beginning for what you are comfortable with. You are compromising by living with the animals…she needs to compromise too…this might mean keeping pets out of certain rooms and off the furniture.
One PP said not to get another pet until one has passed. I think this is also a good idea!