(Closed) “When are you getting engaged?”…I’m sick ot it!

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

People dont quite ask “when are you getting engaged” anymore…its progressed to the “are you engaged yet?” stage. people do ask him all the time when he is going to propose though…he tells me it happens at least once a week now…lol. My answer is always “not yet!” with a big smile on my face. Im becoming the worlds best little actress. because deep inside i just want to frown and give them the evil eye.

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Awww… I know how you ladies feel!

My fiance asked for my parents blessing about a month and a half before he proposed (the ring was being made, it took forever!) and of course my mom told everyone about it (she even posted a FB status about it!). A lot of my family thought I WAS engaged and at a family party, everyone was asking to see my ring. That I didn’t have yet. Sooo awkward. Then all my friends and family would ask when it would happen and it was SO frustrating because I didn’t know! By then I was sooo ready to be engaged, that someone bringing it up would make me so upset and almost start crying. Even when you know it’s coming soon, it is SO HARD. The worst was when my Grandma in front of everyone looks at my Fiance and asks “So when are you going to finally get down on one knee?” It was so embarrassing.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

I’m in the same boat as you!  Everyone asks me and I say….I don’t know…ask him!  I wish I knew!!!!!  Don’t worry, just keep being strong and it will happen for us someday!

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I totally understand how you feel.  Another one of my good friends just got engaged and as happy as I am for her, I’m also like when is it going to be my turn?  Waiting is seriously rough.  Even though my bf and I have definitely talked a lot about getting engaged and I know it’s coming, it’s still really hard!

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Many years ago at a relative’s wedding an inconsiderate older relative asked me if *I* ever thought about getting married.  I had broken up with my ex-FI several years before (and she knew this) and had not dated anyone seriously in years.  I responded that I was planning it for after her funeral, but she didn’t hear me and my mom dragged me out before I could repeat myself. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

OK so Im a bartender and today I had a customer shamelessly flirt with me. He was older, like 40-50, so I smiled and nodded along..UNTIL he told me that I must have one lucky HUSBAND..ugh..

I quickly replied with “Well I dont have a husband, but I have a great boyfriend of 5 yrs! ” (through gritted teeth might I add).

Today was just rough..all day the servers were pestering me about BF proposing (they think its such a huge joke) and I swear every customer today was talking about weddings, engagements etc..cruel joke I tell ya!

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

@Ms. Teddy.. I so get that two now.. “are you engaged yet?” lol.. Somedays when me and the SO talk I think its coming ultra soon.. Other days I dont think its coming for awhile. It sucks waiting.. ugh!

Post # 24
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665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve now been asked so many times people don’t ask anymore. Thats sad, but then again nice, b/c I was so sick of it…

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’ve made it my lifetime resolution to not ask people that anymore – it really sucks when you’re asked and you just want to say “well, I hope anytime now, but it’s not really in my control.”

So, to survive, I had decided to tell people “Well, what makes you think BF hasn’t already asked and I said “no”?” Luckily for FH, he proposed before I could unleash that one on his family 🙂

Post # 26
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333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I was cornered at our nephew’s baptism party by my FBIL’s GRANDMOTHER.  “When are you getting engaged?” And then when I told her I wasn’t sure, she went on a rant about how we should just wait some more anyway.  The proposal was two weeks away but I didn’t know that yet.  I left the room in tears. I cannot, for the life of me, understand why some people feel it is their God-given right to push their nose into other people’s business. 

Now all we get is “When are you going to have baaaaaaaaaaabies?”  *sigh*  When we’re good and ready, that’s when. 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Oh ladies YES! I hear you. We have a completely strange (to me) situation. We have a wedding date. We have booked pieces of the wedding (ceremony/reception/florist) yet I don’t have a stinking RING! Generally you think that comes with the date, right? *sigh. In order to get the venue we wanted and not have to wait until 2012 for the date we had to book it but I feel like so much of the romance has been taken from the situation. Don’t get me wrong, we’ve been together for years, own a home and vehicles together, and the main thing is that I am married at the end of the day. I love him–I just never saw this as my “un-engagement” period of wedding planning. Only our closest friends and family who are in the wedding know about the date so people ask ALL the time other than them “when?! when?!”. I inherited my great-grandmother’s wedding ring over the holidays and wear it on my right hand, I was so embarrassed at a bridal fair because people immediately look at your left hand that I moved it over! I actually had to ask him whether we would be engaged “officially” by the time we wanted to get our engagement photos taken…there is something WRONG here!

Ok–off my soap box. Just needed a little venting. Thanks 🙂

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I feel your pain!  We were at a couples’ shower last weekend, and the bride’s mom (who I’ve met once) saw me and before even saying hello, she says, “Are you two engaged yet?”  I smiled and replied, “Nope.  Not yet.”  Then she says, “Wow.  I thought you guys would’ve been engaged a long time ago.  Gina has been engaged for over a year now, and she’s a lot younger than you.” 

Thanks, lady!  I hadn’t noticed.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Ugh, yes! A year and a half ago I kept getting asked at a rehearsal dinner for a wedding I was in “Aren’t you next?” Well, no, two weddings later it’s still not my turn! I finally said “Why don’t you just go ask him yourself?”. Gah.

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