Post # 1
I would like to preface this post by stating it is in NO way saying anything against those of you who wear both your wedding and engagement rings all the time. I plan to wear mine together most of the time, but there will be times I’ll only be wearing my band so the engagement ring doesn’t get ruined. I went looking for wedding rings today, not thinking I’d find anything but to get an idea of what styles / widths I like on my finger. One woman at a local shop kept blatantly lying to me about styles of rings (saying something I’ve already seen was impossible) and kept steering me towards tiny, thin bands with diamonds, even though I’d already said I don’t want diamonds in my wedding ring. I’ve tried on my engagement ring with diamond bands, I don’t like them. I want something that can be worn alone, and isn’t so thin and delicate I’ll be afraid to wear it all the time. Apparently this store only carries diamond bands for ladies, so I had to try on men’s wedding bands…which was no help. And everytime she showed me a diamond ring, she kept saying things like ‘Well, you want it to accent your engagement ring’ or ‘You really want the focus to be on your engagement ring, not your wedding band’. Now, I realize I may be in the minority over here, but I do want the focus on my wedding ring. I want people to see my finger and know, beyond a doubt, that I am married and not engaged which is why I don’t want the matching band to my ring, which is such a perfect match they look like one ring when put together. I understand some women don’t agree with me, but this saleswoman should not have repeatedly taken my wishes and tried to change my mind. My engagement ring is a trinket, the wedding ring that he slips on my finger the day I become his wife is what I care about. I was in the store for 10 minutes and can say without a doubt that I will never be back. Why doesn’t anyone get the fact that some women still do want ‘plain’ metal wedding rings?
And, a disclaimer to avoid confusion, it has nothing to do with the fact that my engagement ring is a CZ. My first engagement ring was a beautiful diamond and I felt the same way…the sales people just weren’t as rude or pushy about it.
Post # 3
If your engagement ring is a trinket, and the wedding one the one you care about, then why would you only be wearing your wedding ring and not your engagement ring for fear that it be ruined, instead of leaving the wedding ring off if you’re in a situation where you you have to about your rings?
Post # 4
@MerryWidow: Pushy salespeople are the worst. They should listen instead of constantly talking over the customer. They act like they are making the purchase for you or something. It’s supposed to be your choice. I don’t blame you for being annoyed.
Post # 5
@MerryWidow: are you my long lost twin?
I couldnt agree more. I wanted a plain filigree/etched band with no diamonds and jewelers looked at me cockeyed when I told them no diamonds. I tried on a few with diamonds, and they’re pretty rings, but to me, not a wedding ring. I love my diamond e ring and sometimes I’ll wear a band and sometimes I’ll wear both. Everyone wants different things I guess were a small minority.
Post # 6
I want a plain wedding ring too, I am very traditional
Post # 7
I understand what you mean. I have a friend who was recently married and opted for 2 wedding bands and no ering. In fact, her ering was one of the wedding bands and she added a thin band to it. If they can’t respect that you don’t want to make your ering the biggest consideration in choosing a wedding band then I would definitely find another place to buy from.
Post # 8
We got our etched titanium bands from a store I found online. I mostly didn’t bother with local stores, because they kept pushing me towards gold and diamonds. I have no problem with people who like them, but I dislike both and a typical jeweler could not seem to hear that. It was sort of like if I’d gone to a restaurant and said, “I don’t like chicken, so I want fish.” and was continually told, “Chicken is our most popular dish! You will love it! Everyone else here is having it! Look at this lovely listing of chicken dishes!”
Post # 9
I actually only have one ring….call it engagement, wedding…whatever. He proposed with one and I decided I liked the look of it on its own. Lots of people have asked to see the wedding band and I just say – you’re looking at it! Bottom line is if you want a simple wedding band, go for it! People – do whatever the heck you please! 🙂
Post # 10
@pinkshoes: Sorry, I should explain. I want a plain metal band so I can wear it everyday without worrying about losing stones, or it being thin and fragile. I don’t mean scratches from wear and tear as much as dirt (gardening, changing a flat tire, etc). I work with children, so I’m looking forward to a band that is relatively maintenance-free. Hope that makes more sense!
Everyone else, I’m glad I’m not alone!! My first wedding band was two-tone gold and I wore it everyday until it got ruined and I couldn’t anymore. I gardened in it, went to places I was afraid of wearing my diamonds, it got dirty and scratches (which didn’t bother me, because they came from me living my life while married) it only left my finger for showers (I hate moisture under my rings) and once to have it re-dipped in rhodium and I loved it for that reason! After it was ruined I switched to a diamond band that I thought was beautiful (still do) but it was at the jewelers more than once for loose stones, etc. that I’d never have worried about before.
@MASPA: Your wedding band makes me swoon…seriously!! I think diamonds bands are beautiful, and I wouldn’t mind having one for an anniversary to stack with my wedding band on special occasions…but too high maintenance for my everyday wear
Post # 11
It’s not my style either. My band will be pink gold, that is all.
Post # 13
Wow you are preachin to the choir here! The same thing happened to me. I felt like I was trying to convince the saleslady that it was okay for her to let me try on a plain band! It was really awkward. So I left and went to another store where I purchased my band from – just picked it up last week!
Post # 14
Did you go to a chain store or a local one? I find the chain stores can sometimes be pushy! My local store is amazing! As soon as I walked in they asked me what I was looking for. I said a yellow gold band she said no diamonds or stones right? I said yes & that is exactly what she showed me!
I hate that the sales lady was trying to get you to go for something else. :/ I wouldn’t go back there as you stated & just go else where, where they will respect your wishes!
Post # 15
@MerryWidow: aahhh! gotcha! Time to find a new store and salesperson that will actually listen to their customer! Good luck finding your perfect everyday band!
Post # 16
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: That was the frustrating part, it was a local place! I mean, they have several locations but they’re all around here, Darling Husband1 went to school with the owners son (and said he was a (&)@$#&*…perhaps I should have listened, haha)! On the flip side, I’ve been to chain jewelers in the past who were so friendly, so I think it all depends on the people??
There’s another local place I go to sometimes, and friends of mine dealt with them for their rings (also palladium) so they’re my next stop…just didn’t feel like making the 20 minute drive today. That’ll teach me!