Post # 1
Hi bees, I just had my 12 week scan, and I think we might be announcing soon. We haven’t told anyone, besides a couple of really close coworkers, just a spurt of the moment thing. We plan on telling our families first, maybe this weekend. My Mother-In-Law made a bet with one of DH’s friends that we wouldn’t get pregnant this year for $100. She would be right if things went as planned. Darling Husband was going to put $100 into a card that says “Sorry, mom, you lost your bet, but here’s $100 to pay for it” and tape a pic of the 12 week scan into the card as well. I’m just going to call my family and tell them. The only thing that I’m not looking forward to is telling my bosses. Anyway, when and how did you announce? I’m interested to hear the stories!
Post # 2
breatheandrelax : we told my best friend and our immediate families around 6 weeks – everyone knew we’d been struggling and starting IVF and both sides were together for Thanksgiving so when one of my husband’s crazy aunts went around the table and asked what we were thankful for I just said “modern science” and the whole room exploded in cheers and crying. It was pretty great. I told work after my NIPT test came back all clear which was about 14 weeks and then made a general facebook announcement right after.
Post # 3
Parents at 12-14 weeks. Boss at 16 weeks (would have waited but he was going out on his parental leave until I would have been 20 and I didn’t want to wait that long so they could have more time to prep), close friends at 18 week, social media at 37 weeks. Everyone else just as they noticed an undeniable bump.
Post # 4
Husband and one of my “ttc” friends immediately
family and very close friends right around 10 weeks (had a U/S at 8 weeks to confirm heartbeat)
work at 10 weeks
announced “publically” right around 11.5 weeks.
Post # 5
I gave my sister a tea gift basket I’d made for Xmas… things she wanted anyway. I included a mug that said “world’s okayest aunt”. I’d had to lie/fob her off just the day before. Told my folks sooner because I needed mom on my side if sis wanted to go to a deli on our annual girls’ trip.
Technically I announced the second at work today. Someone asked my son when he’d get a sister. Highly unlikely given his family’s track record. She changed it to sibling and I said maybe Halloween. Our official announcement will be this weekend when our son wears a brother to be shirt and we see who notices.
Post # 6
I’ll be 19 weeks this Friday and no one but my husband and doctors know. I am, however, a lunatic when it comes to 1) not telling the story until you know the whole story and 2) boundaries.
We’ll tell our families over Easter weekend once we’ve gotten our amnio results/20-week scan done. I’m planning on making up an Easter basket for my mom and stepdad with “Promoted to Grandma/Grandpa” mugs and an ultrasound pic. I’ll tell my boss the following Monday.
Everyone else will figure it out when they see me because it’s getting kinda obvious at this point. We’re not sure whether we’ll ever announce on social media.
Post # 7
I wanted to wait as long as possible because we had a MMC at 12 weeks, but I had a bump that just didn’t want to hide. We told our families at 12 weeks after the NIPT came back. We announced on social media about that time too with our first son. This time around we have just individually told some friends and won’t share anything in a larger forum until the actual baby is here (I’m 26 weeks).
Post # 8
I am 8 weeks and have my first U/S to hear the heartbeat Friday, I can’t wait!! Never been so anxious as I have over the last month, I hate that it is sooo long til the first scan to be sure everything is going smoothly.
Told my mom almost immediately because I have been super sick and needed her advice as I talk to her every day. Didn’t plan on doing it, but other circumstances happened with work and my health and I needed her to be by my side through all of this, plus she had multiple miscarriages so I would want her close in the event anything bad happened anyway.
We plan to tell D.H.’s immediate family on Easter (10 weeks) because wine is a staple part of that meal and I can’t fake that. I was able to fake vodka soda’s with his family when we first found out, but wine is a lot harder to get by and they would immediately know something was up. Then my Dad and our few best friends the week after at 11 weeks as I have a special event and it is good timing. Going on vacation to visit extended in-laws when I’ll be 12 weeks by then and hopefully already have the NT scan done so we want to tell them in person while we are visiting. Then finally public posts on social media / telling my work will not be done til >14 weeks after our vacation and we confirm we’re in the all clear with the NT testing.
I had a friend on Facebook post an ultrasound in February, and she said coming in October. Since I am due in November and won’t put it on Facebook till May, I was sooo shocked to see it, she had to have been barely 6 weeks! Not even sure how she got a scan so early. It is for sure a struggle but I want to be sure all is clear before it goes that public.
Post # 9
helixthecat : Yes, I remember your posts about the amino. I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you! I thought about giving Father-In-Law a shirt that says “Promoted from dog grandpa to human grandpa,” but Brother-In-Law has a kid already; so, not completely accurate.
Post # 10
temeculabride : Yeah, my friend is about 4 days ahead of me, told me when she was 6 weeks pregnant and announced on social media at 10 weeks, which I thought was kind of early. She has no idea that we have birthday twins yet.
Post # 11
We told parents via skype (we live abroad) at about 8 weeks (we thought we were further along than that at the time). We told the rest of our families/close friends at 12 weeks and we waited until the 3rd trimester to announce on Facebook.
Post # 12
I told immediate family and a few close friends as soon as I found out but then waited to “announce” and tell work until around 15 weeks.
Post # 13
I told my parents and best friend within a day or two of getting a positive test. We waited until our prenatal testing came back clear at 12 weeks before announcing to everyone else. I just texted/called people…we never did a social media announcement.
Post # 14
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We told our friends and family basically as we talked to them after we found out. We had a previous MC and I knew I would lean on them for support if it happened again.
Told work at 10 weeks, announced on social media at 13.
Post # 15
Told my 2 BFFs the day I got my BFP at 7 weeks, the parents after 1st ultrasound at 9+1, my boss shortly after that because she’s like a mom to me and we’re so close, and then the more extended family/friends/other colleagues around 13 weeks.