Post # 1
I’m in Britain and the tradition (here at least) seems to be: sitdown meal, speeches, evening guests arrive, cake-cutting, first dance, buffet comes out later.
This kind of doesn’t make sense to us because the all-day guests will be full from the meal and won’t want cake so soon. We definitely want to cut the cake during the evening reception, not earlier.
Would it be weird to do things in the following order:
– Evening guests arrive
– Band plays first set of 45 minutes
– Band takes a break, we cut the cake
– Evening buffet is served, and cake is cut up and served
– Band plays some more
I think it makes sense, but have never seen the cake cut at this point ever and that’s making me question myself! Surely if it was the most sensible time to do it, more people would? I’ve thought about this too much and would really appreciate some objective input…
Post # 3
I think it’s your wedding and you can do whatever you want (within reason). Youc an cut the cake when it suits you, you don’t have to follo tradition.
I am wondering though, why you have all day guests and then evening guests? Do the all day guests get fed twice?
Post # 4
Well, for me, cake = dessert. So cutting the cake should be after you eat dinner… for dessert… makes sense to me.
Post # 5
@Moomin: My best friend did it the way you suggested and it was fine, do it your way it’s your day
Post # 6
My sister cut the cake before dinner and no one cared. It wasn’t served until after dinner though.
Post # 7
@bridalprincess it’s a British wedding, we do things a little differently. Generally, all-day guests come to the ceremony (around 1 or 2pm), sitdown meal and speeches – our meal consists of family, the bridal party and people who’ve travelled from afar (about 65 people.
The evening party starts around 7.30pm and consists of the first dance, cake-cutting, entertainment (band, DJ, whatever) and some kind of buffet or finger food for people to take if they want. You assume most all-day guests won’t, but they can if they like. Most venues and caterers can suggest a sensible estimate of how much food to provide for the evening based on your numbers.
Sorry for any confusion, I’m only just realising how differently we do things compared to, say, the US!
@happyface again, just realising how differently you guys do things. We’ll be serving dessert at our sitdown meal and cutting the cake during our reception which are two different parts of the wedding here!
Thanks for the replies 🙂