(Closed) When did Weddings get this way?!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve never been to a wedding with “open” events the whole weekend, but I do work with some people where that fits more in their culture. Maybe people just took that and ran?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It has become crazy!  For the record, I think it’s rude when people expect so much.  For many people (myself included), it’s an honor just to be invited to the wedding.  The Wedding Industrial Complex is ugly.  Don’t worry about what others are doing, do what’s right for you and your Fiance.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Wow…. I have only heard of the “extra” events when it is a Destination Wedding and most of the costs are already covered by the cost of the trip.

We only had a rehearsal and rehearsal dinner (for immediate family and wedding party only), wedding and reception.  Looking back now I wish we would have skipped the rehearsal dinner all together. I almost think the more things you offer, the easier it is for people to forget the main reason why they are there, the wedding itself!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My wedding isn’t going to be anything snazzy, but I am having a Welcome BBQ the day before the rehearsal and a brunch the day after the wedding…but it’s only for family, and it is mainly because a lot of people are coming from out of town/state. My family is Italian though, and I think it is kind of cultural in that regard. But, for us, it’s not really about a lavish party…it’s more about tons of food, family and laughs.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Lol we’re not even having a rehearsal dinner! I wonder what people must think of me…

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Some people want and do have more, some people less. Both are great as long as you are being true to yourselves (and your budget!)

As a wedding guest, I think I would feel overwhelmed if I felt like I had to participate in two or three days worth of activities. I have heard of brunch the day after the wedding for Out of Town, and maybe a brunch for the wedding party day of just because it’s going to be hectic, but all of it is entirely optional.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m with Miss Smurf, I’m only having a couple of days of events because we are having a Destination Wedding and guests want us to have some organized events where they can get together and mingle.  If we were getting married here it would just be a rehearsal dinner for family and Bridal Party and then the weeding and that’s it.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It has gotten crazy!! I haven’t heard of multiple days events, but that a big wedding and reception are expected to make you in debt for years!

We are not buying into all that. Our wedding is going to be small and intimate and not a fancy meal. We have babys’ bums to keep clean and looking at buying a house next year.

I agree with what was said earlier, it should be an honor enough to be invited to a wedding and not have the big expectations that are now. What happened to simply enjoying the sight and being part of 2 people joining their lives in love?

Sorry for the rant, but it does bother me, I believe that you don’t need to be broke or in debt to enjoy the ceremony of marriage. Simply my opinion Tongue Out

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