Post # 1
I’m feeling overwhelmed. My friends’ weddings had a rehearsal dinner that was for the wedding party and parents, so it was intimate. Then, the wedding is next day followed by a reception, whatever kind it may be. And that’s it. That’s how ours will be.
But I feel like so much more is expected.
Three of my cousins recently got married and they were days long events that included the rehearsal dinner opened to everyone and anyone invited the night before, the day of the wedding there was a brunch, followed by the wedding, followed by an Oscar party worthy receptions, and the next day there was another brunch. Not to mention how the bar in the hotel was open for the three days these events took place, no matter the time.
When I tell people of our plan, I get looks and responses of, “That’s it?”
When did weddings become a paid vacation with multiple days’ meals included?
Post # 3
I’ve never been to a wedding with “open” events the whole weekend, but I do work with some people where that fits more in their culture. Maybe people just took that and ran?
Post # 4
It has become crazy! For the record, I think it’s rude when people expect so much. For many people (myself included), it’s an honor just to be invited to the wedding. The Wedding Industrial Complex is ugly. Don’t worry about what others are doing, do what’s right for you and your Fiance.
Post # 5
Wow…. I have only heard of the “extra” events when it is a Destination Wedding and most of the costs are already covered by the cost of the trip.
We only had a rehearsal and rehearsal dinner (for immediate family and wedding party only), wedding and reception. Looking back now I wish we would have skipped the rehearsal dinner all together. I almost think the more things you offer, the easier it is for people to forget the main reason why they are there, the wedding itself!
Post # 6
My wedding isn’t going to be anything snazzy, but I am having a Welcome BBQ the day before the rehearsal and a brunch the day after the wedding…but it’s only for family, and it is mainly because a lot of people are coming from out of town/state. My family is Italian though, and I think it is kind of cultural in that regard. But, for us, it’s not really about a lavish party…it’s more about tons of food, family and laughs.
Post # 7
Lol we’re not even having a rehearsal dinner! I wonder what people must think of me…
Post # 8
Some people want and do have more, some people less. Both are great as long as you are being true to yourselves (and your budget!)
As a wedding guest, I think I would feel overwhelmed if I felt like I had to participate in two or three days worth of activities. I have heard of brunch the day after the wedding for Out of Town, and maybe a brunch for the wedding party day of just because it’s going to be hectic, but all of it is entirely optional.
Post # 9
I’m with Miss Smurf, I’m only having a couple of days of events because we are having a Destination Wedding and guests want us to have some organized events where they can get together and mingle. If we were getting married here it would just be a rehearsal dinner for family and Bridal Party and then the weeding and that’s it.
Post # 10
It has gotten crazy!! I haven’t heard of multiple days events, but that a big wedding and reception are expected to make you in debt for years!
We are not buying into all that. Our wedding is going to be small and intimate and not a fancy meal. We have babys’ bums to keep clean and looking at buying a house next year.
I agree with what was said earlier, it should be an honor enough to be invited to a wedding and not have the big expectations that are now. What happened to simply enjoying the sight and being part of 2 people joining their lives in love?
Sorry for the rant, but it does bother me, I believe that you don’t need to be broke or in debt to enjoy the ceremony of marriage. Simply my opinion