When and how did you ask your bridesmaids?

posted 1 year ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I asked just over a year out. We got engaged this past Christmas and set our date for May 2019. I believe I asked my girls in February. Like you, I knew who I wanted and don’t see it changing. They’re all people I’m super close to or family.

I was super simple with asking. Most of the girls live out of state so I simply called them and asked. The one person nearby, I had lunch with and asked in person. Congrats on the engagment!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

morethanyesterday :  i asked mine righ afer we got engaged (16 months out). there was no question that these were my ladies – it was my sister and friends from high school/college, all of whom i’ve known (and been friends with) for 10+ years.

they all live out of state. i made custom candles on them (capri blue volcano scent – my fav) with labels that asked them to be my bridesmaids and shipped them in the mail along with a note.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I’m getting married next June and I asked my girls a couple months ago. I painted a card and asked them that way. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I called them all and asked a little more than a year before the wedding. If I could go back I would wait a little longer to ask and probably had fewer bridesmaids. 6 was way too many for me.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2018

We have a year long engagement (August 2017-August 2018). I asked my bridesmaids in September.

Maid of Honor: “So you’re obviously the MOH” “Of course”

Bridesmaid 1 & 2: College friends. We all went on a hike together and I asked them then.

Bridesmaid 3 (Sister-in-law): Asked her over lunch.

I didn’t do anything fancy. Honestly I think the “bridesmaid proposal” thing is a bit over the top – but that was just my preference.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

I’m getting engaged anytime now- Congrats to you btw! But I plan to ask my girls after we get our venue and date set. I want to make a small box of items asking my girls, I know it’s not necessary to give them something but I just love the idea of the proposal boxes.. I care a lot about the girls who will be in my wedding and want to make them something special for being in my wedding 🙂 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I’m pretty boring and i’m bad at showing emotions so I just called mine up and asked. They already knew it was coming (2 family members) and I asked about a year before the wedding. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

morethanyesterday :  Congrats on your engagement!

I got engaged in Feb 2018 and my wedding will be in July 2019. I will be having 4 bridesmaids total – 2 are my best friends who are local, 1 high school best friend who lives in another state (we’re not as close as we once were, but still keep in touch and make effort to see each other at least twice a year), and another good friend who I’ve known for less but we’ve grown really closer over the last year. 

I asked my 2 best friends pretty much right after I got back from my trip where I got engaged. I hadn’t decided on who else I was going to ask at that point, but by the time we finalized the venue and date (3 months after my engagement) I had a pretty solid idea who will be in my bridal party. I haven’t asked the other 2 girls though – I’m in the process of curating bridesmaids proposal boxes stuffed with goodies and I’m planning to give to each of them. I’m thinking some chamgpagne gummy bears, robes, chamgpane flutes with their names etched in, lipsticks, hand lotions. I know it’s super cheesy but I’m all about that haha.

Image result for loccitane hand cream 

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I asked about a year out from the date, once we’d locked in our venue. We got married in December, so we wanted to give our bridal party a heads up early-ish so they could block off the date. I also had my 2 sisters, 1 of my SILs and my best friend so I was fairly confident that that wasn’t going to change. I asked them all in person – I didn’t arrange anything special, just waited until the next time I saw them.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

We booked our venue exactly a year out, and I asked my bridesmaids about a month later when we were all out to dinner (so 11 months before the wedding). I put together boxes for them: bathing suit, candle, straw clutch, bottle opener, some candy, face masks, a swell bottle and a card that said “Ain’t no party like a bridal party” in rose gold foil. The boxes were wooden and I painted them light pink. My MOH’s box was slightly different a little more $$, but she received hers separately. I liked this article when I was pulling them together: http://moderndaydreamliving.com/bridesmaid-proposal-box/

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I’m really extra so I’m hiring an a capella group to surprise them. We like to embarass each other so this is fine and funny to us and all my friends were in a capella groups back in college so loloool. 

I originally wanted to elope and not even have any of this so now that I’m having a small wedding, I figured I’d just have fun with it every step of the way.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I asked the week or two after the engagement. It was my sister and sister-in-law, and I was 18 months out before the wedding. There was no way we were going to get close to 12 months out from the wedding without either one asking who my bridesmaids would be haha. So the conversations went like this –

Sister: So, who will be your maid of honour?

Me: You are going to be. Well, if you say yes.

and

Sister-in-law: I think it will be way easier if we do sausages for Emilia’s first birthday party.

Me: Oh, I just remembered! Do you want to be my bridesmaid?

So definitely nothing formal from me haha.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Half of my bridal party is far away, and half are my sisters. I knew who I wanted to stand up there with me before I was even engaged, and when I finally did get engaged, I asked all the girls around 2 months later, some before others. I was visiting the distant ones at Christmastime, so I asked them when we went to a waffle house. 

I wanted everyone to have something tactile to remember the moment, because the engagement is gonna be long and distance is going to be a bear for this wedding planning. I wanted them to feel involved, even though they aren’t going to be as involved as they would be if they lived nearby. 

So I gave them cards! Specifically, I gave them this one, because it matches my wedding colors:

https://www.zazzle.com/rustic_boho_chic_will_you_be_my_bridesmaid_cards-256620327263906882 

(Except my maid of honor’s card said “Maid of Honor” of course)

They absolutely loved them. All six girls still have theirs and they’re pinned to their refrigerators or bulletin boards. I’m glad I did it this way 🙂 

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