Post # 1
Ok so we have been together for three and a half years now, about a year ago we decided that IT was going to happen and we would start saving for our engagement ring and the wedding all good new at this point,
Well it is now round a year later and we are heading in the right direction , we have the stones for the ring and that is the biggest part right?
Well then why are we not engaged yet? yes saving for these things take time but how long I ask you ????? Does the man not know that this is torture!!!!
Post # 3
How is your overall family/living budget right now? Some guys gauge their desire to move ahead based on economical issues.
Post # 4
This is the perspective of, apparently, a very non-traditional bride so take it in that vein, but why can’t you talk to him about this? Getting married is a major life decision for both people involved, and I just feel that it’s odd to leave it all up to only one of them. I suppose you’ve already decided to get married, but a year is a pretty long time ago and it seems that maybe the topic needs to be revisited. If finances are an issue, it’s something you both should talk about *together*…as you’ll certainly have to navigate them together after getting married.
Post # 5
I’m sorry you’re so frustrated! I agree with fizicsgirl – can you talk about this with him? I’m guessing that if you talk enough to know he’s got the stones for the ring, you might be able to bring this up. My FH and I decided we wanted to get married last December, and I’ve had to have ‘check in’ talks now and then to reassure myself because it’s taken a while to save. Not as long as you’ve been waiting, but if I’m this impatient now, I can just imagine how I’d feel in your shoes!!
He may be waiting for the right moment to make it special for you, or for some other life issues to work themselves out. I really thinking discussing it with him might help clear this up. Good luck!
Post # 6
To answer your question…no, he probably doesn’t know its torturing you! He wants to know that you’ll always be with him, but you’ve already made that choice, so he’s happy! I’m pretty sure us ladies crave the whole official-proposal-set-a-date thing way more than most guys, so he’s probably just taking his time and saving up money. You should talk to him – he probably doesn’t even know its bothering you!
Post # 7
Maybe he’s nervous that he is going to fudge it! There is a ton of pressure on guys to do this crazy romantic only in the movies kinda proposal.