(Closed) When did engagement rings start trumping wedding rings?? VENT

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If your engagement ring is a trinket, and the wedding one the one you care about, then why would you only be wearing your wedding ring and not your engagement ring for fear that it be ruined, instead of leaving the wedding ring off if  you’re in a situation where you  you have to about your rings?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@MerryWidow:  Pushy salespeople are the worst. They should listen instead of constantly talking over the customer. They act like they are making the purchase for you or something. It’s supposed to be your choice. I don’t blame you for being annoyed. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

@MerryWidow:  are you my long lost twin? 

I couldnt agree more.  I wanted a plain filigree/etched band with no diamonds and jewelers looked at me cockeyed when I told them no diamonds.  I tried on a few with diamonds, and they’re pretty rings, but to me, not a wedding ring.  I love my diamond e ring and sometimes I’ll wear a band and sometimes I’ll wear both.   Everyone wants different things I guess were a small minority.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I want a plain wedding ring too, I am very traditional

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

I understand what you mean.  I have a friend who was recently married and opted for 2 wedding bands and no ering.  In fact, her ering was one of the wedding bands and she added a thin band to it.  If they can’t respect that you don’t want to make your ering the biggest consideration in choosing a wedding band then I would definitely find another place to buy from.

Post # 8
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196 posts
Blushing bee

We got our etched titanium bands from a store I found online.  I mostly didn’t bother with local stores, because they kept pushing me towards gold and diamonds.  I have no problem with people who like them, but I dislike both and a typical jeweler could not seem to hear that.  It was sort of like if I’d gone to a restaurant and said, “I don’t like chicken, so I want fish.” and was continually told, “Chicken is our most popular dish!  You will love it!  Everyone else here is having it!  Look at this lovely listing of chicken dishes!”

Post # 9
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127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I actually only have one ring….call it engagement, wedding…whatever. He proposed with one and I decided I liked the look of it on its own. Lots of people have asked to see the wedding band and I just say – you’re looking at it! Bottom line is if you want a simple wedding band, go for it!  People – do whatever the heck you please! 🙂

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 1992

It’s not my style either. My band will be pink gold, that is all.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 1992

oops, double post.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow you are preachin to the choir here! The same thing happened to me. I felt like I was trying to convince the saleslady that it was okay for her to let me try on a plain band! It was really awkward. So I left and went to another store where I purchased my band from – just picked it up last week!

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Did you go to a chain store or a local one? I find the chain stores can sometimes be pushy! My local store is amazing! As soon as I walked in they asked me what I was looking for. I said a yellow gold band she said no diamonds or stones right? I said yes & that is exactly what she showed me! 

I hate that the sales lady was trying to get you to go for something else. :/ I wouldn’t go back there as you stated & just go else where, where they will respect your wishes! 

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MerryWidow:  aahhh!  gotcha!  Time to find a new store and salesperson that will actually listen to their customer!  Good luck finding your perfect everyday band!

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