(Closed) When are you supposed to open and cash checks?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

You actually can send a thank-you note for gifts received before the wedding as you receive them. You don’t have to wait until after the wedding. Your guests will appreciate knowing you received the gift!

And I’d definitely recommend cashing those checks as soon as you can (and sending the thank you), so you’re not tying up your generous friends’ and family’s money for any longer than necessary!

Post # 4
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We have been cashing any cheques that have come in when we got them. Mainly because any that have come with my name on need to be banked before I go and change my name as they currently have my (will be) maiden name on. We also want to earn the interest! We will write our thank you notes to say what the money will be used towards. 

Personally, I don’t think it is right to use money from people to help you out prior to the wedding. It should be for any gifts that were unpurchased or, maybe, long term house projects. That is what we are putting the money towards. 

Others may have different opinions and that’s fine.

Post # 5
8694 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

you should open the gifts and send thank yous when you receive them.  they say just don’t use the gifts before the wedding.

i received a gift a little over two months out.  we opened the giftwrapped box but put the actualy item in the basement until after the wedding.  i sent the thank you note that week.


Post # 6
3226 posts
Sugar bee

@Kingler1016:  Trust me, for your own peace of mind, you should go ahead and open them and then send a card immediately. You will be overwhelmed after the wedding. I probably received half the gifts before the wedding and the other half after the wedding. It’s a lot better to have half done before the wedding in a span of let’s say two months than to write them all after! On top of that, it lets the gift giver know that you received the gift.

Post # 7
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Considering these are checks, I would just cash them immediately. I personally hate writing checks because I hate constantly checking my account to make sure the recipient has cashed it and it throws off my personal accounting in the meantime.

Post # 8
3265 posts
Sugar bee

@Kingler1016:  Unfortunately you are mistaken.  You are supposed to thank everyone in a timely fashion.  Etiquette experts give 3 month maximum to send them from the time they are received. 

The gold standard is to send them the night a gift is received.

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