(Closed) When Are Invites Going Out?

posted 6 years ago in December 2012
  • poll: Which month are you mailing them?
    July : (1 votes)
    3 %
    August : (5 votes)
    17 %
    September : (9 votes)
    30 %
    October : (11 votes)
    37 %
    November : (2 votes)
    7 %
    Already mailed them in (month here) : (2 votes)
    7 %
    Other- explain : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    You should send you invitations our 8-10 weeks before the wedding with an RSVP date 3-4 weeks before the wedding (unless you absolutely need to know earlier for final counts). It’s polite to give your guests as much time as possible (on the back end… i.e. closer to your wedding) to decide and make arrangements.

    Post # 4
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    359 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’m sending mine out pretty early, shooting for mid Aug with a Sept 30 RSVP deadline – however, 80% of my guests have to fly in so that is why I’m sending early.

    Post # 5
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    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We’re sending ours out in early Sept with an Oct 31st deadline

    Post # 6
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    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Just a warning about early invitations (and take it for what it’s worth… for some people it’s still the best option): when you send invitations too early, people cannot make plans yet. It’s often too early to ask for time off work or to anticipate certain personal and work schedules or to know if the finances will work out. And, since the wedding date and the RSVP date seem like forever away, the invitation gets placed in the deal-with-you-later pile and often gets forgotten about until the bride calls 3 weeks before the wedding wondering where the RSVP card is. 8-10 weeks is the established window for a reason. It gives your guests enough time to get plane tickets and hotel rooms, but it’s late enough to secure a baby sitter or ask for time from work, etc. If you set an RSVP date too early, those guests who are unsure about whether they can come will be forced to say no becuase they just don’t know yet. Many employers won’t promise someone a day off from work 2 or 3 months in advance, but they will 3 or 4 weeks in advance.

    If you are worried about alerting your guests to the need to make travel arrangements and it’s for a high travel time (which December often is), that’s what Save-the-Dates are for.

    Post # 9
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    319 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’m in a “I’m not sure what to do” situration.  Wedding is December 30th but I have to have final numbers (and payment) due on November 30th.  I would like to have a week before to follow up with any unanswerd RSVP’s, but that’s Thanksgiving weekend, so I’m thinking the Monday before (Nov. 19th).  My question is: should I send them out early and give guests plenty of time to decide travel.  It’s in Colorado so semi-destination—about 90% will have to fly/book rooms.  But I also don’t want the invites sitting in people’s homes too long where they forget to RSVP.  Ughg….

    Right now, I’m thinking Mid October.  That gives guests almost 5 weeks to RSVP!  Good AND bad.  lol

    Post # 10
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    28 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I am thinking the beginning of September, for our Dec 1 wedding. For the RSVP date, I thought Oct 15th. But is it too early, it will be 6 weeks before the wedding?? Personally, I’d like to know as soon as possible how many are coming and how many won’t be able to make it (we have a small wedding).

    Post # 11
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    1342 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Our wedding is December first.  My goal is to have them in the mail October first with a November first RSVP deadline.  

    Post # 12
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    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I mailed mine out the end of July which is early by “normal standards. However I have a large number of ppl coming from out of the country and some of them need the invitations in order to secure their US visas. Others need to schedule their vacations months in advance, especially since the wedding is right before Christmas season. I gave a large RSVP window so I asked for responses by October 15th.

    Post # 13
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    i was thinking first week ov nov. for a 12/22 wedding. is that too late?

    Post # 14
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    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I haven’t even ordered my invites yet – but plan to mail them out in September with a 31.10 rsvp date (1st nov just feels a bit late!)

    That hasn’t stopped a large number of family repeatedly asking when I’m sending them. Its driving me slightly nuts. They all know the date / venue so can reserve rooms at hotel but they seem to want the invite first.

    Note – we are a small family so they all know that they are ALL invited.

    Post # 15
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    664 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We are having a big wedding.  We sent out save the dates, so our invites are going to go out around October 17th so they are in mailboxes exactly 8 weeks before.  Not sure when the RSVP deadline will be, but probably around November 24th (before thanksgiving!)

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