(Closed) What to do when bridal party doesn't feel comfortable in your color palette?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 123
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Helper bee

I’m Bride’s maid in 2 weddings between now and end Summer next year and I have no idea what the colors of the dresses are, the brides have purchased them and we’re paying them back for it when they come in, so far one bride is undecided on color and the other wants to do a reveal for her BMs together this Christmas.

It’s my one job, make life as easy as possible for the bride (and to some extent the groom) and if that means wearing bubblegum pink for a day, it’s their choice, their day and I’ll do it.

I may untag myself in all the photos posted on Facebook later, but I’ll do it and do it with a smile.

Post # 124
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

akshali2000 :  I always wanted light blush pink for the dresses, but I am glad things turned out the way they did with picking a brighter color. I realized that the blush dresses actually made the bride blend in too easily with the bridesmaids, where the brighter color dresses makes the bride stand out more standing with them. Something to think about.

Post # 125
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

……..bridesmaid “dress reveals” are now a thing?

Fuck me, man.

Post # 126
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Newbee

I was originally going to pay hair and make up, and have my girls pick and pay for a dress they liked in, upon a variation of sage green

Unfortunately, they just kept showing me dresses in turquoise and mint, so i sent them a few links to dresses in a suitable shade of green – while they really liked them, they said that given these still weren’t dresses that they would normally choose and thus wear again, the options I’d shown them were probably a bit too much on the pricey side

So, I changed my tack.  They are now paying their hair and make up, and I am buying the more expensive dresses I showed them, and I will keep the dresses afterwards to sell second hand. 

That way they get to wear dresses on the day that they like enough to feel pretty and comfortable in without having forked out a huge amount of money, I get to have my girls in the colour that I want for my wedding, and I will hopefully recoup a little of the cost

Post # 127
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Wannabee

I can’t fathom why a bridesmaid would even think to ask to alter something about the dress unless it was perhaps a modesty isssue?!? I’ve had to wear and pay for some pretty horrible dresses, but you know what? The bride loved the dress, so when she ask my opinion I just said “you love it so I love it” and that was that. 

Its one freaking day, get with the program or get out.

Post # 130
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

My friends’ comfort and happiness trumps my need for the perfect colour palette.  I honestly love when people allow for varying shades on the same colour grouping, so that everyone can wear a colour that works for them, but everyone still looks like they are intehy sme wedding party.  This is your special day, yes.  But ideally they would enjoy it also and also feel beautiful and comfortable while standing up beside you.

Post # 131
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

You could do a gradient, I know you want the light/dark no real in-between but when I read “half my bridesmaids” I though glass half full and thought of the other half who support whatever colour you chose! You could get them to wear variants and I’m sure that would allow the girls who are pickier to feel as if they had more say. 

You’re going to have a beautiful wedding!

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