(Closed) What to do when bridal party doesn't feel comfortable in your color palette?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 110
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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@ akshali2000   I think I would take your bridesmaids to a salon that has dresses in the colors you like for them to try on. Seeing the colors on them will either help you see that it actaully wont look good & you’ll be more willing to make some adjustments, or will help them see that your colors are fine on them. I picked the color of my bridesmaid’s dresses and they paid for them. However, I did make sure both attendants were OK with my color choice before finalizing my decision.

Post # 111
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Busy bee

What about having the bridesmaid dresses in a more neutral color (champagne, black, etc.) but having them wear sashes in coral/blush? Or even have the neutral colors but make the bouquets coral/blush? That way they’ll still match everything but they’ll overall be in a more flattering color.

Post # 112
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Bee Keeper

I found a bunch of swatches perhaps the middle is a good place? Would that still work with your vision? And then the flowers can be a pale gradation of the colors they are wearing? And your bouquet can have the pale a bright(er) colors together? 

Post # 113
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Buzzing bee

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@ akshali2000   paying for asking/thank you gifts is kind of irrelevant. You can’t tell them ‘I bought you a gift, so you have to spend $150 on a dress you hate.’ Bouquets, jewelry and robes (if you want them to have them for matching pictures) falls into that category. 

Paying for the hotel room is very nice. But I still am not sure you can say ‘I paid for your hotel room, so suck it up and buy the dress you hate for $150’. 

Post # 114
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Helper bee

I have been reading some of these posts.  Sounds like there all sorts of suggestions that might work but you will have to compromise.

 

1.  Go for an ombre effect and let the two maids who have the issue with the color choose their hue of it.

2.  Buy the dresses yourself.  Skip the hotel room and other gifts – wouldn’t that be the cost of the dress. 

3.  Choose another coordinating color as suggested a neutral ie champagne or black and add a sash in the color you want and bouquet.  I do admit that the pale peach is a more problematic color than most – though I also would think darker skinned ladies would fair better than fair skinned.  I think th ecolor issue is not that the girls will look horrible especially if they are brown skinned but not the best color.  There is a huge difference from horrid to just not the best or most complementary color.

Post # 115
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Busy bee

Buy their dresses? Tradition or no tradition, I won’t want to pay hundreds of dollars for a dress that doesn’t even look nice on me. Sure, I’ll do all your DIY decor, help you pick your dress, listen to your complaints about the vendors for months and so on, but sorry I’m not going to throw my money down the gutter.

It’s stupid to call it a “tradition” that the bridesmaids buy their own dresses. The default, yes, but is it so hard to pay a fraction of what you paid for your entire wedding to buy your Bridesmaid or Best Man a dress so she can stand up there for you? I mean, if they’re not that important, you know you can just demote them. 

I bought my BMs their dresses. Half of them love the dresses so much (it was exactly their kind of style) they offered to pay me back so they can wear it again to black tie functions. The others don’t care for the style, but they would wear it because I bought them the dresses so they didn’t really mind, it was just for a few hours. 

Post # 116
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Helper bee

I have been reading some of these posts.  Sounds like there all sorts of suggestions that might work but you will have to compromise.

1.  Go for an ombre effect and let the two maids who have the issue with the color choose their hue of it.

2.  Buy the dresses yourself.  Skip the hotel room and other gifts – wouldn’t that be the cost of the dress. 

3.  Choose another coordinating color as suggested a neutral ie champagne or black and add a sash in the color you want and bouquet.  I do admit that the pale peach is a more problematic color than most – though I also would think darker skinned ladies would fair better than fair skinned.  I think th ecolor issue is not that the girls will look horrible especially if they are brown skinned but not the best color.  There is a huge difference from horrid to just not the best or most complementary color.

Post # 117
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

all of my bridesmaids were super pale and they actually hated every dress I chose (light pinks) and it was so frusterating! They said it blended it with their skin tone and they were right. It was hard for me because it was the color I envisioned and dreamt my whole wedding around. One of my girls actually found this super nice bright coral/hot pink color and it was so beautiful! I had to call my florist and change all the flowers to sort of match, and on my wedding day I was actually SO happy to have bold and bright pink flowers incorporated into the bouquets. I cant even imagine now how boring and basic the light pink would of been! It felt so fun and fresh and I still had my pinks! Everything happens for a reason, but maybe just open your mind to different shades in your ideal color? I decided to just give the guys white bowties too, because at the time we were unsure, and they wore navy blue suits and it matched so nicely. I’m also happy I didn’t give them pink ties like I originally imagined. You just kind of have to go with the flow, even if it’s frusterating and going against what you initially dream because in the end it might be more amazing than you imagined!

Post # 119
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Helper bee

Going with the flow and a good attitude makes things quite beautiful. One thing I have to say is a lot of people think they know it all but often they don’t know what is best for the body or skin – just saying. Some people don’t have a great eye unfortunately.

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