Post # 1
There was a thread on here earlier where a girl asked what most people would consider a “modest wedding set” and it basically turned into a sh*t show when one commenter decided that the word “modest” was an insult and that anyone participating in the convorsation was somehow attacking someone….I honestly don’t know what the problem was.
(Btw, to that poster if they should come along, I answered the question asked and you got very upset because I said that I would consider anything up to 0.1 modest and that a possible definition for modest would be “just enough to get the point across” and you got incensed saying “that means anything less is not enough”. Less than what? Your response does not make sense in relation to my statement.)
Anyway, it got me wondering, what is so horrible about “modest”? Most likely everything I am planning for my wedding from my cotton wedding dress to my 20ish person guest list to the apple spice sheet cake I will have as my wedding cake could probably be described as modest. Glitz and glam are not everyone’s taste, or definition of romance. The fact that that is offensive to anyone is amusing, I guess, but also confusing. So anyone know what’s up with that? Lol
Post # 3
I think you invest too much in internet fights.
Post # 4
Oh christ, I want apple spice cake now…
Post # 5
Idk and Idc about the other thread but your wedding sounds delightful!
Post # 6
Why the shit-stirring thread?
Post # 7
I, very often, consider modest to be classy!
I guess some can’t see that connection, but I could not care less since I don’t make my choises trying to impress those people, I just am not a very blingy person when it comes to jewellery. 🙂
Post # 8
You’ve inspired me to make apple spice cake tonight!
steen425 : Come over! 😉
Post # 9
nykkee : A word is just a word…. It only becomes a bad one when it is used with malicious intent or to cause upset or pain to someone. Its all about context.
For example ‘ you come from an ethnic background’ can be deemed offensive or it can be a statement of fact. I’ve had that said to me on many an occasion. Its all about tone, context and where they stress the words. I’ve had it said to me as a statement of fact where no offence was meant. I’ve also had it said to me where in pronunciation, stress was put on the YOU and ETHNIC. I took offence to that because it was clear in tone and context that to offend me was the major outcome.
My thoughts are that everyone over thinks things these days…. Only get upset if people deliberately do/say something with malicious intent otherwise move on with your day.
Post # 10
This board always seems to surprise me with how idiotic it gets. But at least it’s always popcorn worthy.
Post # 11
But why post this on the DIY board…?
Post # 12
lightchaser : I didn’t know which board to post it on, so I chose DIY because DIY can be considered modest in comparison to ordering everything premade I guess. I didn’t see “general discussion” as an option. Maybe I’m blind, lol.
Post # 13
Threads created to start drama or call attention to drama are against Weddingbee’s community guidelines and terms of service. We are going to close this thread now.