(Closed) When did you and FI talk living arrangements?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: When did you and FI start looking for a home
    Had a house before we got engaged : (15 votes)
    18 %
    Lived together in apartment/ other before we got engaged : (52 votes)
    63 %
    Bought a house shortly before the wedding : (6 votes)
    7 %
    Bought a house after the wedding and have NOT lived together : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Bought a house after the wedding : (0 votes)
    Other... Explain below :) : (9 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    FI’s lease is about to run out, so we’re going to look for apartments together. I’m going to help him pay rent, but still live at my parents’ house until the wedding. I’ll move in with him then :).

    Post # 4
    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We have been living together in various apartments for 4 years (or something like that, I’m starting to loose track)… we talk about buying a house and are planning on doing so RIGHT after the wedding.

    Post # 5
    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We’ve been together for 4.5 years and have lived together in an apartment for 3.5 of those years.

    Post # 6
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We bought our hourse 4 months before the wedding, completed remoldeling projects, and then moved in when we came home from our honeymoon.

    Post # 7
    5572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We bought a house after we had been together about a year, a little less than a year before we got engaged. I love our house and have loved the experience of making it ours, I wouldn’t change the way we did things.

    Post # 8
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    About a year before we got engaged I started talking about buying a house alone. My Fiance said that he would like me to wait because he wanted to buy a house together. I said I wouldn’t buy a house WITH him until I was at least engaged. Fast forward a year, we get engaged, start looking for houses within a month, and buy one 3 weeks later. Yay! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 9
    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We moved in together after about five months of dating… his lease was up and apartment hunting in NYC is crazy.

    I wouldn’t be surprised if it takes us 5-10 years (or even longer!) after getting married to actually look at buying a place together, but that’s because we’re kind of nuts and seriously considering living in San Francisco and New York at the same time…

    Post # 10
    3977 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We’re getting an apartment before the wedding but only I’m going to live there. He’ll move all his stuff in before the wedding and then we’ll come back to it after the honeymoon.

    Post # 11
    53 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    We live in the city so it’s way to expensive. We rent our own apartments now but I’m moving in with him after the wedding. I imagine we’ll look to maybe buy a place in 5 or so years, but I’m not in a rush ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 12
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    He already owned a house, I moved in with him before we got engaged. Now we’re married and looking for a bigger house. Personally, I wouldn’t want to own with him until I was married. I know people do it and it works out fine, but it’s just not for me.

    Post # 13
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We moved into our first apartment together about a year into our relationship, and so far we still live in an apartment 3 years and one engagement later. We’re talking about buying a house later this year though, which will be “engaged, before the wedding.”

    Post # 14
    4546 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I moved into DH’s apartment after two months (when we were still just dating). 6 months after that we moved to a two bedroom apartment so it had room for all our stuff. Now, 5 months into marriage, we’re looking into a house!

    Post # 15
    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We each had a house.  He is selling his, moving into mine (officially) and we are going to redo the basement family room together.

    Post # 16
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We knew we were moving cross-country within a year of marriage, so we never looked to buy where we currently are (couldn’t take any more Boston winters!!). We lived together about 6 months before we were engaged. I never would have actually purchases a home without us being married first though. Probably one of the few things i’m more traditional about – no marriage certificate, no mortgage together. I wanted that protection, at least! Houses are so expensive both where we live and where we are moving (think $500,000 for a two bedroom house) that we would have needed to wait regardless just to save more for the 20% down payment!

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