Post # 1
Fiance is in charge of making the invitations and isn’t making much progress. We did Save the Date emails in late December as I have to put in for extensive vacation time for the whole year in January and thought others might as well.
We’re having a smaller wedding, noone who will be invited doesn’t know about it, and some have booked in the room block already. That said, I’m feeling a need to prepare for Plan B invitations and being disappointed, even though my Wedding for Dummies books says a month to six weeks in advance of the date is perfectly acceptable.
When are you sending yours?
Post # 3
So, the earliest you should send them etiquette wise is about 8 weeks before with an RSVP of a month before — so for you, sending them around June 15th or so would be right given your wedding date in your profile.
B-lists are incredibly rude and you should not do them. How would you feel if you knew you were not good enough to be invited outright to a wedding? Invite everyone at the same time… If people decline, which they will, then they decline, but you should not have a replacement list.
Post # 4
I’m planning on sending them around the last week of May or the first week of June. In fact, I’ve been working on them this weekend, and practicing my handwriting for the addresses.
Post # 5
@firefliesinthesky: We have the same date! I am planning on doing the same. My Fiance thinks that during May is too early, but my plan is to mail them on/around May 27. I have the whole last week off in May, so I would like to use that time to stuff/seal/label invites and then get them out the door.
OP, I have read that 8-10 weeks is considered acceptable. Also, I don’t think anyone is going to go crazy on you for airing on the early side….they might if you go too far on the late side though. But given that you have sent out Save the Dates, everyone should be aware the wedding is coming anyway.
Post # 6
We are sending ours mid June ish, latest is the third week of June. Our wedding is August 31, so we have a good amt of time 🙂 coming quick though!
Post # 7
My wedding is June 26th, and I mailed my invitations last week.
Im having a small, upscale vineyard reception, and our ceremony is in a large, old historic church. We only have only 41 guests, all of whom are Family, SO’s of family, and close family friends (and their SO’s). I skipped out on RSVPs bc they are were nt necessary for us, and and went ahead and put save the dates in with the invitations. 🙂
Post # 8
We’ve already hand-delivered some, mailed out others to the bridal party/celebrities (haha), and plan on dropping the rest in the mail at the end of the month.
Post # 9
we sent ours about 6 weeks before, I know another girl who is getting married about 2 weeks after me that sent hers 4 months out and she has had a lot of trouble getting them back, i think if you give too much time people forget and dont send back rsvps i would say the 4-6 weeks is enough time unless you are getting married on a holiday weekend or have a lot of people coming from out of state
Post # 10
@jsanford: we will be sending ours out this week, simply because half of our guest list is coming from out of town, and it will be Labor Day weekend. I’d rather have peace of mind and send them a little earlier than usual.
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
@TattedNYBride: Just a warning that sending them too early usually lowers on time response rate instead of raising it because guests set the invitation aside and forget about it.
OP, 6 weeks is just about perfect for most weddings. Sometimes, 8 may be necessary is the response date must be early (for venue requirements… the later the RSVP in general, the more responses you will get because you’ll have given your guests the courtesy of the opportunity to make the best decision they can) or the wedding it on a holiday weekend or people are traveling from oversees.
Post # 12
We have ours, but aren’t addressing them and mailing them out until the beginning of June!
Post # 13
@mrsSonthebeach: I do understand and if I have to have my mother remind people I can, but just from looking at hotels in the area, some of them are completely booked already because of the holiday. We did send save the dates, but my entire family is traveling and will need to stay overnight and I want to make sure they have the time necessary to make arrangements. I would hate to have people decline simply because six weeks out they couldn’t find an available hotel room.
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
We just sent our invitations out yesterday! Our invitation deadline is July 17 which is also our hotel block’s reservation deadline, which was our main reason for sending out early. At least half our guests are out of towners and we’ve already gotten a few inquiries on hotel information and wondering where our invitations are etc. I will say that the 6-8 week rule is probably good to go with, but if you have a lot of out of town guests, I think earlier is the better way to go.
Post # 15
We are sending ours out on May 31 and have our response dealine set for July 15! Just ordered the invitations tonight=)
Post # 16
Save the Dates went out in January and I am sending invitations out by the end of the month. My RSVP date is July 1st.