Post # 1
My husband and I will be married for four years this October. We know that isn’t a long time to be married, but it also seems like the years have flown by.
I wonder when a couple is no longer considered newlyweds. I would think that after the first year, the newlywed label and feelings go out the window.
When I reflect on our relationship, I realize that we missed the happy excitement of being engaged, planning a wedding and being newlyweds. We had serious challenges during that time with our families and our own issues. I’m glad that everything has calmed down considerably. Life is happier for both of us and we rarely argue. I’m so glad we never gave up on our marriage. Our vow renewal next year is partly to celebrate coming through all of that hardship. We are excited about it and so is my family since they weren’t at our wedding. My husband is much more involved in the planning this time; he picked the venue and our invitations.
When is a couple no longer newlyweds?
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I think it’s “technically” after a year, but “newlywed” is a mindset more than a set time frame. We had that newlywed bliss for the first 18ish months, and then we hit a major roadblock in our relationship that knocked us out of that mindset. Do we still love eachother very much? Of course. But it’s not the innocent, floating on air, blissed out love that characterized the first 18 months of our marriage.
Post # 3
I would say after the 1st year. I still think that even after the first 6 months… but it really depends on the couple. I dont consider a couple that has been together 5+ years & have been living together for a while, before getting married to be newly weds. Thats just me.
For a couple thats known each other 2 years (including their engagement period) and gets married and have never lived together… thats more the “newly wed” that I think of. Thats a couple going through more transitions and changes in their relationship, than the couple thats been together for years and years and just waited to make it official.
Post # 4
I felt like a newlywed for maybe a month or so. After that, I dunno… I just felt like we had been married for SO LONG lol. I think it’s because we’ve been living together for 5 years already.
Post # 5
I am pretty certain that you are only considered newlyweds for the first year of marriage.
One of my married girlfriends is definitely now out of the newlywed phase. She and her husband can now go five minutes without touching each other 😛
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I agree with the 1 year mark. But I also agree it’s more of a mindset, and on that perspective, it’s quite variable.
Post # 7
My husband and I lived together for over a year before we got married and that may be part of the reason we never felt like newlyweds. I notice that the giddy excitement that I felt when we met has been replaced by a more secure and deeper love.
We are still very affectionate and enjoy doing things together. We also tend to feel giddy and especially romantic when we take a minibreak. It is amazing what a night or two away can do.
Post # 8
The newlywed period was over a lot quicker than PP have said. For us, it was the day after we got married. We had our honeymoon five months after we got married. By then we were settled down, my name was changed, day to day life was no different. We’re not without our fair share of troubles, but we are very happy.
Post # 9
For us it was maybe a month? But we had already lived together for a long time and I disn’t change my name so there wasn’t much to get used to! We bought a house a few weeks after we got married so I think the focus shifted to that instead. We are finally going on our honeymoon in June… So maybe the feeling will come back. 😀
Post # 10
I’d say after a year. Once you start having X year anniversaries, you aren’t a newlywed anymore.
Post # 11
I think there is a difference between the “feeling” and the general term. For me, I wouldn’t refer to a couple as a “newlywed” after their first annivesary. But the feeling of being a newlywed depends on every couple, especially if they are experiencing an “adjustment period.”
DH and I dated for 10 years and lived together for 5 years before marriage. So after the wedding, things felt pretty similar. I would say we felt like newlyweds for about a month or two because we were getting used to referring to each other as husband and wife, and I had a new last name.
Post # 12
We celebrated our first anniversary in March. In some ways it ended after 6 months or so as we have had a lot of challenges (which in some ways have brought us closer but it hasn’t all been happy!). Having said that, we hug, kiss, say we love each other and say how lucky we are to have each other many times each day. So in some ways we are still newlyweds 🙂
Post # 13
That’s wonderful. My husband and I are still very affectionate and romantic.
It is much sweeter than when we met seven years ago because of all the history we have.
Post # 14
How long is a piece of string? If you think about it, “newlywed” literally means that you were married recently. Words like “newly” and “recently” and “soon” are kinda subjective. A couple who have been married for 40 years might look at a couple celebrating their 2nd anniversary and think “Ah, newlyweds” whereas someone else might think “Sure they’ve been married for ages.”
Off topic, if you’re talking babies a “newborn” is a baby under two weeks. I remember being pleased that I could call my baby a “newborn” for that long.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar
PositiveThinking: I been married for only 2 months and i know i am certain in the honeymoon stage but before getting married i was dating my husband for 11 years. We have always had that relationship where it feels fresh and new. It has never changed even after dating for so long…and it feels the same now that we are married…